#bad feedback

I am not sure if many will see this but I feel like I’d like to give my two cents real quick

I got some backlash (or the closest I’ve gotten so far that would look like backlash) from this ask request I did - both from the original requester and from a second user (who’s ask I was not able to open on anything but mail for some reason) not being satisfied with me not drawing Jim in a specific dress 

The ask I got was this: 

Jim dress please 

Well here’s a few things I hope you guys (used genderneutral here) will consider before asking others in the future: 

1) Remember this is something we do for free - we are offering you a service you’d normally have to pay for and it may take us a lot of time and effort to make the art as great as possible. In this case I was drawing a doodle yet had I gone for a more ambitious artwork that’ll been minimum 2-3 hours of love put into it just be met with grumpy ‘this is not the right dress’ replies - please consider to let people know you appreciate their work next time with for instance phrasing the feedback like this instead “thank you so much for taking my request I am very happy. Unfortunately we may have misunderstood each other: when I said I wanted “Jim dress” I meant I would have liked to see Jim in the strawberry and/or watermelon dress. I am sorry for the confusion” 

2) Please be more precise when/if you request somebody - we are not mindreaders - some of us may not know your “brand” or what you are wanting to see so to simply write “Jim dress please” is very ambigious and can be read in a lot of different ways. I’d recommend writing some like “Would you be so kind to draw Jim in the strawberry or watermelon dress please? here are some links to which dresses I am referring to” (the last part is optional but a huge help) 

3) This last one ties back into the first one: I hope you guys remember you are talking to another person on the other end of the screen - we all have different lives and some may have less time than others to both research exactly what you mean by your request but also with drawing in general - we also have different personal and emotional limits so for some getting bad feedback for a drawing they made may destroy their whole day - granted the feedback I’ve received was not the worst it did leave me with a bit of a bad taste in my mouth and made me remember why I stopped doing request on my main media (deviantart) in the first place

In conclusion: Communication is key, not everybody has unlimited time and care to put into every artwork or research for an artwork when nesecary information is missing, and requests are gifts so negative feedback without appreciation honestly to me is rude and ungrateful 

Advice please?

I got this comment and I feel so, so awful. I’m not sure on how to reply to it; like if I’m seeing this as unnecessarily mean or if it’s actual con crit and I should be nice. I don’t know why the beards are mentioned either; this person seems to read Larry fics though by their bookmarks.

Listen.  I like getting feedback as much as the next writer.  It’s useful and a necessary part of the writing process.

but.

ya can’t just go and spend a wholeass paragraph asking for “how” or “why” a character is non-binary.  Imagine them how you will, but maybe I just wrote them non-binary because I’m non-binary and I felt like it?  Did you consider that I don’t owe you an explanation for their gender?

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