#babes.

Did yall know some people's definition of who is 'tma/tme' is 'if someone is oppressed by transmisogyny'?

Like.

Babes. That's everyone.

The argument they made was 'yeah, everyone can EXPERIENCE transmisogyny, but not everyone is oppressed by it', and. Just. A sheer fundamental misunderstanding of what oppression IS and how it WORKS.

Like, idk about you, but I feel like butch lesbians and/or just 'ugly**' cis women getting assaulted (sexually or otherwise) in bathrooms because someone thought they were trans women are being oppressed by the transmisogyny that fueled that interaction.

Cis men who are drag queens are for sure being oppressed by transmisogyny when they're predator-jacketed and called pedophiles for doing drag near someone who's even THINKING of children, let alone actually being around them.

And it's not even specific to 'people being mistaken for tans women', because trans men/mascs being called 'silly/sick/brainwashed little girls' are being oppressed by transmisogyny***.

The problem with the terms is just that there IS never an experience that one marginalized group has that cannot and has not ever applied to any other marginalized group in a way that could be called 'oppression'.

All of our forms of oppression overlap with each other because it doesn't actually matter what SPECIFICALLY is 'wrong' with us, we're just 'wrong' in the eyes of the system that shapes our societies.

Transmisogyny, transandrophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia, aphobia, etc etc etc are all useful terms - just like identity labels are - because they can help us understand how certain types of bigotries manifest, but they're DESCRIPTIVE terms, not prescriptive ones. They describe how things often are, not how they MUST be.

Anyway that blog is like. Super blocked now.

(*I also do this so that I can block people agreeing with the bad takes in the notes of said bad take posts. Depending on how popular the account is this can be exhausting, but there's fewer people every time so. Worth it in the end imo.)

(**'Ugly' by white cishetero patriarchal standards, not my own.)

(***As the term is used to describe the convergence of 'trans people****' and 'people who experience misogyny', I believe it applies here.)

babe 😩

Not only that but then they're like no a SPECIFIC type of woman the REAL woman who can HAVE KIDS and has been ABUSED BY MEN.

Like. Why is this all over this hellsite like men and women werent performing magic throughout the ages. "Witchcraft" wasnt something that those people wanted to be associated with. Because they were doing magic but they weren't witches. Up until recently witches were considered BAD.

Even in pagan communities where the magic is embedded within people's daily lives- especially historically, they weren't witches. They didn't call themselves that. They were wise men and women, teachers, philosophers, healers, etc. etc. But never once to themselves were they witches.

Men and women have always been apart of the craft, they didn't just do their ritual and one day and then continue on with their lives for the week- magic wasn't something to take off or put on. It grows in the Earth. It fed them, and clothed them. It gave them land and sea and air. Magic was in and around everything, everywhere. It wasn't called magic, it was just life.

Witches, in European countries specifically, were believed to stop the crops from growing. To bring sickness upon your house. There were wards and charms and prayers to specific gods to keep them away. To protect livestock and households from their "bad" magic.

Witch was not a nice thing to be associated with. Please learn the history of the word y'all are using. Witches today are not what witches of the past were.

And men have always been included in the craft. It's embarrassing to put these labels on these things. They'll defend it by saying creating life was the first magic, and the source of divine power blah-blah whatever. To create life you have to have a man and a woman. An unplanted field isn't going to grow new crops. The creation of life isn't an entirely female process. The nurturing of the fetus is, but more goes into creating life than just giving birth.

i only ever take pictures of you when you’re not looking or you’re doing something ridiculous. here you are doing both. happy father’s day, amor mio 💖