I wish more ppl spoke about the fact that submissive bottoms can rape their tops
Im tired of anti-kink/swerfs/terfs framing dominants and tops as the sole perpetrators of abuse when frequently tops get sexually assaulted by their bottoms or doms get assaulted by their submissives
I am a switch top, i was dominating and topping my ex girlfriend when she repeatedly raped me in the course of a week by coercing me and forcing me to keep going past limits or pining me and riding me even after i begged her to stop because i was too tired and my body hurt
I am so tired of being overlooked and disregarded as a victim solely on the inaccurate basis that all dominants willing to dish out hard kinks are abusers and all submissives are poor frail victims
I am a hypermasculine dominant stone butch lesbian with hard kinks,
I was raped by my ex girlfriend who identified as a Femme lesbian, a total bottom, and a submissive
Whether we engaged in kink or not would not have saved me
We could of hsd the most vanilla sex ever and she would have found a way to push me past limits and break my boundaries for her greedy ass pleasure
Rapists will rape.
Whether vanilla or kinky it does not matter, being anti-kink will not save you.
I actually feel safer within the kink community at large due to the huge emphasis in the general community on consent and even agreements, scene set ups, contracts, and big discussions on aftercare.
Just like in any spaces, there will be awful ppl who do bad things
But at large, the kink community is one of respect and consent and has allowed me to heal and understand my limits and desires better and feel more confident advocating for myself and making sure to educate and inform people around me so they can have safe sane and consensual sex









