#bafoolery

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and they make a comment that completely throws you for a loop and all you wanna say to them is: "Really!?" and give them the hardest side eye ever? Well this happened a fairly recently to me. I was in the midst of enlightening conversation amongst friends and associates when a statement arose that left me baffled and bit upset.

So this is my deal. I am all for change and the betterment of oneself, BUT in the process of all this change and revamping of one's life, a person should (1) NEVER forget where they came from and (2) NEVER look down or criticize someone who may be where they once were. That really "grinds my gears." This type of mentality is seen throughout many social organizations but the two places it bothers me the most is in church and in the homosexual male community (because I cannot speak for other classifications but my own...lol).

The Church:

Everyone in the church is "supposed" to be delivered and saved and fighting to win souls for Christ, but how can a person do that if they are always looking down on the "sinner" and judging that person for his/her actions? That doesn't seem very Christian-like to me. Also, I feel that instead of acting like sin never existed in their lives, Christians should draw upon those experiences and use them as teaching tools to reach out to the sinner and educate. (To do that the Christians need to really educate themselves and do some research and not just go by what a Minister/Preacher/Evangelist/Bishop/Apostle says.)

The Homosexual Male Community:

A lot of times in the GLBTQ community people are not comfortable with themselves and try to change. The overly feminine guy will start to go to the gym and modify his wardrobe and speak a lil differently because he feels the need to change (for whatever reason) and when he gets to where he thinks he needs to be, he all of a sudden starts to look down on other feminine guys and refer to them in terms that they, at one point in time, felt were derogatory or offensive. Then, there are the people who act like they have never participated in gay events, have never been to a gay club, have never slept with another man, and its almost as if they were never gay! *gasp* And they want to try to convince others to change like being gay is a choice. So that is how you are going to act? This bothers me to no end because I feel like it is a bunch of hypocrisy and as my friend Lopez would say "Bafoolery."