#deeky

it’s me! i think i look cute here

uhh you can ask me questions i guess? but i might not answer anything embarrassing!

Seriously? Sperm bank for lesbians?  Is it just me or is that gross?  I loath that man.

https://twitter.com/DeekyMD/with_replies

Melissa does things to foster a sense of community at Shakesville and has a “lint trap” memory.  If we recognize certain long-time commenters’ names, she does, too.  Yet when she moderates, argues with, and bans people, I haven’t seen her make concessions for long-time Shakers or acknowledge people’s contributions to the community.  During the “Simpons” argument with dhudson, she made a remark about dhudson’s comments in another thread, but that was bitter and snarky.  Does anyone remember a moment where instead of escalating tensions and cursing, she tried to de-escalate and told someone, “You’ve been a commenter here for such a long time, I don’t think that you’d intentionally be so hurtful, but you’re making me feel unappreciated and kind of triggered, and here’s why…”  Anything like that?  Does she acknowledge that anyone has earned a “good faith” reading like readers should always give to her?

A separate issue…

After years of being harassed and abused by haters, trolls, misogynists, Bill Donohue’s people, and anyone else, I can see why Melissa would assume the worst from a “hate site.”  If she sees people threatening her beloved Deeky with violence, I don’t blame her for being sensitive.  After years of harassment and threats, I can see why her perspective is different.

I’ve dropped this into a few threads today, but I feel like I can’t wash it off yet. From the Acid Facials post:

Deeks: LOLOLOL right? We should do chemical peels while watching theFlowers in the Attic remake. Liss: Yes! We should! I totally set up my DVR to record it! Deeks: Good idea! I’ll set my DVR right now. Liss: Are you so excited about it? It looks so gross and amazing. Deeks: I’m so excited! I’m prolly gonna jerk off to it! Liss: LOLOLOL!!! It looks so much creepier, i.e. faithful to the book, than that old 80s version. Deeks: Movie gold!

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WHAT THE EVER-LOVING FUCK. This is why we think he’s skeevy, Shakesville. I do not care how ironic he was being.

The commentary about “tits” didn’t bother me terribly…I thought it was inappropriate, but I could see how it could just be casual banter between friends. But! If a friend of mine EVER made this joke around me, I’d never let my nephew near him again! Same goes for anyone thinks a suggestion I watch p*rn with my nephew one day.