I have some social anxiety and I'm very shy and quiet and today I had this class and the lecturer was so mean she asked me a question and because I was so nervous I was slow and was waiting for her approval after each sentence and she was so mean she told me to hurry up and some other stuff I'd rather not relive And I keep playing it in my mind again and again and I don't know how to deal with this It was so embarrassing and it was Infront of atleast 80 people I go to school with Tag with#bnic
I am so sorry that you are suffering from social anxiety and that this happened to you!! It is totally not fair that the lecturer was mean to you, so again I am really sorry about that. I have social anxiety and I can really understand where you are coming from. I hope my advice can help you!
First, did you think about telling someone about how the lecturer treated you? Like I said, it was not fair and it does sound a little rude to me! I would suggest maybe talking to her one on one (if you can). I think explaining to her that you have social anxiety might benefit you. If she is aware of what is going on, maybe she can be a little nicer when she calls on you or asks you to answer a question. If you feel that she would not listen, you could talk to someone above her, maybe a principal, dean, head of the department, or whoever that might be for you. I’ve gone to the head of my psychology department to let them know when I felt a teacher was rude to me, and they were able to help! So, I do suggest talking to someone about the incident because it might help you out.
Love, I know you were embarrassed, but it’s okay now. People might have noticed that you were nervous, but you are not the only one who is nervous when they are called on. Try realizing that what happened is over and it’s okay that you were nervous. I know you may think all of those people were watching you, but the truth is, people don’t pay that much attention. They might have already forgotten that you were that nervous or that the lecturer said to hurry. So, really try to remember that it’s alright and you really are not alone. I feel this way every time I answer or present in class, but what I do now is realize it doesn’t matter if my peers judge me. It’s okay if they notice I’m a little more awkward or nervous! The same goes for you lovely.
Now, if this ever happens again and you get nervous, just breathe. Take a few deep breaths, in and out, and begin answering. Take your time and do what you need to do. If you get really nervous, simply excuse yourself and take a walk. This is something I do a lot now. I just leave and get some water. It might help, so if you are able to leave the room, even if it is after you finish answering, that’s okay! I want to leave you with our getting help page in case you ever need guidance on that. Calming might help you as well so I hope you take a look!!
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