so, as someone who is not stone who has loved many stone people in my life including the very first person i was ever sexually intimate with, i think we need to have some talk around how to handle a.) people who put pressure on stone folks to accept something they don't like and b.) what people are actually attempting to communicate (albeit harmfully) when they do that so maybe you can try and find a better way to get on the same page.
because i find the central conflict for me is needing reassurance that my partner's enjoyment is real. y'know, that's why i go nuts for moans and whimpers and sighs and twitches and breeding kink omg. telling me if you got off to me later. i want to know for sure where the connection is between my desire and theirs.
but the idea that reciprocity means that your partner has to enjoy what you like in the way that you enjoy it is not really equitable. the love is in taking the time to discover what works for each other and how you can meet each other where you're at. if you get invested in certain acts as the only way you can exhibit proof of your affection, that's not about them, that's about you. and you need to be honest with yourself about basic issues of compatibility, because there's a good reason we use the word "stone" for these identities.
it takes tremendous stress, and heat, and pressure to melt real stone. and you need to be with someone you trust to ask when they really need something from you.
hopefully the stone and the soft ones can still come together in mutual respect.
