I have a girlfriend and I recently told her that I'm autistic. We haven't been together for long (a few months) but I also figured out that I am really not into any sort of sexual touching, even if it's a simple peck on the lips. I just don't...feel anything (i'm not repulsed by it, but it's a bit uncomfortable-sensory wise). I kind of want to break up with her (not in a bad way) bc of sensory issues. Would you maybe be able to script something? I don't want to hurt her, bc often i'm too blunt
Whether a relationship is in its formative phases or deep into its progression, it is always important to consider how your words and actions can affect your partner(s). It is wonderful that you are reaching out in an attempt to avoid hurting your girlfriend. Breakups are a really tough thing and it’s always hard to figure out how to break up with someone, particularly in a kind way. You could try something like the following:
“Recently, I’ve come to find that physical affection is not enjoyable for me due to sensory issues associated with being autistic. Because of this, I don’t know how fulfilling continuing our relationship would be for either one of us. You deserve to be with someone who will cherish every kiss and look forward to every touch. Someone who will want to hold you and show you love in ways that I am not able to. You’re an amazing person and I would still very much like to remain friends but what I really want for you is someone who will love every way that you express yourself and not someone who will just tolerate your physical attentions. It would be impossible to truly change these things about myself and cruel to suppress something so beautiful about you.”
-Sabrina and Sean
