daanshoor replied to your post: I’ve caught quite the urge to write a ton of meta...
How did Arpita meet Subhadra and was it love at first sight as some versions say? Or did they know each other before? How did they grow together?
The matter of Subhadra and Arpita’s union is one woven with utmost care by Krishna. For all of Arpita’s long years, she spent copious years in Krishna’s company or sharing correspondence with her cousin, telling him of her troubles or the current goings on of her family life. These tales were ones that Krishna carefully shared with his sister, only giving her enough information to keep biting at the bit, to form an ideal image of the famed archer, and third son of Kunti. However, not once did Krishna allow details of Subhadra to reach Arpita’s ears, keeping her as something of a secret.
Of course this was done so that the events which would transpire between the two would all go according to plan. Although, had Krishna told Arpita of his willful sister, one cannot doubt that Arpita wouldn’t have grown enamored with her. But had this been done, it is possible that she would not have wanted for Draupadi’s hand. Would not have wedded Ulupi. Would not have wedded Chitrangada.
Arpita would have settled for Subhadra and been content.
Their love is one written in the stars. The favorite wife who would bear the favorite son, the child who would sway the war in the favor of the Pandavas.
It began when Arpita, as Arjuna, was welcomed into Dwarka upon the last stretch of a long, self-imposed exile. He is welcomed with open arms by his cousin, Krishna, and shown around the Yadava kingdom, introduced to his principle wives, and allowed to spot Subhadra. To say it was love at first sight is ultimately incorrect. It was fondness, perhaps lust. But some part of him desired her. Subhadra, though, did love Arjuna the moment she knew who he was, that this man was the skilled warrior she had loved from afar.
Of course it wasn’t always a love which was sweet like honey lavender. It was a love that had to blossom, molding itself around misunderstandings and ill explained tales. Arjuna was no great hero, though he was a talented warrior, an archer of great renown. But he was not without his sins, and his vast mistakes. But, most of all, it was the reveal that he was a she which caused some tension, however brief, between the two. How could Subhadra give her heart to one she didn’t really know? How could she not regret this falsehood which had swayed her into leaving a brother angered and another pleased like a cat which had gotten the cream?
It was with great difficulty that the two managed to work around each revealed falsehood - although not all things which Subhadra knew about Arpita were falsehoods. Arpita had done everything which Subhadra had been told of. And she was as great an archer as the world painted her as. And she was peerless. Much like Chitragangada, she had to wear the guise of a man, and so her deeds were associated with a man.
However they did grow to love each other, truly they did. As deep as the Ganges river is their love.