#dealingwithpeerpressure

We've said a lot of things for the past two weeks about #DealingWithPeerPressure and in conclusion everything we've said can summed up in to this particular phrase. . . ALWAYS BE IN CHARGE OF YOURSELF. . . My biggest advice has always been to get purpose, you need a purpose to be in charge. We've talked about my basics of life. Check out previous post. When you're in charge, you control everything about yourself and that's your greatest weapon. Be in charge mentally, your mind is the most important field. . . I will like to hear from you, what have gained from this series, how are you working on yourself, are you affected by peer pressure, do you need help? You can reach out through any of the available medium for help. Send an email, send a text on whatsapp or call 08155265864. I'm waiting to hear from you and help you. . . Happy weekend my people. Enjoy yourself. I love you all. . . . #TPTG #ThePlaceofTruthandGrowth #plugnationng #hustlesmeme #urbanelitehub #YourlifeYourbusiness #Peerpressure #sucess #motivation #lagos #ibadan #Abuja (at Ibadan, Nigeria) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwwD3cmnPUL/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1rzche33bpvzz

Hello guys, it's Friday and yeah, it's the peer pressure day, because all your guys are ballers and you too want to ball yeah? We are concluding the series  #DealingWithPeerPressure tomorrow and this form part of the conclusion. . . The reason why so many young people fall for peer pressure  today is because they love the result more than the process or completely detest the process. Young people just want the outcome but never want to go through the process. . . When you want to be rich like @garyvee or Dangote but you don't love the process of building businesses, it becomes easier for your buddies to convince you to do fraud or rituals to get rich. If you love the process and invest in it, you're sure of the outcome, then you can stand your ground and stay on course. . . The major reason why most young people fall for peer pressure is because they love the outcome they see, and they want to get there very fast, but in life nothing  good and worthwhile comes very fast, you have to build it through a process, when you know this you'll understand that you don't have to rush yourself or do things you don't have to do. . . Jumping the process would never allow you see the best of yourself because you will never be able to grow, growth only happens when you follow the process, if you understand this and you really want to see the best of yourself, you will invest in growth by loving the process. . . Peer pressure is real and you will fall for it if you don't love the process to the outcome that you desire, if you want a particular thing you must love the process it takes to get it, this way, you will never be in the kind of rush that will make you fall for peer pressure. Loving the process makes you bulletproof to peer pressure. Wear it. . . Don't forget to enjoy the weekend. Share this with someone else. 💚💚💚 . . . #TPTG #ThePlaceofTruthandGrowth #plugnationng #urbanelitehub #naijaboosts #YourlifeYourbusiness #Peerpressure #sucess #motivation #lagos #ibadan #Abuja (at Asi, Oyo, Nigeria) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwteTPHHMmr/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1wk6gdi8lfgql

We've been talking about peer pressure for two weeks and our focus has being on how to recognize it and stay away from it, check all the previous post with #DealingWithPeerPressure . . I know you've been wondering, is there any kind of pressure that's positive? A lot of people already said that peer pressure works both ways, positive and negative, a position I don't agree with, I believe peer pressure is all negative but in  face of all that, there a pressure you should allow. . . CRITICISM. If you have friends that sincerely criticise you and mount pressure on you to do the right thing, then you're a lucky person and that's the kind of pressure you shouldn't take for granted. Our time is the time of mind your business, drink water and let your skin glow. Nobody cares about what you're doing.  Friends that constructively criticise you are assest to you. . . CHEER LEADERS. Yeah, sometimes when some of your friends hype you, you feel so much pressure to deliver and if you don't handle that well, you might mess everything up - Lucky you, I'm here to tell you to calm down, take their ginger as motivation and go do you. You don't have to shut them down, cheering should lift your spirit, and whatever pressure that comes with that should motivate you. . . THE REAL. Errrm. Maybe I could've find a better name for them, but I picked that because it depicts what they are, real people. You see, when you have friends or cliques that calls it as it is, it can bring a lot of pressure. This is more than criticism, these ones scolds you for real and tell you things that might hurt, but that's why they say truth is bitter - allow it because it will teach you how to be better, that's the kind of pressure you should allow. . . It's important to know what you can or cannot use to your advantage, that is why you must always be in charge of yourself. Apart from those points mentioned, you must always be able to discern at all times, what is good for you and what is not. . . Please do share with someone who needs to see. 💚💚 . . #TPTG #ThePlaceofTruthandGrowth #plugnationng #nigeria #lifebuilder #motivationalspeaker #naijapearl #urbanelitehub #YourlifeYourbusiness #Peerpressure (at Ibadan, Nigeria) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bwq5YBIH6rJ/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=i8p88xet847m

Good morning guys, these are the finals approach to knowing the difference between peer pressure and your friends giving you an extra push. #DealingWithPeerPressure . . THEY CONTRIBUTE TOWARDS YOUR GROWTH AND NOT LOOK DOWN ON YOU. When friends are giving you extra push, they don't tell you how small you are, rather they will make efforts to help you with moves that can make you better as a person. If the only thing that your friends do is trying to put you down with words about your status or where you are in life - those are friend you should spend less time with, that is the kind of pressure you can do without. . . THEY ARE CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR SUCCESS AND NOT HOW MUCH MONEY YOU HAVE. You see, when all your clique want from you is to buy Benz and spend large and they never care about you making any real impact in life, that is the kind of peer pressure you should do without. If they are not concerned about your success and you achieving your dreams, they can't give you any real push, only bad pressure. . . THEY ACTIVELY GIVE YOU SUPPORT. If people are pushing you to be better, you will see it and you will know it. Friends that don't actively support you in any way are not pushing you to be better. If all they do when you all gather together is talk and talk, if all their words and lifestyle means to you is pressure and they give no morale or physical support, that is bad peer pressure. . . If you take note of these six tips, they will help you to know the difference between peer pressure and your friends giving you an extra push to succeed in life. Tomorrow we will continue the series and talk about the pressure you should allow. . . Share this post with someone. Share through your social media pages. 💚💚 . . . #TPTG #ThePlaceofTruthandGrowth #plugnationng #nigeria #lifebuilder #motivationalspeaker #motivemodes #urbanelitehub #YourlifeYourbusiness #Peerpressure #sucess #motivation #lagos #ibadan #Abuja (at Ibadan, Nigeria) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwoVRt7nFJh/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1hbm4eqvbcgbg

We continue with our series #DealingWithPeerPressure today. And it's my turn to share tips after everyone gave their opinions yesterday. So flow with me below 👇 These are few ways to know the difference between peer pressure and your friends giving you an extra push. . . YOUR FRIENDS MUST RESPECT YOUR PROCESS. The first thing you have to ask yourself or look at is if the people you're with really understands and respect the process you're going through to become the person you want or they're the kind of people that just want you to cut corners and just get to one destination. This is the first thing you have to watch out for -- if the way they are pushing you defiles the process you have to go through, then that's the kind of pressure you should do without. . . THEY MUST BELIEVE IN YOUR POTENTIALS. Peer pressure is not only when they want you to do some certain things with them, it's also when they don't want you to do the things you need for yourself too. If you notice that your friends talk you down when you bring up your dreams, they don't give regards to your abilities, then anything else they are going to ask of you is going to be outside of your purpose in life -- this is the time to manage your time better and spend it less with those ones -- if they don't believe in what you can  do with your potentials, they will try to make you do what you shouldn't be doing. . . ARE THEY PUSHING YOU TO LIVE ABOVE YOUR MEANS? Look, if the answer to this is yes, then you have to quickly move. I don't have to say much here anymore. They know you don't have money for those parties and bottles but they are pushing you to go for it always, calling you names when you say you're broke? Sis, it's time to move. They don't want the best for you -- the perception of the big person they want off you is to build up their own ego that they are rolling with you. You will do better when you leave. . . We'll pick up the pace from here tomorrow Share this with someone else to help more people out. Repost it on your Stories and pages. I live you guys 💚 hit the comment section and happy birthday to my brother @officialregha . . #TPTG #9jamarkets #plugnationng (at Oyo State) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwlwGYOnMfb/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=o1kx6q0lbj5v

Happy Easter to everyone celebrating today. We've been missing in action for some days now. Today we contiune the serie #DealingWithPeerPressure . . If you cannot differentiate between when friends and peers are trying to push you to be better from when they're putting undue pressure on you to go out of your way, you might make the mistake of not learning what you're suppose to learn, mistake of rejecting candid help and in turn miss opportunities and lag behind in life. . . So today, let us discuss, what do you think the difference is in your opinion. Hit the comment section and tag someone to learn too. . . Happy Easter 💚 . . . #TPTG #ThePlaceofTruthandGrowth #plugnationng #nigeria #eastervibers #lifebuilder #bellanaijaperson #urbanelitehub #motivationalspeaker  #YourlifeYourbusiness #Peerpressure #sucess #motivation #lagos #ibadan #Abuja (at Ibadan, Nigeria) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwjLlcsn2EA/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1gv1x3tn8dxoe

Good morning guys, let us contiune from where we stopped yesterday. We already talked about the 3 Basics of life and if you didn't read yesterday's post, don't miss out, catch up here #DealingWithPeerPressure . . Today let's talk about another three important steps you can take to handle peer pressure and be in total control of your life. . . Number 1 -- BUILD YOUR SELF-ESTEEM. A lot of people lack good self-esteem and this is why they are so susceptible to peer pressure. They want acceptance from their peers and without it, they will feel like nothing, so they will do whatever those ones ask them to do in order to get that acceptance. Your self-esteem is very important, if you want to be able to fight peer pressure, you must build your self-esteem up and never look down on yourself. . . Number 2 -- UNDERSTAND THE DIVERSITY IN TIME AND HOW EVERYONE'S PROCESS IS DIFFERENT. When you understand that your timeline is different from your friend's timeline, you will feel no pressure to go out of your way to be like them. The lack of this understanding is why most young people take shortcuts today only to make their journey longer or cut their lives short. Times are different and the process for every single person to make it are different too, when you understand that, you won't bow to any pressure to go out of your way. . . Number 3 -- KNOWING HOW NOT TO GIVE A DAMN FUCK. Please forgive my language, but this is the best way to express this particular point. This has been a personal approach for a while now and it's not something easy to do, but if you can master it, there is no amount of pressure that will ever shake you. It's simple, I simply don't care about what you say, about your taunts, your jibes, I don't want to do what you're asking and I'm only interested in being myself and being real. And that's it. I don't give a fuck about anything else -- this approach works if you can master it. . . Do share 💚💚 . . #TPTG #ThePlaceofTruthandGrowth #plugnationng #nigeria #lifebuilder #bellanaijaperson #urbanelitehub #motivationalspeaker  #YourlifeYourbusiness #Peerpressure #sucess #motivation #lagos #ibadan #Abuja (at Lagos State) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwWTbyWHlic/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=15mwdxw7b3g17

What's my approach? I call this approach "THE BASICS OF LIFE" and if you can rightly fix this, you will overcome not just peer pressure, but so many other pressures in life.  . . The Approach. Number 1 -- KNOW YOURSELF There is no hiding behind the veil on this one, when you don't know yourself, you can never be yourself. All you will have is what "they" want you to be. It becomes easier for the pressure to get to you and change you anyway it want to. Who are you? If you know yourself you can always measure what anyone is asking you to do with the standards of who you are -- if it's not suitable to your person, you will discard it -- but when you don't know who you're, you're left completely open to pressure without defence, without standards. . . Number 2 -- KNOW WHAT YOU WANT This is the second step. Easy question, what do you want in life?  -- the answer will guide you from allowing anyone pressure you into doing anything you don't want. Do you know what you want in life? -- what they are pressuring you to do, how does it have anything to do with what you want in life? When you known what you want it becomes easier to discard whatever they are putting in front of you that is not what you want. . . Number 3 -- KNOW WHAT YOU NEED. This is the seal that makes "Basics of life" so airtight for you. You must know what you need to get what you want in life and become the best version of yourself, that is the goal and the ultimate way to make impact. Here is how it helps with peer pressure -- When you know what you need, you will not allow anybody to come to you and  tell you to do things that has nothing to do with your growth in life. It's that simple. . . Note this three steps and ask yourself, how well have I fixed those things. Tomorrow we will continue our lessons on the same topic #DealingWithPeerPressure Share this lesson to help someone out there . . . #TPTG #ThePlaceofTruthandGrowth #plugnationng #nigeria #lifebuilder #lagonaijabiz #urbanelitehub #motivationalspeaker  #YourlifeYourbusiness #Peerpressure #sucess #motivation #lagos #ibadan #Abuja (at Agbelekale, Lagos, Nigeria) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwTu2PBn8wP/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=uyhdlfto8nz4