On Our Own: How Children of Cults Manage to Survive in the “Outside World.”
Bounded Choice: “Janja Lalich’s research culminated in a new theory to explain how the combination of ideology, social structure, and commitment constrains the choice of true believers.”
Janja Lalich, Ph.D., Professor Emerita of Sociology California State University, Chico
Author of Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships (Bay Tree, 2006)
and Bounded Choice: True Believers and Charismatic Cults (University of California Press, 2004)
Preliminary Findings on Research on Children of Cults
Please note that these are VERY EARLY preliminary results of my research project, entitled On Our Own: How Children of Cults Manage to Survive in the “Outside World.” I have just begun to analyze these data. Participant interviews were approximately 2 hours long, and all participants completed a basic demographic questionnaire, the results of which were entered into SPSS (social science analytical software program).
9. Upon leaving the group, almost to a person, these individuals experienced extreme confusion, depression, a sense of loss, anxiety, and fear, stemming from having defied the cult and from the years of indoctrination that the cult way was the only way. They also experienced extreme culture shock for most of them had been living a very confined and isolated existence. Nevertheless, a striking note was that many remarked that what surprised them most when they left the cult was how nice everyone was in the “outside world.” This is not what they were expecting, having been ingrained with the idea that everything outside the cult was evil, corrupt, and life-threatening. These brave individuals who struck out on their own found the opposite to be true.
Another important observation is that no matter how bad things got or how much these individuals suffered while trying to build a new life for themselves, every single person (except one) said they would never go back to the cult, and never thought about going back even in their darkest moments. For them, the most painful moments in the outside world were better than life in the cult.
10. The most difficult aspect of entry into mainstream society was the sense of alienation each of these individuals felt. The remark, “I felt like I had just landed from Mars,” came up again and again. They found it very difficult to find any resources to help them with practical matters (money, school, a place to live, work, etc.) and nowhere to go to find help in understanding where they had been or what they had experienced. Many suffered severe post-traumatic stress, which often went undiagnosed for years. Many floundered, moved around a lot, worked odd jobs, and were taken advantage of again because of their social vulnerabilities. Some turned to drugs, prostitution, and life on the streets. The most common source of help was found through ex-member Web sites on the Internet — either sites about their own group or other groups. In most cases, this helped lead them to the road to recovery.
11. Adult children of cults comprise a growing and uniquely vulnerable population. With thousands of cults active in America today and possibly several million people actively involved in a cult at any one time, this is a pressing social issue, The fact that many cults have been in existence now for decades means that second- and third-generation members — those born and/or raised in the group — are also growing in numbers. And as we are learning, these children of cults are leaving in droves. Many groups are battling ferociously to improve the retention rate of the children of their members once the children become teens and young adults. As a society, we need to be more cognizant of this group and their issues, and work toward providing recovery and rehabilitation resources for them.
Full report here:
http://www.fecris.org/conferences/sofia2016/Acts_SofiaEN
see pages 22-26
Contact information:
Janja Lalich, Ph.D.
Professor Emerita of Sociology
California State University, Chico
Chico, CA 95929-0445
U.S.A.
Website: www.cultresearch.org
Research Study
Escaping Utopia: Growing Up in a Cult, Getting Out, and Starting Over
Cults Today: A New Social-Psychological Perspective
Repairing the Soul – Janja Lalich
Take Back Your Life: Recovering From Cults & Abusive Relationships