I’ll say it a million time - You are not hurting me.
I do not see this additional overnight being beneficial for her. Step sister does not stay over into Monday. The other children are dropped off Sunday night. My ex has verbally confirmed this several times in conversations. Sunday nights they leave 7 pm to drop the kids off in [L town] then [T town], which means my ex & his wife do not return home until after 8:30 pm, if not later. So if my daughter stayed, she would be in a car for an hour and half (which the lawyer stated does not count as time since it's hard to bond during that time.) then go back to his house and immediately have to get ready for bed. So how much additional bonding time is there on Sunday night really? In order to be at my house by 6:30 she has to be woken up at least by 5:45 am. She is will barely be getting 8 hours of sleep. She is use to sleeping until 7:30\8 am and even then I have to wake her multiple times.
I agree to Sunday into Monday cause I was under the impression it would be beneficial to my daughter to have this additional time with my ex. After 2 months of my daughter coming home telling me daddy played on his phone while she played with the other kids, my ex dropping my daughter off early on his already short 2 hour weeknight dinners, and me observing the lack of interactions between my daughter & him, I do not see why he's bothering to keep the visitation to Monday morning unless he is getting some credit for this additional documented time with her.
I know I cannot do anything about what he does during his time. But my daughter is the one who is suffering. She has missed out of so many different activities and opportunities because she was at his house during it. And even if I share the information with him, he does not take her and instead she sits in front of tablet screens and TVs all day. And now he will be waking her up early on Monday mornings just to drop her off at my house an hour before she normally wakes up so he can spent that hour and half car ride with her then put her to bed. That does not sound fair to her - all so he can look like some kind of dad. He has yet to attend any of her school functions or show any support for her & her school - probably because the court system does not recognize that as a reason for a decrease. Two months of visitations and all she has at his house is step sister's old stuff, a dollar store doll whose head came off, and some doll that poops. I have to pack clothes for her overnight with him and every weekend she begs to bring toys with her.
