Is there a limit to how understanding a person can be or how understanding they want to seem without something finally being too much? My current boyfriend has not told his ex that he is not coming back to her nor his friends or family which she is a part of. It made me feel guilty. I am the other women. He said that they were not dating, but made a promise that if he wasn’t seeing anyone that he would go back to her. He says that now that he has found me he won’t be going back to her. i tried to push aside my feeling because he too was feeling guilty and said I would give him time to try to sort out everything. But that feeling of uncertainty still lingers. How long will it take? will I forever be in the shadows? Should I continue to be with him despite knowing that that girl he said he left might still be waiting for him to return even tho it has been 8 months? Am I not being understanding enough? Perhaps this is a test for me and if I over come it my story will end happily, but I know it is not true. I am not blind. I foresee the pain not only for my self , but for that girl. All because of a person that can not bear to confront the reality of his situation putting his own emotions before others yet still claiming to the most saintly, the most worthy, the most kind. Do you even understand the situation that you have created? The wind is not in your favor nor is it in mine and for that I weep everyday trying to steel myself for that day that is to come.