Sorry that you're being targeting and held up as an example of a white fan who apparently talks over fans of colour and has issues with Latinx men. I'm not sure where this is coming from, but it's interesting how people who claim they're tired of drama and just want to ship their ship in peace and get along with other fans, are always finding ways to start some nonsense.
Thank you for this message and Iām quite touched by all the people whoās stood up for me.Ā
I canāt help laughing at it all though, because it feels so deeply surreal. Like I traveled back in time, am 14 years old and in middle school again, as the OPās behavior and methods reminds of the people who bullied me back then.
Well I grew up. Other people perhaps, did not.
Why me? I canāt say for certain of course. Iām neither a Jedi nor Charles Xavier, I canāt read minds. But Iām wondering if weāre not back to the default as to why this group starts wank, theyāve been faced with the fact that theyāre extremely unlikely to get what theyāve been trying to convince themselves for over a year would happen.
In this case it was the interview with Rian Johnson, which promoted the ReySky theory (so Rey and Kylo will end up cousins and certainly not get together in canon ever, no matter what else happens) and the fact that Rian talked only about Finn, Rey, Poe and Luke, that the movie is going to focus them and that Rey and Luke are going to have theĀ ākey relationshipā, not Rey and Kylo. In fact, Rian didnāt even mention Kylo in any capacity, it must have been very disheartening given how much theyāve convinced themselves that he is the central character in the ST.
But this completely sidelined any theory theyāve had and really underlines that Kylo is really only in the ST as an antagonist. This story isnāt his, itās not about him, itās about Finn, Poe, Rey and Luke. Which is exactly what this group is afraid of and everything theyāve been trying to get away from for the past year and change. Now they have to face the facts, that Kylo is there are Finn and Reyās narrative foil, that the story of the ST isnāt his story, isnāt about him except as the villain of the piece.
So why me? I think I was just a convenient target. Someone who was loud and insistent at a point where they needed someone to attack, so I got picked. Not saying the OP of that post did it consciously, in fact Iām sure it was entirely unconscious and if faced with this argument is going to deny it vehemently.
But the fact remains that this group have collectively succeeded in convincing themselves that the ST is about Kylo and Rey and that everyone else is entirely incidental and the interview with Rian debunked that big time.Ā
This realization must have been very painful for them and I was waiting for a big backlash, though I didnāt think Iād be figuring quite this prominently in it. But itās been happening every single time official sources sidelines Kylo and his āimportanceā - such as the interview with Daisy where it was heavily hinted that the romance in the ST is between friends. Importance here defined as the role they have given him as a lead character, rather than the one heās given in the movie which is that of the villain.
So I was waiting to see what would be happening this time. I suppose Iām honored in a way that I get to figure this prominently, I must be more important than I thought to warrant this much attention. Or maybe Iām just the incidental victim, who knows. Still impressed with OPās dedication though.
And these people donāt want peace, they want canon to comply with their wishes. Whenever it gets clear that canon will not be doing that, they start wank because they have no healthy outlets for their frustration. Theyāve build too much of their shipping around the idea that it must become canon, a mentality that Iāll never fully understand.
Maybe this is why I feel back in middle school again, itās the same damn behavior I saw in other teens when things didnāt turn out the way they had thought it would, or they were faced with rightful accusations of wrongdoings that they couldnāt get out of, and didnāt have any healthy coping mechanisms for it, they located a target to scapegoat on. I was often that target as I have always been loud and called attention to myself.Ā
Eh, I learned to deal. I just wish other people would get out of that middle school mentality too and find more constructive ways of dealing with emotional distress. I mean, how much couldnāt this person have created in the time it took them to obsessively stalk through my blog and write all that. Man I wish I had that kind of time available to me, my wip list would be a whole lot shorter by now and Iām not even that fast a writer.
Also this from a group that accuses āantisā (whoever that is and it such a nice and vague term that they can twist into meaning any group of people they donāt like) of being obsessed? Pot, meet kettle.
Iām keeping all of this as receipts for next time I hear that argument from this group.
Thanks again for your message, it meant a lot. And sorry for getting so longwinded on this, this is my second night with about 2 hours of sleep, sleep deprivation tends to make me rambly.