#caresystem

I have always wanted to become a mother it’s always something I knew I would do with my life. I can remember being in nursery playing mummy with the dolls, this was the only game I would play. 

I grew up in a number of different places in Scotland. I was born in Oban but lived on a Scottish island for a bit. I was taken into care at the age of 10 because my parents neglected me and my siblings. Whilst in care I was moved several times into different placements across the UK. 

Me and my husband John met when we were both in care at the age of 12. We live together in a placement for a year before I was then moved into another placement in a different town in Scotland. 

Once I left we lost contact and didn’t speak very much for about a year but then John text me asking to meet up. I was getting ready to leave care and transition into my own flat. The two of us met up once I had moved into my own flat and remember how much we liked each other and how much we had in common. 

We took things very slow to start with but then formed a relationship. Soon John was coming round to my flat every weekend when I wasn’t at college. John was still in the care system at this point and I was studying health and social care at college. 

John then moved into his own flat in another town about an hour away from mine. We were taking turns in going to each others flats but then decided that we would like to move in together but we couldn’t decided where. Together decided that a change would be good for us and we moved to a small town close to Loch Lomond. 

John then proposed to me when we were on holiday in Tenerife when we were 17 years old. We had a long engagement and didn’t get married until we were 20 years old. We got married in July 2018 and went on honeymoon a few weeks after our wedding. Our honeymoon was amazing and the time we needed to have together being newly weds. 

Both myself and John are very open with each other and we had both discussed having children with each other and knew it was something we both wanted whilst we were still quite young. 

I was on the contraceptive implant and I came off it in January 2019. As luck would have it I was pregnant but May 2019 and our journey into parenthood had begun. 

It’s been an amazing life me and John have had together without children but we are so exited for the future with our children. 

We feel like we made the best out of quite a shit situation. We haven’t had easy lives but we are so happy together and I feel like John is my saving grace.