#basically venting

Yes, your blogs are your own. Yes, you might post whatever you want. But please, oh, please take into consideration that this is a community, and therefore, mutual respect is required! 

Roleplaying is, in big measure, about consent, about communication, about respecting one another's decisions. And this is what many of you fail to understand and respect. 

I understand, I have been here for little, only half an year, but still, there is so much that's going on and is morally wrong and stressful, that I can't help but want to vent. And I'm not even going to mention the anon hate going on around. 

Here's the list of stuff that I think is wrong. There might be even more than this, but I can't possibly gather everything in a single post. 

Let us start with the basis: PLOTTING. Now, I know, threads are either winged or plotted before start, in detail. Either way, I believe it's of high importance for the people involved in a thread to talk, mun to mun, about what is to happen. Whatever will happen with the characters needs consent. I have seen muses here that don't plot at all, and let me tell you, it can get uncomfortable for the other roleplayer involved. Please take this into account. 

Now, let's continue with the next... problems. I'll group them all here. These are metagaming, godmodding, autohitting. The latter two are related, meaning that one roleplayer takes control over the other's character without consent; while godmodding implies that the other character did some things he may or may not have actually done, autohitting means one person deciding that their character wounds the other, again, without proper former discussions. Metagaming is having your character know things they are not supposed to know about others, with no proper reason to. Also, even if they were spies, or had a means to know some things, they are implied to know far more than they should, completely ignoring the other characters' background. I think we can all agree these are all wrong. Most people have a rule where they state they don't tolerate these. 

Which brings me to my next point: rules pages. They are there for a reason, and if one is to roleplay with another, one should read that page and respect the aspects written there. 

There is also an item that should, teoretically, be touched only by the roleplayers of age: smutting. Many of us smut, and we all have our rules concerning when, with who, where. Please take this into account when wanting it. While I personally don't see smutting as a central part of roleplaying, I understand there are people who do. But I want everyone to understand, consent is vital. Insistence is not wanted. While some will write that sort of threads with anyone or anytime, others prefer proper development that leads to it, have characters that prefer only one other gender (or none), or simply won't smut (orrefuse to do it on the dashes / in pivate). Do not force us to do whatever you want. Please. In real life it would be sexual assault, and it isn't any less important in here, just because it's the muse that's involved. There are real people behind the characters, and they can feel attacked. 

Linked with smutting, are, usually, ships. You can like whatever you want, you can dislike whatever you like, but DO NOT BASH THE SHIPS AND SHIPPERS. I doubt this needs further explanations. Many people tag their OTPs, you have a problem, either unfollow or use Tumblr Savior. 

Passive-aggressiveness... is another way for many to bash. Many call it venting, but it's getting to the point where it's just plain old bullying. It's not cool. From saying "oc x sucks" to "I hate this ship" or even other things indirectly directed to other muns, but which can make people feel bad. It's just rude. 

Ah yes. White knighting. Usually generated either by the formerly mentioned passive aggressiveness or by benevolent friends who want to attack the person who bothered their friend. It is a form of bullying, which very often goes hand in hand with anon hate. Because, honestly, I rarely saw white knighting done in a decent, calm way. 

Bashing OCs openly.... because they're OCs. Especially female ones. The terms Mary Sue and Gary Stu are frequently misused in the roleplaying world, and this can shatter many people's self confidence. While you have the right to dislike another character, as long as you are not able to send asked for, constructive criticism, you can very well not send it. Just unfollow. There are so many things good old ufollow can solve, you wouldn't believe! 

Pressing your character onto another (forcing ships). Again, consent is vital. Stop forcing the other character to sleep with yours, do stuff with yours, fall in love with yours when the mun doesn't agree / the character has no intention to do that whatsoever. Ask for permission and plot this, first of all, if you want a ship. Otherwise it's forcing the other mun's hand. 

The anons forcing a ship to happen.... it's not gonna happen out of your will. It's the involved muns' decision. 

The mun's morals are not the muse's morals! Stop bashing people for their characters' decisions. 

Not tagging triggers. This is basic Tumblr etiquette. People are sensitive to various subjects, therefore trigger tags are highly needed. I, for example, am very sensitive to animal cruelty, so, when I see that, my mood instantly drops. Please use the tags. 

Saying "it's my blog and I run it however I want". It's partially true. You also have to be respectful and take into account the fact that some people might be bothered by certain things. Tags are a way to avoid conflicts. 

Insistence (asking more times for smut, threads, constantly reminding another person that they owe). Once is enough. 

I think it can be seen how much I mentioned mun to mun communication and consent are. I't because they are key elements. Also, please respect each other and each other's wishes!