#boundries

This is a friendly reminder that if i block someone on here, it is not a spontaneous act of whimsy. I am a chronic people-pleaser. My girl and my friends will tell you that. In fact it’s so bad that I will give people chance after chance after fucking chance, I will rewrite messages ten times, convince myself I’m overreacting, or overthinking, and generally do everything I possibly can to avoid upsetting a single person because I think if it makes me a bad person.

Make that make sense.

But I’m learning slowly, that is not that case.

So, here’s the thing, if you’ve ended up blocked by me, it took more than you probably realise.

Now, if I have blocked you, fucking respect it. Please stop going to other people to talk about me, ask about me, pass messages to me, or otherwise try to work around that boundary. The block is the message.

I do not owe strangers on the internet access to me. I do not owe anyone continued conversation, explanations, emotional labour, or an appeal process. This is my blog, and my life, and my friends are here too, and I want them to feel comfortable here as well.

My online spaces are supposed to be places where I feel safe, content and comfortable. I am allowed to decide who has access to me in them.

it follows Ethan winters after his extremely tragic and untimely death in re8 as he happens to wake up back at the baker mansion from re7 where Jack and Marguerite are waiting for him,

You’re free to ask any characters featured not just Ethan.

please be sensible with asks, i shouldn't have to write a whole boundaries list just use your common sense.

I will probably not answer every single ask I get. as much as I want too, I am a very busy person I just don't have the time to draw answers to every question, please don't be disappointed if your question doesnt get answered, you can always send another one! Please be patient as well, just because i havent answered the ask yet doesnt mean i wont, some of them im saving for later down the line. my main account is @demelly if u want more resident evil 7 art :)

Boundaries are important. If they cross them then that says everything you need to know about the type of person they are.

Let's say you don't want folks texting you after 10pm so you can wind down before bed.

A boundary is about your actions. What you will do. "I do not respond to texts after 10pm." You can set these but these are things you have to carry out.

An expectation is what you want from people. "I don't like being texted after 10pm so please don't." What your standards are. Sometimes folks will not stick to them. Sometimes people will let you down. You need to communicate these, communicate about hurt, but also you accept sometimes it will happen.

A rule is about other peoples actions. "Do not text me after 10pm." You cannot control these. Sometimes your rules will need changing due to circumstances or because your rule is not reasonable.

i over-observe

patterns confess

faster than people

i stopped explaining

that was the leak

consistency is louder

than intention

if it costs my peace

it was never affordable

i don’t need closure

i need distance

forgiveness is optional

discernment isn’t

i don’t argue

i adjust access

most loyalty is convenience

with better marketing

i don’t miss you

i miss the version of me

that hadn’t learned better yet

silence isn’t passive

it’s selective

i’m not guarded

i’m curated

to start of my coming back party I’ll be placing this photo here

In case you are unable to read the pic it says: “I hate to do this, but if you all can help it I would rather not be mentioned or involved in those archive blogs. having people archive my every move and basically watch me makes me extremely uncomfortable and l'd rather avoid it all together, so for now and future reference please do not archive me in any way and maybe please don't mention me or my accounts to any archived blogs either it makes my anxiety spike,, thank you all for your understanding!!”