#ally tip

It's ok to mess up on pronouns. As long as you're doing your best, we appreciate it. When you do mess up though, avoid making a big deal of it. When you repeatedly apologize or freak out about it, it draws more attention than needed to the slip up and makes us feel worse. Its way better to quickly correct yourself and move on. We appreciate your effort more than you think.

No: "And then she- oh shit sorry! I meant he! Then he! Oh my god I'm so sorry! I've been trying really hard to use he! Its just difficult, ya know? Please don't be mad at me or cry!"