heyy so I need some advice on somthing you don’t have to answer but idk so I’ve been talking to this guy on snap and I sent him some spicy pics and he sent me nudes. I’ve told him some stressful secrets about my stepdad and he’s kinda helped me through it but last night he wanted nudes and I wasn’t in the mood so I said no. He got kinda mad and is leaving me on delivered all day. I don’t wanna loose him but idk what do I do? Should I leave him? What abt the secrets he knows?
Hmmmm... Well I do wanna say that giving this person the benefit of the doubt, something else could be going on that you don’t know about. We don’t know for sure and sometimes it’s best not to assume.
Now that we got that out of the way, deductive reasoning has brought me to the conclusion that you’re dealing with what is termed as “CFBB.”
Classic Fuck Boy Behavior
This happens often when someone is under-developed as a person and quite entitled. When they don’t get what they want, or are told the word “no”, they stomp their feet like a petulant child and lash out. This will either be in an outwardly disrespectful manner or through passive aggression. They will try to punish you for slighting their fragile egos. They won’t respect your boundaries, they objectify you, or they’ll feign genuine interest in your emotions, troubles, dreams, hobbies, etc until they obtain what they want from you. In this case, i’m sorry to say, the goal might be pictures of you in your intimates, your nudes/sex. They’ll be on their best behavior until they receive the prize. Sounds like this person is a bit of a sore loser. Quite immature. And alas, the exact kind of person we’re describing.
DO NOT. I repeat, DO NOT let this individual gaslight you. Make you feel as if you did something wrong for standing your ground and setting healthy boundaries. Your body and your pictures are yours to do with as you please. You reserve the right to share it/them with whomever you deem worthy. Your intuition/the universe/your spirit guides were probably sending you some sort of cosmic red flag in regard to this person. The fact that he became upset that you didn’t share what you had every right to guard indicates he may not have as much respect for you as he primarily displayed. Chuck the deuces up to that clown and move on to someone who understands that “NO MEANS NO”. Sometimes when we’re afraid of losing someone it’s because we believe that we won’t get someone better. Love yourself, first. If you gotta be a bitch, so be it. You let someone know once not to fuck with you, most of the time, you never have to do it again.
As for the secrets he knows, unfortunately you can’t go back in time and un-tell him. But moving forward, you CAN be more selective about who you let into your inner world. Some people just don’t deserve to know you intimately, boo. Let a man EARN you. Make sure they go through a thorough and appropriate screening process before they get let into your circle. Some people can sense a loving spirit or someone who simply wants companionship and when they’re operating on/in dark energy they’ll just suck up all your light and leave you to deal with the mess. Develop discernment so you can avoid any avoidable heartbreak. Quite frankly, this prick owes you an apology. Of course, don’t wait on one because we can’t control others but we CAN control our actions and our emotions. Sounds like he doesn’t deserve another ounce of your time or energy. In regard to the spicy pics you’ve already sent, I don’t know where you’re located geographically, but I can say if he has the audacity to try to use them against you, there are revenge porn laws that protect people from fuck boys with little dick energy trying to retaliate against them. 46 states to be exact. The punishments include but are not limited to: Class A misdemeanors, thousands of dollars in fines, felonies and significant jail time.
The right person for you will respect your boundaries, they’ll genuinely want to help ease your pain, they’ll be patient with you. They’ll be selfless not selfish. Be patient. Protect your energy at all costs until then. I’m proud of you for not allowing yourself to be pressured. Many can learn from this small but significant act. Remember to know your worth, add tax and interest.
