Another truth to grasp is that you are not your family. Your family is a tool for your soul’s development. You have incarnated through them, but you are not destined to share their life path. The reason why you chose to come through such an intensely different or troubled family was because you wanted to feel who you truly are, to the exact depth that you feel you are not them. You wanted to experience who you are not so you can deepen and understand who you are. For many, this is quite a profound and individual form of understanding to achieve in this life. It can help to know that your family was a filter for your soul to pass through in order to be charged in specific ways to carry our your personal karma. You chose them. You wanted the magnetic charge of anger, frustration, shame, and conflict to attract and repel experiences, new ways of thinking, relationships, and creativity that would push you deeply into yourself. You chose a filter that would force you to ask questions like: “How am I different?” “How can I improve and not be like that?” or, “How did it make me feel when ____ happened?” Your soul loves these questions and is growing every time you ask them.