growing up i had a lot of internalized acephobia; even when i identified as ace — and to be clear, i still do identify as ace — at one point i identified as a heteroromantic asexual and i didn’t count myself as part of the lgbt+ community because no one else did, no one thought i belonged there so i was just an ally for the longest time and i’d almost completely forgotten until i read that post

i still had a lot of it actually, like a while back i read a post that was like “would you consider a heteroromantic bisexual straight? heterosexual homoromantic?? how about an aromantic pansexual? [edit: sorry, i meant to write heteroromantic pansexual not aromantic pansexual my brain is so mixed up] no? so why isn’t an heteroromantic ace/aromantic heterosexual one?” and i was like ah fuck because i’d honestly never considered that idea at all but my immediate answer to the first three was “yeah” which. speaks volumes about how aro &/or ace people are thought of tbh

and as an aro ace, i still feel “less queer” than other lgbt+ people who aren’t aro &/or ace

when i identified as bi ace (right after identifying as het ace), i was happier because now i felt like i had a valid reason to belong in an lgbt+ space

also on the q slur — i don’t like how generalized it’s become?? not mainstream, exactly, bc that’s ridiculous, but “queer people” “the queer community” etc. reclaiming it, you’re 100% free to describe yourself that way but you’re also applying it to other people who may or may not be comfortable with that, and it’s gotten to the point where it’s strange that you wouldn’t want to reclaim this slur that has been used to insult you and your identity for ages

breaking hiatus for this ask ‘cause my last exam is tomorrow! i’ll answer other messages later i promise :) don’t be sorry for asking questions, anon!

this is such a hard question omg also it depends on whether you mean most quality, most fav in terms of personal preference, and top 5 i’d rec to people

i’ll go with personal preferences!! bulleted because i cannot order things

Wintergirls by Laurie Halse Anderson - tw: anorexia, self harm / this is so gorgeously written it’s absolutely beautiful and poetic i adore it and it was the first anderson book i really really liked (speak was great but it didn’t strike me as much)

A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini - tw: domestic abuse / okay this book is about the women in afghanistan from like the late 1970s to early 2000s (idk only really the last bit is in the 2000s) and i loved the friendship in it it was really tragic and kind of terrifying to read (reminds me of what a wwii memoir would be like)

The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath - tw: depression, suicide / because i must rec at least one classic. this is actually the only plath thing i’ve ever read because i suck and it’s a very strange and haunting and eerie book but i liked it a lot + it’s plath you know i could tell she was writing so much about herself and how she felt

More Than This by Patrick Ness - tw: death / i am NESS TRASH if you liked chaos walking you’ll like this!! this is a standalone and it’s actually a sci-fi sort of thing without you completely realizing it and it’s so interesting because it’s not written in a typical sci-fi way?? yeah note the writing is very choppy/fragmented and scenes are short (a lot like chaos walking, but not as pronounced) so if you don’t like that i don’t recommend it

The Blind Assassin by Margaret Atwood - tw: suicide / another classic because i adore atwood and it’s the first atwood book i read. it’s an unreliable narrator book and i also love that trope but aside from that, i loved it because the other story about xenon (which is not even real it is a story written by characters in a story written by a character in the story ok nvm) was so interesting and the story-within-a-story was so interesting!!

thanks for asking c:

no, snapchat isn’t banned in china (i have it) and irma doesn’t have it bc haha methods of communication?? what are those

life is good but who are you i can’t remember a single person who has ever called irma that