#atatu

You cannot claim that people against incest are being "transmisogynistic". You cannot claim that people against pedophilia are "transmisogynistic"

If you tie the concept of trans women and incest and pedophilia as inseparable in your mind so that anyone who doesn't tolerate incest and pedophilia are somehow "hating on all trans women" that says more about YOUR mentality than anyone elses.

You cannot tie the concept of "trans women are all inherently pedophiles and into incest" together and then claim that's 100% always true and then say the people (including other trans women!!!) who are standing up against pedophilia and incest are "calling all trans women incestuous pedophiles" because that's LITERALLY WHAT YOU YOURSELF ARE DOING AND WE'RE FIGHTING BACK AGAINST THAT SHIT .

incest is not morally neutral, incest is child abuse, child rape, and pedophilia, and anyone who wants you to believe incest is fine and neutral is someone you need to block, deplatform, and warn others away from just the same as you do ISFF.

Block @/anti-tma-and-tme-users .

Misusing the term Purity Culture (which is a specific term about the damaging and traumatic effects of religious trauma has, especially on women in terms of sexual health and self worth), claiming that the people against ISFF and Patricia Taxxon are the ones equating trans women with pedophiles (as though ISFF is not the one who boldly made that claim and we're all fighting back against that shit?) and incest kinks, and claims, just like ISFF, that "if its just written text, it can't harm anyone as long as its fiction!!" As though that same fiction is not directly and actively used to groom children.

morbidica did everything she could to try and clear your name, but Judas's little fuckwits manipulated you into thinking she had insulted your whole bloodline.

And then theres the fact that you have supported a known rapist and led a harrassment campaign against anothet intersex transfem blogger who was stealing the limelight you thought u deserved.

POORLY WORDED?!

"being into incest is fine as long as it's fictional" is just POORLY WORDED?!

THAT'S A STRAIGHT-UP CONFESSION, BUDDY

A lot of people on this website do not want to do the work of unpacking trauma based kinks, and think that pushing back on the stance of all kinks and sexual fantasies are always morally neuteral with no nuance, under the guise of sex positivity, is equivalent to harassment and hatespeech. A lot of the same people who opposed ISFF think like this based on their responses to this situation. It's scary because this mindset created the conditions that made ISFF feel safe saying the shit that she did, and its why we keep having The Big Tumblr Discourse every couple of years that involves someone trying to normalizes some paraphilia. The way that a lot of yall are defending atatu without even looking at my evidence or the original post are complicit in creating this environment.

Piping hot take, the people that were so vocally against ISFF that are now trying to defend atatu even after seeing my evidence posts were probably in ISFF discourse because they saw it as a game and saw that the safe bet was to be against her because that was the general consensus of most of the website. But when it comes to confronting someone that isn't The Big Discourse Fish they suddenly apply "well this is just my general thoughts on x," or "I haven't been keeping up with x" or they regurgitate the bullshit of transmisogyny and smear campaigns that other users with larger followings start spewing.

turning off anon means people who still want to speak to you privately can, but it means people are not allowed to hide behind pretending they're faceless masses when in reality it's one single person usually spamming an inbox.

The number of times I've had my inbox filled with 15 different messages claiming to be from 10 different people all supporting pedophilia in fiction "because its just fiction!!" Only to block exactly one anonymous and suddenly all of the other messages vanish and I don't receive anymore in the future?

Yeah, that's exactly why these people use anon -- They can pretend to be as many people as they want, with as many "nuanced" opinions as they want, and you will literally never realize that until you block one, and suddenly they all vanish.

If anons are trying to shame you into shutting up about not supporting incest, screenshot and block that Anon instead of replying to it directly, and then wait and see how many other anans you get, if you get any at all.

When i wrote my "baby's first discourse" hiatus post i was not aware of ATATU's rape defense connections. Once again, we convienetly ignore time stamps, context and interpret everything in bad faith. I didnt really know what else to call it at the time. Wtf should i call it now? Drama? that makes it feel more petty and insignificant. The ATATU incident? what do i say??

100% of the messiness of this situation could have been avoided if i blocked yall once i had everything holy shiiiiit

post in question:

Many people have been talking about how rjalker, walks-the-ages and nixthekat have been rude or abrasive to those asking for clarification or for evidence. I do believe this is partially my fault for not posting evidence of the reply chain sooner, and I do think a lot of miscommunication could have been avoided if I acted in a timely manner. For that I sincerely apologize.

However, there is a difference between standing up for yourself as an abuse victim via calling out those who are defending abuse apologia, by providing evidence of wrongdoings, and then there is cussing out someone out who is genuinely asking for evidence and clarification in good faith. strawberrycheesecakehare is totally valid in blocking these users based on their conduct and manner of speaking towards them in that reblog chain. They were simply asking for evidence as a good faith actor and were met with pure vitriol with 0 evidence. They were then accused of tone policing for asking to not be cussed out while continuining to ask for evidence. Even though everyone is now on the same page with regards to ATATU in this circle, alliances have been broken due to these responses. Perhaps one day everyone can reconcile, but that doesn't seem likely at this moment.

As abuse victims, it is totally valid to be angry at people defending abuse apologia, and I have always encouraged victims to be blunt and to not coddle abusers feelings. I also understand how a situation like this can trigger strong feelings in abuse victims and how these feelings can propel their activism. However, when your emotions are so inflamed that you cannot differentiate someone asking about something in good faith with someone who is defending abuse, or to even ask for tone indication or clarification, that is when you need to take a step back. Please understand that not everything needs a response right at that moment when you're at the point of cussing someone out. If these folks continue to lash out at those asking in good faith because they are so consumed by their emotions that they are unable to step back and determine what that person's intentions are, I do feel like they will lose allies in the long run. When someone is asking you in good faith for evidence that you have (which ik yall do because there has been so much screenshots posted and shared of the original rent lowering gunshots post), post the evidence, elaborate on certain points if you must, and if the person still wants to be contrarian then you can block or choose to engage at your leisure. Your last response should be calling mfs gullible and cussing at them without providing an iota of evidence.

To the 3 people mentioned: I'm not saying you can't cuss in posts or that you have to pussyfoot around abusers feelings. All I'm saying is is that if you are at a point emotionally where you can't differentiate between a good faith actor asking for evidence and an actual abuse apologist, this is a sign that you need to step back and take care of your mental health. I understand that you're angry and upset, but ultimately if you lash out at those who are trying to get the other side's story and evidence, its not surprising that people are gonna block you.