#byula

After all I've seen, heard, had a insider's view into the more my conviction, my feelings about the subject grow. When one has a significant other, either they stay the same ( which is extremely rare ) only changing for the good due to that partner or they take a turn for the worse. They become dependent, believing that that person is "the only one", they begin to neglect their friends spending time only with that person, their every mood depends on that person and his/her actions/words. And all I can say is wtf?  I remember I told my best friend long ago, that I didn't want a boyfriend and if I ever did, I would NEVER neglect my friends for him, let my moods/feelings be completely taken over by him. And thinking it over, I hope that I kept my words.

After my breakup, never once did the thought of "he's the only I'll ever love, he's the only one" cross my mind. Of course I thought "I miss him" and "What if..." and "I wonder what went wrong". But time goes on, there are other people out there, Millions and millions. To say "He's the only one for me. I love him so much" isn't that just trapping yourself? Increasing the pain and hurt and loss. I hate that. I've seen it and I've been neglected and tossed aside by my best friend for a guy, never, never, never will I do the same.

And so I promise myself this, when I get into another relationship, I will take these examples and do all I can do to do exactly the OPPOSITE of what they've done. Meaning

I will never neglect my friends for my boyfriend

I will spend my time EQUALLY between him, friends, and family

He isn't everything, even if something happens, I absolutely will not let him interfere with my life and my happiness.

Don't let our relationship interfere with my education, our education.