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Rule 2: Answer the questions the person who tagged you has written you and write 11 new ones.

Rule 3: Tag 11 new people and link them to your post.

Rule 4: Let them know you’ve tagged them.

I was tagged by livingmywayeveryday

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Do you have a special place to go and just sit and think and clear your head? I like to go to my room. My house is smaller so it’s really the only place that I can sit and think without being interrupted.

What is your favourite food? Chicken! :3 and Mexican food

What are your favourite song lyrics? Oh jeez there’s a lot…but this one is probably my favorite:

“There will come a time, you’ll see, with no more tears.

And love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears” –Mumford and Sons

4. What is your earliest childhood memory? Probably when I was two and I had pneumonia and was crazy sick…it was not fun.

5. What room of your house are you sitting in right now? My dining room

6. What is your attitude towards school? I like to learn, don’t get me wrong. Sometimes I even like doing my homework. I love my friends. But everyone else annoys me and sucks the fun out of it.

7. What would you do if you got a call saying both your parents are dead? I would probably die of a broken heart, no joke.

8. What colour describes your personality? Hmm…red, maybe? I’m a total romantic so I guess that’s the color for love, and I tend to romanticize a lot of things…

9. If you could kill someone with no repercussions whatsoever, would you do it? No, even though people deserve it, I would never.

10. Do you have a crush on anyone? Do fictional characters count? Umm…I did…but he’s no longer with us.

11. Do you know a person who completely changed your life when you met them? Yes! My best friend Lainey taught me how to have fun and not take things so seriously (even though I still do)and she’s always been there for me and lets me rant and get angry and is straight up with  me. Sam is just an angel, honestly. She’s a good listener and has seen me break down like five times and is still my friend.

Part Two:

If you could live as a character in any book, which one and why?

Oh gods, um I would like to exist as myself in Harry Potter, Percy Jackson, The Fault In Our Stars just so I could fangirl about my OTPs and in Lord of the Rings so I could get some wisdom from Gandalf.

2. What is one thing you'd like to change about yourself?

My skin…it breaks out a lot. :P

3. What is one thing you couldn't live without?

My friends and family!

4. What's your favorite/lucky number?

7

5. Dream job?

A writer!

6. If you could be anywhere right now, (fictional place or real!) where would it be?

Norman, OK going to college or Middle Earth honestly.

7. What book are you currently reading?

Paper Towns by John Green

8. What are you most looking forward to about 2013?

Graduating high school and going to college!

9. What is one thing you're really nervous about?

Not getting enough money for college

10. If you could have any pet animal in the world, what would you have? Why?

A dog because both of my dogs died within a short amount of time of each other and I miss having a snuggle buddy:(

11. If you could meet one famous person, who would you meet and what would you tell them?

Emma Stone and I would tell her she’s one of my heroes.

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My questions:

1. Do you have any siblings?

2. Favorite book?

3. If you're having a bad day, what cheers you up?

4. What is your ultimate OTP?

5. Who is your favorite actor/actress? Why?

6. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?

7. What's your favorite class in school?

8. What is your biggest pet peeve?

9. What does tumblr mean to you?

10. What is the first thing you look for in a significant other?

Where was I telling you what you do or don't know? I mean, other than the scientific fact that a clump of cells not viable for life outside the body isn't a baby, it's a fetus. I was simply letting you know how your post came across.

And like I said, I have no issue with you holding those beliefs for yourself. My issue comes when you classify something like abortion as murder, when you say that being a virgin allows you to be closer to your husband. When you make statements like that, you come across as holier-than-thou.

And once again with the disingenuous apology. "I'm sorry it came across as such" not "I'm sorry I said something so thoughtless that hurt other people." You never said those points only applied to you. In fact saying "I believe abortion is murder" you're stating your views on it for anyone. You didn't say "Abortion isn't for me."

In saying it's murder, in saying it's never okay, not even in cases of rape, you're saying no matter what there's no excuse.

And AS I SAID, holding those views for yourself is fine, holding that you don't want an abortion is fine, but in saying "It's murder," no, that's not a personal view for yourself. That's a view you hold for anyone. That's like a vegan saying "Well, I think meat is murder for ME, but for YOU it's fine."

Nope, doesn't work that way. If you think abortion is murder, explain to me how you don't think every woman who has an abortion is a murderer. Explain to me that. Because honestly, it doesn't compute. How does it only make YOU a murderer if you have one, but not other women?

You didn't say you don't believe in it for you. You said you believe it's murder and it's wrong. You never specified. By phrasing it like that, you're saying you don't think it should happen at all. You said you "don't think it's okay in the instance of rape, because the baby is innocent." You're saying all abortion is murder, not that you don't believe in it for yourself.

You also believe in abstinence. That's fine and dandy. But including that is saying "If you open your legs and get pregnant, it's your own damned fault."

Well guess what? Your views are out there, there's no taking them back.

And "I'm sorry for offending you"? How about "I'm sorry for putting damaging and hurtful words out there that cause real pain"? I'm sorry, but I don't think you're sorry for "offending me". I think you're sorry that you got called on your words.

If you didn't believe in abortion for yourself, you would have phrased it as such. Any feminist on tumblr isn't going to tell you you're a bad feminist for not believing in abortion for yourself. The fact you've been called on this before, to the point you needed to write a post on it tells me you put these thoughtless words out there before. You've gotten called on it.

No fucking feminist is going to get on you for your own beliefs. They only come after you on subjects like this when you making generalizations about abortion being murder. Which it isn't. It's taking a clump of cells that isn't viable for life outside of the womb from the person's uterus, taking something that person doesn't want there, and making their lives easier.

Also, if you knew one damned thing about abortion, you'd know that in the majority of cases, women get them because their birth control failed. Not because they're using abortion as a form of birth control.

Also, as far as the abstinence thing, that's all well and good for you for not wanting to have sex, but you're categorizing people who have premarital sex as somehow less than you by posting "I want to feel more connected to my husband" as if somehow not being his first makes you worth less than someone who's virginal.

THIS is why you're being told you're not a good feminist. You're subscribing to the idea that abortion isn't something that isn't a moral issue (BECAUSE IT'S NOT) and your post comes off as slut shaming, on top of it all. You have a right to think these things, but by phrasing things the way you did, you come off as holier than thou and anti-choice.