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But I think it’s a huge stretch to think that this is actually anything but completely normal? These are two seventeen-year-olds, neither one of them the healthiest communicator, with tons of shit roiled in their heads and hearts, and they’ve been skirting around having a relationship for a matter of weeks. Of course they’re not communicating perfectly, spilling all their secrets and insecurities for the other to see. It’d genuinely be unrealistic for them to do so. It’s too early and too much and they’re too new at this. But of course they’d get better. They have to learn. That’s what actually makes relationship. And it’s the intent of the story to delve into that. So yes, it’s all deliberate. I’m not just mindlessly making their dynamic strained and unhealthy with no intent to solve it. I will. You know, eventually. XD

I think their feelings are less about her as a person, and more about the fact that she was the one running down the destructive path with James when they were all so desperate to rein him back in. They never got to know her as an individual--James and Liz were very much off on their own when they were together, because no one else was supportive of their antics. So, more than anything, she represents that time for them, which naturally would have negative connotations. But I also think they’d be reasonable enough to all say, “It’s not about her, it was about everything.” In that way, Sirius’s initial feelings about Lily weren’t that different. 

2) You can certainly have your own questions about James’s feelings and what Sirius believes—you’re meant to!—but I want to also make it clear that that initial “Infallible” scene is really important to this. In that moment, James is recognizing and vocalizing that Lily is NOT the perfect person he might have once had in his head. And yet...she’s still kind of magical to him. So while I think you can certainly hear Sirius’s thoughts on it and contemplate them, I don’t think it’s fair either to say that James is merely projecting on this Lily ideal he wants to now live up to. Whether he’s truly in love or not, he knows who she is, flaws and all. So that needs to be considered too.

I think he explains this to her at some point--his issue has never really been with Lily. It’s who James is when he’s with Lily, and the fact that Sirius believes that James is a pandering, overcompensating fake. (Never mind that Sirius’s ideal James is pandering to him, and that James clearly is still figuring out who he is...etc etc u get it.)

4) We don’t know when James heard it. He didn’t say. But, as one is wont to do with parental sayings, one can assume Lily has used it numerous times throughout the years and he may have noticed.

With James, everything was complex and deep from the start. Even just as friends, there seemed to be eight-hundred strings attached. They grew close really quickly, and what she tells him in the common room that one night is true--she’s quite scared of losing him as a friend, as much as any of the rest of it. It’s all nine layers of defense mechanisms. So yes, she never liked Amos as much as she liked James because it’s two entirely different levels of feelings.

2) I don’t think that they’re LYING to each other—or, at least, not since James and the forget the kissing thing. It’s more that they’re each playing into their own insecurities while TRYING to cater to the other in all the wrong ways, which, yes, creates this massive lack of communication that, as we saw, predictably blew up in the last chapter. So they’ve reached a tipping point with it. CLEARLY it can’t go on as it has been. What they decide to do on the other side of that tipping point, you’ll have to see. But there’s no avoiding it now.

That is where she asked, but that’s not what James is talking about.