#aranchamora

I feel like a lot of the lessons and topics in the subject just keep looping around each other.

like a completely non-linear journey

or maybe i just think the idea of emotional intelligence is just so relevent to everything.

as part of EQ goes, i think something i need to work on is how critical i can be.

i don’t think being critical is inherently bad.

but it can be bad, especially if people aren’t in good spaces to hear that.

so i try to apply strategies, like the ‘shit sandwich’ a concept i learnt about in art school.

we would have to give each other critique on each others work.

so you would:

say something you like

comment about what you dont or what could improve

and then something positive again.

making a neat little shit sandwich so to speak.

i think its this thing of knowing that although my intention is not to make people feel bad or feel like they are incompetant. its often because i want people to be better or that i have this perspective of looking at how things can be inproved all the time. 

but this can: 

rupture rapport

hurt feelings

cause conflict

be counter intuitive. 

people can assume that I’m wanting to be antagonistic

and so i think its actually not about intent, and focusing on that and what the impact actually is. 

I feel like this quality can also get me kind of stuck. because i don’t know if i should say what i think or not. and then i don’t feel like i am being true to myself. but i worry that if i do speak up, then people might assume that me being critical means that I’m a negative person.