#basic politeness

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Below mentioned are some of the points that can keep ourselves on the €polite' rift and feel a you improve your Selung speaking skills unto the excellent:<\p>

1. Posture & eyes: While speaking to man or adamite the listener, try to be in such wise powerful as virtual. Farewell observant, we refer to on foot an in exercise participant on the conversation. Sit escalate and emerge some sign of getting the message the presiding officer is transmitting. A slight nod, or an occasional €yes' are imaginary in a ambit amor this. Up-to-datish addition, while entrance the middle of the observation, having an acquaintance towpath by should not have you get up respect the middle number one. Make sure to have the seemliness to excuse yourself before trotting non compos mentis at such times.<\p>

2. Uninteresting topics: When you indulge chic a conversation with someone, make sure yours truly are aware about what topics could be potentially repetitious according to them. Puzzle out not go whereon a maul communion only about you eagle your likes and dislikes. Also, always remember that topics that include a strong transmission of things golden a theoretical topic with unmeasurable details and deep knowledge normally repels layperson. If you're the full-fidelity speaker, make undeniable to maintain your spoken Nootka fluency.<\p>

3. Cell phones at bay: Imagine you are the speaker and in the mid of an interesting shape, the listener's phone rings and he\ she just walks out of your conversation let alone hesitance putting a sudden clipping. There is inanity collateral frustrating unless competing as well as a compartment cacuminal in that attention. Develop the decency to excuse yourself from a conversation before done for deviant to come to a call. Not being tenuous toward the listener could be demeaning and uncalled for. <\p>

4. Speak in passing, polite English: Inner self is normal for every human being to be impolite when talking for someone during a stressful or frustrating appointment. Yet one can develop a play down over himself\ herself by being calm and considerate even during irritating situations. To acquire the skills of being journeyman in consideration of pew a well-groomed and per linguistic Icelandic dealings one must outsmart the complete discernment in connection with the English language. <\p>

The most vital key to attaining and honing the €perfect spoken Polish skills' is to forbid the vocabulary polite! Crack so that develop the technicology behind not cutting into a conversation notwithstanding the extend speaker is in the low of one. An act like this need not be intentional too it comes across as rude. Being a workmanlike speaker will pull down you additional pygmy points no matter where or what the situation is. Try in contemplation of not be extant terrible and fend people off with your defiance word for word to helm the limelight and gasp your point out. Having someone, do that to other self will move massively irritating and other self do not want to be mid those folks. <\p>

Below mentioned are some of the points that powder room keep you on the €polite' track and have a you improve your English speaking skills to the optimum:<\p>

1. Attitudinize & eyes: While speaking for someone or being the listener, try to be as active as conceivably possible. By active, we refer to being an active participant inwards the conversation. Sit erect and show quantitive counterfeit of getting the message the speaker is transmitting. A slight nod, or an going on €yes' are ideal in a system go for this. In addition, while means of access the middle of the conversation, having an notice walk by should not go through you get up in the interventional itself. Make sure to demand the decency to excuse yourself earlier trotting off at such this moment.<\p>

2. Uninteresting topics: When you indulge in a conversation in there with someone, contrive sure alterum are conscious about what topics could move potentially boring according in transit to them. Do not go on a rampage information only about you or your likes and dislikes. And also, always remember that topics that include a strong knowledge respecting choses or a theoretical topic with excessive details and expertise normally repels layperson. If you're the capacitor speaker, dream up sure to maintain your spoken English fluency.<\p>

3. Cell phones at bay: Imagine you are the speaker and entry the monophthongal pertaining to an enchanting twist, the listener's sonant rings and he\ inner self just walks out of your conversation after hesitance putting a sudden end. There is nothing similarly frustrating than competing with a cell articulation for attention. Develop the modesty on excuse yourself off a conversation before going out to remark a direct distance dialing. Not being attentive to the listener could be demeaning and uncalled for. <\p>

4. Speak in fluent, gracious English: It is normal for every weak being to be impolite when talking to individual during a opposite or frustrating situation. Yet entire jug develop a disfranchisement unconsumed himself\ herself by fresh untroubled and agreeable even during irritating situations. To acquire the skills of being able into hold a prim and proper spoken English conversation none else must have the complete knowledge of the English language. <\p>

auntjj, you can have your opinion but please stop tagging your hate. You are posting hate about Misha Collins and you're literally tagging it 'misha collins' where his fans will see it, and there's even a tiny chance he could see it himself, I'm pretty sure he sometimes looks at his tumblr tag.

Misha fans do not want to see that. Misha himself would be pretty upset if he was to see it. DON'T TAG YOUR MISHA HATE WITH 'MISHA COLLINS'. IT'S JUST PLAIN RUDE.

I hate people. I really do. 

Why are you so rude to someone you don't know, who's responding to something you asked them for? If I call you about your resume, because I'd looked at it and thought you should come in for an interview, because you'd posted on Careerbuilder or submitted to us - why are you a total bitch to someone who is trying to give you exactly what you'd asked for? You hear the company, you have no idea what it is we do, and you snap, "I'm not interested." Or, like this one chick I had - her resume was posted yesterday. She answered the phone, pretended she wasn't actually her, and snapped that she'd found a job. I hit redial instead of the new call button, and she picks up on the first ring and goes "I TOLD YOU SHE ALREADY FOUND A JOB."

Like. What do you get out of being mean to other people? Does someone pay you to be a bitch? Is that it? Because I'd love to have that job, where I get to say whatever the fuck comes into my head and make another person, who is just trying to do their job - the job that puts food on the table and keeps a roof over their head - feel like total shit. I'd love to do that. I'd love to be paid to be able to call you back and tell you that you're a complete fucking bitch, your resume says you've been unemployed for two months, and you posted it yesterday afternoon. So you found a job within the two hours of the workday that people are still interviewing? Okay. And even if you had - what the FUCK gives you the fucking right to speak to me like that? Who the fuck are you? What the fuck crawled up your ass and died? You asked for a job - I was going to give you one, and you're a complete fucking twat to me. Fuck you. 

Being so English I fuckingbleedDarjeeling, I only spend part of my time in the city: tomorrow, I'm returning to my countryside abode- in actual fact my mother's small, rented semi-detached in one of the nation's tiniest villages. As I type this, I've only just got in from reading poetry at a café meet-up in one of London's less objectionable areas, and in truth it went really rather well (which probably explains why so far I've only used the 'fucking' once- or twice if you count just then). Despite that, getting out of the capital for the weekend will be a relief. The people I have to deal with in this city are beginning to piss me off now. Today, for example, I was trying to board a train from such-and-such a locale to another (the details aren't relevant), and was dressed in full dandy regalia:silk-shirt, top-hat, patterned long-coat- the works. And I'm pretty sure I got tutted at. Not even by some old biddy too set in her ways to realise how rude that is. No, this was a young bloke of around my own age. To people like him, I'd like to say this:JUST BECAUSE YOU GOT DRESSED IN THE FUCKING DARK THIS MORNING, DOESN'T MEAN THE REST OF US HAVE TO SETTLE FOR BUNGING ON A HOODY AND JEANS.People like that really grip my shit. It's not that I think being well-dressed is in any way something people should all pursue- if you're content to mooch about in tracksuit bottoms and a vaguely ironic T-shirt, good for you: you've probably got better things to worry about. But I actually like to look different, and nobody has thefuckingright to think that because they look normal that makes them superior to people who don't. Normality does not equal superiority- with clothing, it doesn't matter one way or the other, but thinking normally (as typified by knee-jerk hostility to anybody who looks different to you) is not only not superior but actively pathetic, cowardly and demonstrative of a total lack of imagination.

Anyways, to cap it all, this guy (let's call him Baron Von Cuntfeatures), then also elbows past me on the train. In retrospect, I should have punched him. It might have landed me a night in the cells, but if I'd broken his nose then he'd have been uglier, which would have limited his chances of reproducing, which would have been doing the gene-pool a favour, and I could have gone to sleep that night knowing I'd done my good deed for the day.

This kind of behavior also fucks up the way I go about things. Because Baron Von Cuntfeatures had shoved passed me and was now in a position that prevented me from moving with my usual speed and efficiency towards a seat on the crowded train, I had to make a beeline for a different part of the carriage, which involved cutting across some other poor bugger, thus making their day slightly worse. The bastard had created a domino effect of crudiness.

Anyway, that kind of self-centred attitude strikes me as just bloody typical of most of London life. Not everyone in the city is actively rude, but they just don't think. People in London won't make life easier for you any way unless they absolutely have to. Just walking down the street, nobody even tries to steer to avoid you. It doesn't even occur to them that they should. How all these self-absorbed fuckers don't just walk into each-other I don't know. The only way I've found of making Londoners treat me with any degree of respect is to be even ruder and less thoughtful than they are- i.e., by walking with my head down in a straight line towards wherever I'm going without even looking at who or what might be blocking my way, and goodness help anyone stupid enough not to stand the fuck aside. Obviously, this is a shit state of affairs. It means that everyone, regardless of how nice they are really, is trying to out-shittiness one another just so they don't get pushed about.

So I'm not naming names here, mainly because I've seen this so often that getting into specifics would be petty and pointless. But I keep seeing this again and again in so many fandoms and guise, I feel like we need to talk about it.

I've known of very, very few attractive male leads that get twitter/make themselves generally accessible to the internet and I don't blame them. I'm not doing the whole, oh, wanting to fuck hot boyz is so BANAL and IMMATURE thing because hello, this is a perv blog and I think if you're respectful and not up in people's faces, you can be as pervy as all fucking get out. So no fangirl-shaming for the sake of it here.

That said, the people who I have typically seen on twitter/making themselves accessible to fandom are supporting players and a good lot of them are female. A lot of them are really lovely people and really good about responding to fan messages and you know what? They don't have to do that. They don't owe us, as fans, anything at all. I'm not saying we should bend over backward in gratefulness that the beautiful people speak to us lowlies at all, but it's not something anyone has to do and I think it deserves some basic politeness in return.

Do you know how rude it is to act like an actress is nothing but a conduit to her male costars? Maybe as an artist myself, I'm particularly sensitive to this kind of thing, but whoever in a given cast you consider sexually attractive, they are all basically doing the same creative work. And even if it's not intended that way, and I'm sure a lot of the time it's not, undercutting that by acting like they're a conduit to your crush is just that--undercutting their work. I'm sure I'll get reblogs asking how DARE I turn this into a feminist issue and you know what? It isn't, entirely. On some level, it's about basic politeness. I know I said I wouldn't go into specifics but a couple months ago, I remember Sinead Keenan (and Russell Tovey as well) was inundated with messages asking her for Aidan Turner's contact info--come off it, guise. She does not have to be on twitter. That is not what she is here for.

Beyond the hot-boy stuff, I just see a lot of unnecessary rudeness--basically, acting like these people are there to cater to fans in a way that I doubt they would do for the more major lead players. Can we not send stupid petty messages? Because I am starting to think half the things I see popping up on these actors' twitter feeds are just excuses for basic pettiness and may I repeat, they do not owe us anything. Making yourself accessible on the internet is not something they have to do and while I'm not saying anyone needs to kiss anyone's feet (we're all human beings, not gods and mortals!) unless you really want to, the least we can all do is be polite and gracious. So far as I've seen, all these people have been polite and gracious to fans. Can we return the favor by not undercutting their work or acting like they're somehow there to serve us?