I gave a bi-curious man who supposedly has been with other trans men before a chance and met with him twice just for him to refer to me with they/them pronouns multiple times after I told him I’m strictly a man and only use he/him. And then recently on fetlife I saw he joined an ftm breeding group.

Thats just so fucking nasty to me. (Sorry to kink shame if that’s ur thing…the idea of men meeting me and thinking of getting me pregnant makes me feel ill for obvious reasons lmao)

Even with dating, I feel like ppl can only see me on the surface level as being “ftm” (honestly, I hate that term in reference to me, personally) .

I went on a date with a nonbinary person and after a great afternoon, it turned into just asking what surgeries I’ve had and how long I’ve been on testosterone which just totally icked me out cuz it kinda just seemed like they were looking for me to “big brother” them through the process of them transitioning since they were getting top surgery and aren’t currently on hormones. And like, they didn’t care much about getting to know me personally. It could’ve just been something they could’ve googled or asked in a forum.

I made a new friend, and they send me posts that are along the lines of “every trans guy totally loved this show bc they wanted to be this character” or “every trans guy totally looks/acts like this”. (And it’s typically some infantilizing BS about being short/“smol” and fem/“twinkish” which feels very insulting). But it’s like never sending me posts about any of my personal interests or things I would find funny.

Like idk… there’s just a constant reminder of my gender identity and just fetishization of my body that comes from cis ppl and other trans ppl and I hate it. There’s just all these stereotypes and assumptions that come with it that I despise.

And maybe it’s cuz I’m simply up front about it bc it’s on my profiles that I’m a trans guy, so that it can steer away the people that aren’t interested and save us both time, but then it only attracts chasers that are too interested for all the wrong reasons.