#daddy advice

Personally, my hope is that my partners feel like I genuinely consider and think of them day to day. I want them to feel like my interest, care, and support are organic to them and not the result of another partner's actions/inactions.

Ya know, there's an old saying that 90% of fish are caught by 10% of fishermen. As a leader, 90% of the time I am actively trying to do something for one of my partners. 10% of the time I get to enjoy those efforts. If you think this setup allows Daddies/men to kick their feet up, I promise you they won't be doing it for long.

Well this is new territory for me so I'll try my best.

First of all talk to the friend, ask if they ended on good or bad terms, then ask friend if they would feel betrayal if someone they knew dated her.

If they guess it's you, openly admit it, but say that you wanted to seek their approval. Then you'll have your yes or no to persue.

Personally, I would openly persue the ex and notify the friend if it was going somewhere. Otherwise they'll find out eventually and feel hurt that you didn't tell them.

If you don't care about the friend, fuck her, and reevaluate your friendships.

Becoming Comfortable with that Little One Inside

Over the years I have gotten lots of questions from littles who do not accept their little side, who feel shameful for these feelings, and feel like it makes them less than other people in some way. These feelings are very common that a lot of littles go through at some point. Some struggle being comfortable with their little side more than others, but I believe every little has these feelings at some point in life.

The only difference is just some are able to overcome those shameful feelings and become more comfortable faster and easier. Even I had very similar feelings when I was much much younger after I discovered I was a Daddy and a DL. It didn’t take me too long to over come those feelings and fully be comfortable with the Daddy and DL that I am.

So any of you out there lurking on my blog who just recently discovered this part of yourself, or to anyone else who is scared to embrace this part of yourself, and feeling ashamed of the feelings you have, then just think about this quote by Hugh Hefner in the picture above. Think about it hard.

Hugh Hefner could not have been more right. We only get ONE chance, just ONE life. Every single day you spend suppressing and hiding your little side is another day you wasted pretending to be someone you are not. Life is wayyy too short to be someone you are not. You can NEVER EVER get that day back.

If you continue to suppress these feelings one day eventually you will look back when you are much older and wish you would have just been happy being yourself. So if you keep holding back and suppressing that little one inside you (or any part of you), then you are going to miss your chance to live your dream and have that Daddy or Mommy of your dreams, or to have the special little one of your dreams.

So just be yourself and don’t worry about it. There is nothing wrong with simply just being yourself. I know that can be easier said than done, but it takes time. However it won’t get any better if you don’t get little things to be little with, and if you don’t have a blog, or some other way to interact with others in the community. Not just have a blog or profile, but to also use it daily, message others in the community too.