#askpsl

A home-cooked meal! You’re savoring every bite? You’re going back for seconds? You just couldn’t get enough and now you’re sprawled out on the couch shirt up and pants undone? And it’s all because of something I made? Amazing.

OH YES 🥵

A former athlete who has slowed down in the gym/on the field whose appetite hasn't gotten the memo? Who unintentionally packs on a few pounds? That's a top tier feedism trope for me!

Maybe there's even a bit of denial at first.

"This shirt fits differently. It must have shrunk in the wash...."

"Yeah, I gained a few pounds. So what? I could lose the weight whenever I want..."

Until, eventually, there is no denying it. Their waistline continued to expand as they settled into their new lifestyle and they are deliciously, undeniably F A T .

You know what? Sure.

My husband was a football player! He always gained a bit of weight in the off season. After graduation it was always the off season, and you can guess what happened…

Fun Fact #1: My husband now outweighs me by nearly 200lbs.

Fun Fact #2: My husband ran a half marathon with me last year.

Two things can be true! I’m a firm believer in the fact that you can be healthy, and dare I say athletic, at any size.

I’m a soft feedism girly who doesn’t view someone gaining weight as them “ruining” themselves. I know that’s a thing! It’s just not for me. So, that’s not the appeal here. What is the appeal, then?

That my giant ex-jock husband can eat an entire pizza quicker than I can eat two slices and then throw me around like a rag doll in the bedroom.

That he can do push-ups with me sitting cross-legged on his back and it makes me feel dainty.

I work in healthcare, so I know very well how harmful being overweight can be for someone’s health (and no, you won’t convince me otherwise). As much as I enjoy seeing someone gain (and I’m not slim myself, I love food too), I feel conflicted because I don’t want to ruin anyone’s health. How do you deal with it?

I am not engaging with anything that includes the phrase “and no, you won’t convince me otherwise.”

#10: What’s the hottest thing you find about feedees?

Hedonism. Gluttony. Indulgence.

In a world that is all about denying yourself pleasure, whether we're talking about food or sex, it's refreshing to see someone go against that. Furthermore, it's HOT.

Someone who loves food and unabashedly asks for seconds and flaunts their stuffed belly? Swoon.