Buying and selling the lie
Lets be honest. We all lie. Even if it's only to ourselves. Nobody's perfect. Lying is part of being human. It isn't a nice part but it's a human frailty that we all share. Some of us have made it an art form. Others hardly ever do. But we all do it - even if it as simple as saying, " I ran out of time" "I'll do it tomorrow" Or perhaps the all time world champion. "It wasn't my fault." Deep down we know the truth, but there's something inside us all that triggers a defensive lie. We can all live with that, I guess. Lying to ourselves in some ways defines who we are and how we sleep at night.No-one will hang us for that. When we lie to others Unless we're sociopaths, the lies we tell are largely defensive in nature. We lie not to hurt people, rather than to deceive. In essence, I think we're trying to protect people from our own inadequacies. It's a crazy misplaced anti virtue that I suspect we all suffer to some degree. I know that the most monstrous lies I've ever told have fallen into that category. I aren't proud of them by any means. But, now, as the days are getting shorter and my shadow is growing longer, I kind of understand where they came from. It doesn't make me any less ashamed, just a little more understanding of who I am. Believing the lies we're told Sometimes we want to believe something so badly, we ignore evidence to the contrary. This happens way too often in relationships, business and politics. We want to think everything is OK. Read the full article
