Why Tommy is Different to Buckâs Previous Love Interests
and Why it Doesnât Make Sense.
This is going to be a long and (primarily) impartial post intended for all audiences, whether you like Tommy or not. However, this is not the blog to be airing grievances on. Iâm not here for that. I am going to put some opinions of mine through here, but thatâs all they are, and Iâm going to try stick with facts with a side of interpretation. And Please, for the love of God, read till the end before commenting.
If you want to think Iâm nitpicking then go ahead, but every scene of this show gets analysed to death and back for varying reasons. This will be no different.
The Hospital Scene
For the first time, we see one of Buckâs love interests sitting with the 118 at the hospital while they wait to make sure one of their own is okay. In regard to the group chat that appeared on that scene, form your own opinions. We donât know if Karen or Maddie is in this group chat either. Opinion: I personally donât think itâs that unusual to have a work group chat, and I also think Bobby showed Athena his phone. I donât believe that was meant to reinforce the idea that Tommy is an âoutsiderâ- if he was an outsider, he wouldnât have been at the hospital altogether.
Never before has a LI shown up for the 118 at the hospital with Buck. Ali and Abby turned up at the hospital for Buck because itâs him who was hurt, and Taylor was at the hospital with her camera man for the story (s5 May Day). When Eddie got shot, Taylor showed up at the hospital because she thought it was Buck who got shot. Tommy showing up is a unique situation- they were sat in their civvies as a group in the waiting room, and Tommy is there with Buck for Denny. Tommy was part of the 118 waiting room crew; weâve never seen this before; Buckâs partner showing up for his team(family) at the hospital.
The closest weâve had before is Abby showing up to Chimneyâs return to work party, but at this point they werenât actually together, and obviously Chimney was okay by this point, itâs not a hospital scene.
The Firefighter Life
When Ali breaks up with Buck, she says itâs because she canât handle the firefighter life, waiting for him to get hurt. She says itâs not what she wants. This issue isnât present with Tommy because he is also a firefighter. He knows what he signed up for with Buck, heâs perfectly and intimately familiar with the risks they take everyday and the risk of getting hurt. While itâs a perfectly reasonable assumption that this might still be an issue to some degree, no one wants to see their boyfriend getting hurt after all, they both understand the life and what it means. Tommy solves the reason Ali broke up with him.
The Bobby Approval
This one is a key one. When the scene first aired, I strongly believed (and still do) that this line was also intended for the audience. We have Bobbyâs explicit approval of Tommy as a person and for Buck. Heâs good people, heâs good for you.
Bobby and Buck never spoke about Natalia or about Ali. I hold the belief, like many, that Bobby never particularly liked Taylor because of how she tried to exploit Bobby in season 2. However, Bobby did help Buck decide on a Christmas gift for Taylor and vice versa. Yet, he never said on screen that he thought they were good together. Hen and Chimney do also come to Taylor for help (s5) with Jonah, but even in that scene theyâre shown to not trust her with what theyâre telling her.
Abby is more complex as she was a main character in season 1 and her relationship with Buck was a full-season arc. Bobby helped Buck tie his tie and gave him genuinely good advice before their date. Bobby even talks to Buck about having a serious relationship and how to handle it, about how to treat her with respect. Other characters definitely aired their reservations about Abby in season 2 (Is it the age difference? More like the time difference). I believe Bobby gave his implicit, but not explicitly said, approval of Abby through the way he treated and spoke to Buck about their relationship. Despite this, I do think itâs poignant that for the seven years after Buck and Abby broke up, we never saw Bobby approve or like another one of his relationships until Tommy.
The Future Talk
In 8x06, Josh straight up asks Buck if he can see a future with Tommy. This of course follows up Josh already asking âdo you care about him, do you think about him whenâs not aroundâ. The discussion between Josh and Buck is unique, because Buck has never spoken to a friend about this before. His relationships with Ali and Natalia werenât developed or long enough to warrant the discussion, he never talked about the future with Abby, and he said ânoâ at the prospect of proposing to Taylor. For the first time, Buck is asked on-screen if he sees a future with his romantic partner, and Buck says yes. This is explicitly said for the first time. Yes, he made a confused face when Josh asked if he loved him, because clearly Buck hasnât given it that much thought until heâs confronted with it. Either way, Buck, for the first time, says he wants a future with his romantic partner.
This further prompts Buck to ask Tommy to move in with him, which, different to his motivation for asking Taylor to move in with him, is fuelled by wanting a future. Buck even brings up marriage in his discussion with Tommy, which heâs also never discussed with a romantic partner on screen before. The content of both discussions is something we havenât seen Buck talk about or admit before.
Eddie Friendship
All of Buckâs love interests, bar Abby, have screen time with Eddie. However, Ali and Natalia only share screen time with Eddie when they first meet because they meet on a call. As Buckâs girlfriends, they donât share screen time with Eddie.
Taylor once has dinner with Buck, Eddie, and Christopher, and she compliments Eddieâs cooking. Correct me if Iâm wrong, but I believe this is the only main time theyâre seen together. Itâs civil, itâs fine. However, they arenât friends.
Tommy is a unique situation again; because heâs a guy, it might be easier for Eddie to form a friendship with him. Theyâre very fast friends, they do Muay Thai together, Tommy works on Eddieâs car, they play basketball together, Tommy went to Eddieâs house 3 times in two weeks and met Christopher. Christopher likes Tommy, he thinks heâs cool, and Eddie invited Tommy to Chrisâ virtual birthday party. Heâs the first love interest to not only get along with Eddie, but become friends with him outside of Buck (emphasised by 7x04 where Tommy tells Buck that his friendship with Eddie has nothing to do with Buck). The show makes their friendship very clear.
Iâll fully admit that Eddieâs friendship with Tommy was needed for the plot in 7x04, but beyond that, why was it relevant? It already made Buck realise he wanted to be with Tommy. They mightâve needed it for a plot reason but theyâre friends afterwards too. Maddie calls Tommy âEddieâs friendâ in 7x05 and theyâre laughing together in the hospital and getting alone fine in 8x05. Why?
Fitting Into Buckâs Life
Of course, this all culminates by saying Tommy fits into Buckâs life extremely well.
Tommy doesnât have to go through the awkward phase of meeting all of Buckâs friends, because the only one he hasnât met is Eddie. Tommy was previously friends with Bobby, Hen, and Chimney, they already know him. Heâs already met Athena. Sure, they might have some catching up to do, but they already have a good history. Theyâre familiar. Again, Tommy already gets along with Buckâs friends outside of Buck.
Why was Tommy at the hospital for Henâs son if he wasnât integrated? Why feel comfortable going to Maddie and Chimneyâs wedding? Even Buck makes the point of saying that Tommy is already going to know everybody there; heâs not just his date, he already knows them.
Tommy is friends with Buckâs friends already, Tommy understands the demands of being a firefighter and what it entails with the risks and the commitment. Tommy understands Buckâs friendship with Eddie and Christopher, and his dynamic with Bobby.
Intention (Conclusion)
This is all to say- this is intentional. If the point of the relationship was always to breakup, why have Tommy included in these scenes? Tommy didnât need to be there at the hospital for Denny, but they wrote it in for him to join the 118 waiting. Bobby didnât need to give his approval of Tommy on screen. It didnât further his relationship with Buck nor the plot. It was written this way for a reason, and I think anyone can admit the actual breakup in the scene was abrupt, and itâs all of the above context that makes it even more abrupt.
I know it makes his relationship with Buck more meaningful, sweeter, more heartbreaking for Buck, but we never saw these moments with his ex girlfriends, particularly Taylor, and their relationship was solid until it wasnât. If this unique treatment of Tommy was meant to put Buck through heartbreak then I offer a second question: what is coming up for Buck that requires him to go through heartbreak?
Why go through the effort of writing Tommy to fit in so well with Buckâs life if heâs only there to further a plot? None of Buckâs other LIs were treated like that, and they achieved the plot they needed to. So why was this different? Buckâs relationship with Taylor was a lot longer, and they lived together, but we never saw these types of scenes with her. Why? Why was this different? What was the point of making the relationship meaningful and different?
Again, this post is not here for people to argue. It should be clear to everyone, regardless of why you think so, that Tommy was treated different by the show than Buckâs other love interests. There must have been a reason, even if that wasnât clear. Is something big coming up for Buck that he needed to be heartbroken for? Is it poor writing? Is Tommy coming back? There must be some reason that Tommy was treated differently by the writers other than âjust becauseâ.
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Facts & Analysis: Hen Begins, Chimney Begins, Bobby Begins.
This analysis will primarily focus on Tommy during these episodes. This will objectively and impartially show facts of what happens during these episodes, and also my personal analysis.
From someone who has watched the show since season 4.
Large recap at the end!
Chimney Begins
Eli is very integrated into this episode. He is friendly with the other guys, but is also a guide for Chimney. He is the reason Chimney becomes a paramedic, but also advises Chimney on how to deal with the other guys.
Tommy: âHey Eli, you forget to tip the delivery guy?â
Tommy is intentionally a jackass at the beginning of this episode as itâs meant to highlight the current workplace culture of the 118 under Captain Gerrard. Gerrard perpetuates and approves this kind of behaviour, and itâs how you get in his good books. Gerrard has very clearly made the 118 a white boys club.
Chimney: âYou just donât like me very much do you?â
Tommy: âIf I thought about you at all, I probably wouldnât.â
At this moment, Chimney is going through the hazing and comments from the others. No one is standing up for him, but Eli gives him some advice and explains why theyâre acting the way they do. With regard to the other firefighters, we donât see Sal at all, so the focus is on Tommy and Gerrard, and obviously Eli.
Eli: âitâs not personal you know. Look in this job, friends die, and funerals are held. Theyâre not going to just give you their friendship until you earn their respect. Theyâre not just protecting you, theyâre protecting themselves.â
Here, Eli has witnessed the previous interaction with Chimney and Tommy, and explains it isnât personal, but the other guys wonât just give Chimney their friendship. Thereâs nothing overt here that suggests Tommy has no interest in being friends with Chim due to his race, as Eli explains it is a trust issue with Chim being the new guy who has yet to prove himself.
Although Tommy âjokingâ that Chimney is an untipped delivery guy has some racist undertones, Eli states the hazing and comments comes from a place of no trust as he is the new guy. Tommy also only makes these comments in the presence of Gerrard, likely looking for his approval and appraisal; just trying to fit in. He is conforming socially and professionally, even in the negative ways. This will be explained more in the Hen Begins section, but this is likely because he is scared of losing his job if he openly goes against Gerrard and also, knowing what we know now, trying to remain safely in the closet. This doesnât excuse his behaviour, and Iâm not trying to, but it does begin to explain it. Anyone openly going against Gerrard would face severe consequences. When Tommy is not an instigator, he is a bystander and does let this behaviour continue (for nowâŠ.).
Here, Tommy and the others are the perfect (and intentional) example of the workplace culture Gerrard has created.
On Chimâs first fire call, heâs sat next to Tommy in the engine who is constantly looking over at him. This is also the call where Kevin dies.
Chimney very suddenly understands Eliâs speech about friends dying and trust.
Chim then runs in after Tommy doesnât respond to the radio and pulls him out of an exploding building, and waits in the hospital afterwards. Whether Chim knows it or not as he does it, this is him trying to prove himself and prove that he can be trusted by the other guys.
Eli visits Tommy in the hospital, evidenced by the visitor badge he wears and the update he gives Chim on his condition, indicating they are friends or friendly.
âKevin died, Eli.â
âAnd Tommy didnât, because of you.â
After Tommyâs stint in the hospital, he builds a bridge with Chimney and apologises.
Itâs worth nothing that although he doesnât explicitly say the words âIâm sorryâ, Iâve always interpreted this scene as an apology, as Tommy and Chimney are seen as friendly afterwards. Chimney has proven that he can be trusted, and Tommy is finally extending his friendship (just as Eli told Chimney he would).
Chim: âSo youâre back. Howâs that head of yours?â
Tommy: âStill fat, but clearer. You saved my life. Thank youâ
Tommy then shakes Chimneyâs hand and brings him into a hug.
Chim: âThanks Tommyâ
This conversation references an encounter earlier in the episode where Chim asks to build a bridge with Tommy, and says whatever his thing is, heâll make it his thing too, just so they can get along.
Tommy and Eli then stand with Chim, and then stand behind Chim, when he talks to the woman that Kevin saved. Eli and Tommy can be seen together watching the conversation Chim has, with Gerrard stood by the side of the fire truck.
Tommy: âparamedic, huh?â
Eli: âa damn good one.â
Notes on the framing of scenes:
- Eli is also sat with Tommy and Gerrard during scenes.
- Tommy and Eli walk alongside each other at Kevinâs funeral
- Tommy is behind Chim as heâs ringing the bell at Kevinâs funeral.
Although small framing, at this point I do think itâs intentional to show that Eli and Tommy will be his friends at the 118- they could have shown any other firefighters behind him and next to him. I believe it also shows that Eli is also a bystander, and he is a good friend of Chimneyâs by season 5 (when we see the reunite in Boston), however he is also accepted by Gerrard.
Weâve intentionally been introduced to Tommy in this episode as a friend, as one of the episode afterwards has Chim calling Tommy for a favour. In this episode alone, Tommy has been shown to grow as a character and become friends with Chimney, although he does display negative behaviours.
Hen Begins
Tommy smiles and asks âwhoâs thisâ when Gerrard introduces them to Hen, and frowns when Gerrard calls her their âdiversity hireâ. He is no longer necessarily an instigator, but more of a bystander. Objectively, also not great, but no one publicly stands up for her, although we do see Chim stand up for her and give her advice in private.
Tommy, just like with Chimney, does not welcome Hen with open arms. He is still standoffish with her and makes jackass comments, although it is also worth nothing he does not say anything racist to her. Knowing what we know from Chimney Begins, Tommy (and the others) are likely waiting for Hen to prove herself, as Chim had to do, before they extend their friendship. With Gerrard barking in their ears that she wonât be able to as a woman, Hen had more to prove than Chimney and probably took more for the others to accept her.
Chim doesnât stop to help her when theyâre all piling their tools into a pile for cleaning. He too is conforming professionally, not wanting to risk his job and stepping out of line. At this time, Chimney has been at the 118 for some years and knows how to not piss Gerrard off, evidenced by the advice he gives to Hen.
Tommy does say âNew york bitchiness is a compliment?â and Chimney calls him out for it. Whether Tommy thought Chimney was insulting her by saying she had an âeast coast vibe to herâ is debatable. Referring back to Tommy trying to conform to Gerrard and gain his approval, this comment might have also been in the same vein, although this isnât explicitly said. Knowing that Tommy is aware in the future of how he acted under Gerrard, it wouldnât be a stretch to also assume he knows itâs wrong at the time, but is more concerned with self preservation than standing up for Hen. Furthermore, knowing that Gerrard is like Tommyâs father, he is probably conditioned to fall in line, even if he knows it is wrong. Not excusing the behaviour, but it might explain why. Hindsight from season 7 can definitely change the way we now interpret some of the interactions in this episode, but absolutely does not take away from Tommy acting like a jackass.
Gerrard explains that he doesnât like women in his firehouse because she wonât be able to pull the men out if theyâre hurt and it puts them in jeopardy. This is a massive exaggeration on Eliâs speech in Chimney Begins where he says that people die, which is why theyre not friends with Chimney yet. Gerrard is the only one who says this, and none of the others are shown to agree with him. However, it did likely have some impact on their hesitancy to be friends with Hen at this time, although we do see this change.
Chimney says to Hen âoh you think theyâre inviting the asian guy round to their houses for beers?â When theyâre privately talking. Chim is to Hen what Eli was to Chim, a guide to the 118. This shows Chimney is still facing some negativity from the rest of the team, but he is no longer eating at a separate table and is friendly with them. He also faces the racism they suffer from Gerrard. It can be argued here that he doesnât mean Tommy as those two are seen to be friendly, although this is ambiguous. It could also be argued that Tommy and Chimney are only friendly in private if Tommy is still trying to remain in Gerrardâs good books, although this is pure speculation. We donât see any interaction between Tommy and Gerrard, so their relationship is up in the air.
Chim does talk to Hen privately but does notably not defend her in public.
After the car collision, Sal and Tommy build a bridge with Hen, saying if theyâd had followed Gerrard they wouldnât have found the patient in time and that Hen is good. This is the first time we hear them go against Gerrard. Furthermore, it shows the positive impact that Hen has had on the 118 and the boys. She has proven herself, and also proven that they donât have to fit into Gerrardâs mould.
Itâs after that collision that Gerrard is removed from the 118 and Hen discovers that people have been making complaints about Gerrard and compliments of Hen.
It is heavily implied that it is Chim, Tommy, and possibly Sal who are making these complaints and compliments as these are the only characters we are explicitly introduced to from the 118. However, Gerrard is still seen harassing her. The fact that the complaints began after Hen joined the 118 highlight the positive impact she had on the firehouse and the team. She fundamentally helped change the 118 for good and also aided in Tommyâs character development. Again, retrospectively, her speech probably had a large impact on him as a closeted gay man.
This happens an indeterminate time after she joins the 118, but it would be safe to assume it has been weeks if not months. Knowing this, it means that Tommy (and Sal) have been okay with her and have liked her for some time, evidenced by the fact they have been submitting complaints about Gerrardâs treatment of her for some time. Although we donât see them being friends in the open, they are shown to have disagreed with Gerrardâs methods for some time and are on Henâs side. Even though Hen didnât know it at the time, they were standing up for her in private and trying to make the 118 a better place by ousting Gerrard, likely inspired by Hen.
It is further implied that, likely due to Gerrardâs constant threats of termination if someone disobeys his orders, Tommy, Sal, and even Chim are falling inline with Gerrardâs regime- they wonât go against him in fear of losing their jobs. This is classic self preservation, with Sal and Tommy falling in line socially as well as professionally. Admittedly, Tommy and Sal fall in line more than Chimney, but after Gerrard leaves, theyâre seen being friends, with Tommy seen being close friends with Hen and Chim.
However, while they are seen falling in line professionally and socially at the fire house, in private they are friendly with Chimney and have been submitting complaints about Gerrard and compliments about Hen, indicating they are aware of the bad workplace culture and no longer want to be a part of it. This is a big step in Tommyâs change, and he is no longer a bystander, but actively working on making himself better and standing up for Hen. It took a while, and he could have done it sooner, but that does not distract from the fact he still did it.
Although he physically does not say the words âsorryâ to Hen and Chim, in both begins episodes, he is seen building a bridge and apologising to them, and giving them a handshake/hug.
âYou saved my life, thank youâ
âYouâre goodâ
This is further amplified in Bobby Begins.
As this has been a big topic with the return of Gerrard in season 8, I would like to state that both Eli and Chim advised, essentially, to not cause trouble, keep working, and keep their spirits up, and that is how you survive the 118. None of them, except Hen, explicitly stood up to Gerrard until the end.
Bobby Begins
Hen and Chim are obviously friendly with everyone as Hen is walking around placing bets with everyone. She banters with Tommy, who obviously feels comfortable asking for credit on a bet, and the four of them (Sal, Tommy, Hen, and Chim) end up in a conversation together. In this conversation, theyâre all bantering and laughing together.
This is a MASSIVE shift from the beginning of Hen and Chim Begins- it explicitly shows Tommy, Sal, Hen, and Chim being friends now that Gerrard has gone, which further indicates that Gerrard was the source of the problem, not Tommy or Sal. Objectively, their actions and comments did not help and some were in poor taste.
However, there is 10 years between Chimney begins and Bobby begins, meaning Chimney and Tommy have been working together for 10 years, the majority of that without Gerrard. They have had plenty of time to work through any issues. Furthermore, Tommy (and Sal) were shown to acknowledge that Gerrardâs (and by proxy, their own) behaviour was wrong, and took steps to change that workplace culture.
In the fire truck in the montage of calls, Tommy and Chim are seen laughing together at Bobbyâs lack of direction.
Sal is also prepped in this episode to show that he isnât aligning with Bobbyâs methods, primarily because he wants to be captain, whereas Tommy is just waiting to see that he can trust him. This is consistent for Tommy with the past two begins episodes; Eli says they wont be friends with Chimney until heâs earned their respect as friends die in this line of work and they need to trust each other. This, if you remember, is ultimately what led Tommy to be friends with Chimney, after Chim saved his life.
Sal is openly defiant against Bobby, stating heâs a âpiece of workâ. Tommy chastises Sal and Chimney is visibly displeased at Sal. Tommy, Hen, and Chim are all visibly unhappy with Sal and try to stop him when he goes for Bobby.
Tommy not yet trusting Bobby is primarily seen after Bobby transfers Sal. Believing that he fired Sal, Tommy is hesitant to like Bobby as he believes firing Sal was too harsh, with the same sentiment echoed by Chimney and Hen, until the truth is revealed.
Hen then invites Bobby out, saying âsome of us are going out for drinks⊠join usâ. We then see Chim, Tommy, and Hen out drinking together. This is when Hen reveals that Sal was transferred and Tommy is happy to accept Bobby. The four of them then sit drinking, talking, and laughing. They even show each other all their scars while laughing and getting drunk.
This scene in particular establishes them as friends who now do hang out outside of work, in contrast to Hen begins where Chimney says âyou think theyâre inviting the Asian guy to their houses to drink beer?â. The three of them are sticking together as friends. All of Tommyâs character development has led up to this point: he is no longer an instigator, no longer a bystander, but a friend. He stood up for them and stood by them, following them into changing the 118 and the horrid culture Gerrard had created. They trust each other and are friends here.
Tommy, Chim, Hen, and Bobby then sit at the top of the dinner table together at the station, once again smiling and talking.
Their friendship is once again showcased when Tommy transfers to the 217, and Hen and Chim surprise him with balloons and a cake.
Recap
Tommy in particular is a symbol of the impact Hen, Chimney, and Bobby had on the 118. He is the personification of the changes the 118 went through. From an oppressive boys club, to a friendly and trusting house. Tommy himself goes through massive change at the 118 thanks to Chim, Hen, and Bobby. Tommy is not the point of the Begins episodes, but he is a symbol of the change the 118 went through and I have always believed that is fully intentional- they show the change through this person.
As stated, we see them become a group of friends after Gerrard leaves. Tommy also becomes aware about how Gerrard influenced him. We see this in his conversation with Buck, where he states that Gerrard was like the father he already had and Gerrard did not make him a better person. He is obviously aware of the type of person he used to be and doesnât attempt to hide it, evidenced by his conversation with Buck. It also cannot be assumed that any of the other characters dislike him or hold a grudge either due to his friendship with them in season 7.
Chimney even mentions Tommy in 3x16: Buck is troubled by the fact that Red has no friends and lost touch with the other firefighters from the 134. Eddie asks Hen and Chim if theyâre still in contact with the other guys they used to work with.
Hen: âum, I donât know if weâd call some of them friendsâ
Chim: âYeah, I spoke with Tommy last year⊠I was calling to ask for a favour, butâŠâ
Chim is referencing when he calls Tommy in season 2 (shortly after he is stabbed) to inform him of the Doheney Park (?) fire and asks if the still works at the 217⊠Tommy then flies over and dumps water on the fire, saving Eddieâs life.
Hen acknowledges here that they werenât friends with all the guys who used to work at the 118, hinting at the poor treatment Hen and Chim faced, but Chim makes is clear with his statement that Tommy does not fall under this category. They might not be friends anymore, but theyâre on good terms, good enough for Chim to still have his phone number in 2023, and good enough for Tommy to trust Chimneyâs instincts twice and use âborrowedâ municipal equipment.
In season 8, we also see the 118 conforming (or in Buckâs case, struggling to conform) to Gerrardâs captaincy. They arenât falling in line like they did in 2005, but they know not to cause any trouble and just say âyes sirâ. They are also not publicly standing up for Buck when Gerrard berates him. To me, this is the biggest sign that they all know the best way to survive Gerrard is to say yes, keep your head down, and not cause trouble. This is likely what Tommy and Sal also had to do in 2005. Although they did take it a step further and make jackass comments, they were falling in line to protect themselves, just like Hen, Chim, and Eddie are doing in season 8, which they state in 8x01. They know now, just like they knew ~20 years ago, that standing up against Gerrard would have severe consequences.
No one is asking you to like how Tommy acts at the beginning of Hen and Chim begins: he is purposefully written as a jackass at the beginning to display the workplace environment Gerrard has created. However, it is objectively ignorant to continue on as if he has had no character development. It is intentionally written and shown that he fundamentally changed as a person thanks to Chimney and Hen, and Gerrardâs departure. By Bobby Begins, Tommy is ingrained with Hen and Chim and they are close friends. It is shown in both Chimney Begins and Hen Begins that he made up with them and became friends with them both. Those are scenes that are in the episode.
You donât have to forgive him, but you have to acknowledge that the characters have. If we fast forward to season 7 and Tommyâs return, youâll see:
Bobby saying that Tommy is good people and good for Buck.
Chimney saying that Tommy is so cool.
Hen smiling when Buck and Tommy arrived at Chimneyâs hospital wedding.
Those are not the reactions of people disliking Tommy or holding a grudge.
I donât like how he is written at the beginning of the begins episodes either, but I understand it is intentionally written that way, and that it is also intentionally written to show he has been forgiven and is now friends with everyone. That was half the point of the begins episodes- to show the positive impact that Hen, Chim, and Bobby had on the 118 and the other firefighters working there.
A (long) interpretation of the 8x06 BuckTommy ending
I've been trying to make sense of why Tommy responded to Buck's monologue by breaking up and here are my thoughts. This is all my interpretation and my interpretation only. I'm choosing to believe it because it's the only way the scene makes sense to me. Pls dont get mad about it.
Please feel free to add on and discuss.
I think Tommy was completely ready to overlook the Abby connection until Buck started talking about his relationship with her. I don't think it's the relationship that changed Tommy's mind, but how Buck applied it to their relationship.
Buck said "My relationship with Abby was the most transformative of my life... until now" and I think that's what the nail in the coffin was. While it's incredibly sweet was he was trying to say, what he essentially actually said was "this relationship is another transformation point in my life".
Then when talking about Tommy being confident with himself, Buck says "honestly, it just makes me admire you more". If this weren't a breakup scene, Buck should have said "makes me love you more" here. Again, what he's essentially actually said is "I'm looking up to you and admiring you and learning how to be that way".
While Buck has the absolute best intentions with what he's saying, he's trying to convey to Tommy how much he likes him and appreciates him and wants to be with him (hence why he follows it up by asking Tommy to move in with him), I think Tommy took this as Buck seeing him as a guide.
With the way Buck phrased things, and the things I interpreted from it, it does come off as "you're guiding me through my first gay relationship". Again, I absolutely don't think this is what Buck meant, but I wonder if this is what we were meant to see. Buck still has Tommy on a pedestal because he loves likes him so much; he changed his life for a good way, but maybe his vision is clouded by that. Heâs still in awe of Tommy, but his speech makes it seem like itâs all for the wrong reasons.
Tommy knew he was Buck's first boyfriend, they'd gotten over this hurdle in 7x05 when Tommy leaves Buck as the restaurant and says he's not ready. Buck proved he was ready by coming out and calling Tommy and announcing their relationship publicly.
But here we are, six months later, and instead of Buck telling Tommy he loves him, he's telling him their relationship is transformative for Buck and he admires Tommy. He said the wrong things with good intentions. I think Tommy thought Buck was ready for this, especially after all the progress they made and Buck saying "im ready to take the next step" and move in together, but Buck's monologue comes off as maybe he isn't ready. Whether he is or isn't, I suppose, is up to further interpretation entirely. I think Buck is just Bad with words and Tommy completely misconstrued his entire speech. If Buck really thinks what he's said and implied, maybe he isn't ready in Tommy's mind.
Now this is where I divert into two points:
I think Tommy was somewhat justified in not wanting to be Buck's gay guide. Tommy says "no matter how bad I want it to be... I'm not your last". He's falling for Buck, he wants a forever with Buck. But here Buck is telling him, six months into their relationship, that their relationship is just transformative for him. Or at least that's how it's coming across. At 40 years old, Tommy doesn't need to be someones gay Yoda, and if that's what he's being led to believe he is to Buck, I do think he's justified in breaking up. Nevermind the horrendous miscommunication of this conversation, they should've talked more in-depth and avoided this. Tommy knows, possibly from experience, that relationships like that don't last, and it's in that moment he thinks that's what their relationship is. I dont wholly blame him for ending it if this was his thought process.
The writing. Oh boy. Even Lou in interviews is interpreting the scene and I think when you have actors interpreting a scene they were in, it hasn't been particularly well written. This is the only instance we get where it's implied Tommy is Buck's guide. In every other episode he appears in, their relationship is completely normal and healthy. It seems to be in 8x06 he has been pivoted to act as an Abby 2.0, just a moving point for Buck. Obviously this links back to my points above. They've had to outright spell it to Buck and the audience that Tommy is Buck's first, not his last, and that Buck is still figuring himself out. Now to me, that reads as "we haven't displayed this well enough" which is again poor writing and borderline backtracking on 8x05. If it has to be explicitly said, then they haven't done a good job at showing it, which they haven't. Like I said, their relationship was perfectly normal and healthy up until this point, and it wasn't explicit or even hinted that this was Buck's 'starter relationship'. Buck, Tommy, and the audience were blindsided.
Knowing this still, the breakup still feels like it came out of nowhere. No foreshadowing, no hints. Even the characters dont see it coming (and apparently Lou didnt either). I don't like how it was written, and I believe the reason they gave for the breakup (first not last) is a bit of a cop out. That's not a valid reason. Buck didn't want to breakup, Tommy didn't want to break-up... Both characters were left unhappy. They have every reason to go back to one another.
Buck and Tommy should have been able to talk through it, work through it. This was all a miscommunication because Buck has never exactly had a way with words... There was no reason for it to go down this way and it feels out of character and abrupt. This should have been the hurdle. Instead, the show chose the easy way out to break them up and that sucks because it feels unfinished.
Ironically, because it feels unfinished, it also feels open. There's already fix-it fics that are completely logical. There are so many ways Buck and Tommy can reconcile following this that will be satisfying and beautiful. They can absolutely find their way back to each other and it won't feel forced.