#autumntides

"It is my belief that you are being recruited by a high-control group and that this will damage your ability to love yourself and connect with strangers." You mean trans men? You mean trans men. There is literally no other way to take this unless you mean the patriarchy, which upholds the false fact that trans men uphold it for their own gain. This is literally what conservatives use to say that LGBTQ+ people are coercing minors. Why are you using the words of the enemy?

The beginning of this next section really feels like, once again, something I would see a "good, well meaning conservative christian" try to tell me when they see my lifestyle. This is a classic virtue complex of some sort, it is not my job to uphold your moral standing. You are not going to save me in any way.

This leads, rather funnily, into the rest of this section. "I think your claim that trans women are "punching down" when they expect trans men on Tumblr to be transmisogynistic by default is more than just incidental poor phrasing. Concepts like that don't come from nowhere. They are instilled by rhetoric and social forces." You would be somewhat correct. That phrasing was on purpose, directly chosen because it's fucking true. If you decide that an entire demographic of trans people on a site are out to get you, and you especially spread that rhetoric, you are punching down. You should know better than anyone with your supposed "higher knowledge" of how people view themselves and others than even they do, that this shit doesn't just stay in Tumblr. Someone will go to Reddit, to Twitter, to Bluesky, to eventually real fucking life expecting for trans men to hate them, for transmascs to hurt them. You are supporting radfems. This is quite literally the equivalent of expecting every transfem I come across on here to be violent towards us, when we know this isn't fucking true. Stop throwing your brothers to the wolves.

The rest of this ask is simply spewing therapy talk, "humble, down-to-earth" bullshit to attempt to make me feel like a bad person for saying that maybe expecting every transmasc you meet to be violently hateful is a bad ideology to instill within yourself and others. I didn't check their bio before blocking them so I don't know their pronouns, but I seriously hope that they are not transmasc/a trans man, because this has to be the most aggressive self-hatred projected on other people that I've seen in a while.

You are attempting to get trans men to sit down and shut up with the hatred they're given simply because they are men. You are attempting to shut us down while you put on the air of being morally above them on your high horse and words of pure condescension. I see trans men and trans women to be equal, with radfems attempting to use their weight in the community to put us below them with the falsehood that we are privileged and violent. If you see yourself agreeing with the same people that bully and harass us into detransitioning, that call us "birthday boys" and "cuntboys" and "gender traitors," that push people into hurting themselves,

the same people that have harassed so many unnamed brothers to suicide, then you're supporting the wrong side.

You do not care for kindness, you do not care for love, nor for grace, you care for telling the people you don't like in your community to be quiet with the abuse they face while you throw around your virtues and morality to appease those around you.

I know this won't make a difference, that you won't see this or even if you do, you'll use it as something to boost your own inflated ego, but my point still stands.