Calm people bring perspective to complicated situations and feel their feelings without reacting to heightened emotions like fear and anger. Calm is perspective, mindfulness and the ability to manage emotional reactivity.
1. Try to be slow to respond and quick to thing “do I have all of the information I need to make a decision or form a response?” A lot of times an anxiety driven response is due to lack of data.
2. Stay mindful on the effect that calm has on stressful situations. A panicked response includes more panic and fear. Anxiety is extremely contagious but so is calm. Do we want to infect the people around with us more anxiety or heal ourselves with more calm?
3. Small things matter - can you count to 10 before responding or say “I’m not sure right now/let me think about that.”
- Brené Brown, Unlocking Us Podcast