jack has silent shutdowns and cries, goes nonverbal. needs to be touched to regulate. stims a lot and goes to sweater town. uses stims that he'd never usually use.
kieran has quiet but big meltdowns. hits things and throws things and needs to be squeezed to regulate.
archie has 3 different types of meltdowns depending on what brings it on:
loud and angry: angry at himself usually. if he can't do something, he keeps trying until he's incredibly frustrated. presents as hitting the desk or his forehead, screwing up/ripping paper, etc
shutdown: standard nonverbal shutdown. no tears. comes on from sensory overload. usually not noticeable until it's been a long while, especially if it's all 4 or 5. will progress into a crying meltdown once he's out of the overwhelming situation, but sometimes not for hours
crying: almost a panic attack, can contain a panic attack within it but it's caused by the autism. big cries, proper sobbing. lots of stimming.
deaves: big and angry. a bit like a tantrum - very distressed + distressing. hits himself. angry tears. will lash out verbally + regret it later. needs it to pass + then will be calmed by a comfort item (sophie giraffe?)