"I loved somebody other than my husband. I thought, why do I have to choose? I’m kind of a deconstructionist by nature. I would think to myself, 'Why do I have to choose? Who says I have to love my father more than my mother, my sister more than I love my brother?' Some people come to that early in life: Why do I need to say no to this one and yes to that? Who makes up this binary system around our loving? … In the beginning I was very cautious about who I told. I had a difficult time letting my parents know about it, because I thought they might try to take my children from me, which they didn’t. My mother at the time said 'good for you that you have all this love in your life.' It was such a gift. My father didn’t understand what I was talking about. … If we didn’t tell people in our lives, our friends, our neighbors, they wouldn’t know. They saw the three of us coming and going, but nobody ever really asked us what’s going on. I say that in our neighborhood we all have 'white picket fences,' but ours is quite crooked. It wasn’t until I was interviewed for a north shore magazine where I spoke professionally about what was going on, that our neighbors were like, 'oh, so that’s what’s going on.' And I think we’d be surprised to find out how many crooked fences there are. –Watch Lifeworks clinician Rami Henrich give an interview about #polyamory on #ChicagoTonight! Video and transcript after the link: http://chicagotonight.wttw.com/2017/05/30/more-love-polyamory-real-world #nonmonogamy #chicago #relationships #poly #jealousy #interview