I like to think that they can adjust the sensitivity of various parts of their bodies.
Partner has a wheel kink or something? Turn the sensitivity of those wheels way up and make them an erogenous zone. Same with rotors or wings or whatever.
And they should be able to connect a separate object, whether with wires or maybe a wireless connection. This could be a sex toy or something, but it could also be something like Optimus Prime's trailer. Optimus Prime's partner could be touching the temporarily erogenous parts of the trailer while he is watching from a short distance away or something.
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