#ace chattering

this is... a complicated question, ahaha. but i’ll try my best to answer it! 

the easy answer to the first question is yes. i am nonbinary-- specifically, a demigirl. for those who don’t know what being demigirl is, it’s a subsection of the term demigender, which is an umbrella term for nonbinary gender identities that have a partial connection to a certain gender(s). however, i was assigned female at birth. 

this is where it gets complicated for me. i’m iffy about using the word ‘trans’ for myself-- it’s a personal thing thats complicated, but the short answer is that i prefer to be called nonbinary or nb female bc on some level i do connect with my agab, but at the same time i dont. ((let me know if you want me to expand upon this)) 

anyways thats a tangent 

so i do experience dysphoria, but not the commonly misinterpreted definition that dysphoria automatically means discomfort. ((occasionally i do experience discomfort)) dysphoria means a disconnect from your agab, and in a lot of people that shows itself as discomfort or dislike of their own body because they feel it doesn’t match their gender 

so when im feeling dysphoric (specifically i’m uncomfortable with my body bc i dont feel like it matches my gender) i wear big, oversized clothes. if i cant see it my body cant bother me and i’ll feel like people won’t see my body as well. during periods of dysphoria, (where i specifically don’t feel connected to the ‘girl’ part of myself, more to the nonbinary part) i dress more androgynous for my own personal comfort. i also reaffirm that i dont have to like or dislike my body-- i can simply see my body as well. me. it’s sort of like how you don’t dislike or like how your brain looks-- it’s just a brain. my body is me, and just because i have a vagina and boobs doesn’t make my gender any less valid or real! 

for more severe dysphoria, i recommend buying clothes that will make you feel more comfortable in your body and more valid in your gender. buy or look for organizations in your area that donate binders, cups, and padding. do something that makes you feel more connected to your gender like painting your nails or letting your body hair grow! consider getting a haircut that you want; it will help u feel more in control 

hm,,, it’s been a couple years since i knew i was ace but ill try my best!

there was really no “eureka!” moment of ‘holy hell im asexual’ but more of a gradual period time where i recognized that there was something different about me than my friends and family. i started realizing that i was different late in middle school, and middle school as yall know is super sexualized. theres dirty jokes around every corner and whispers in the hall about who’s had sex and who’s the hottest, and that was really where i started to know i was asexual. mind you, i didn’t have a word for it, but i knew that i didn’t find things sexy that other people did. 

i remember one time a couple of my peers were talking about who was the most attractive and ranking people in terms of how willing they would be to do the hanky panky with them, and i was just kind of confused. how could you just look at someone and decide that you would do the horizontal tango??? boobs and butts were just sacks of flesh that hung weirdly, and people found that... arousing??? not gonna lie, after this experience i spent a lot of time just looking at people’s boobs and butts and trying to see if i could feel that “want” that my friends described, but i just couldn’t. 

so. i knew that there was something weird with me. i didnt find people attractive in a sexual way; you could show me the world’s sexiest person alive and i would just look at them and be like ‘,,,,they’re very pretty?’ i did some research, aka i typed into google ‘am i gay’ quizzes and took em. eventually i found one that said ‘hey u might be asexual!’ so then i did more research and found out that the definition of asexual was ‘lacking sexual attraction.’ i’d heard the word before at my school’s qsa, but i had never really grasped the concept; i thought it meant that you didn’t feel any sexual feelings like arousal or anything. so i dived deeper into the internet and found this faq that cleared things up for me. asexual means you don’t have the desire or attraction to have sex with anyone. like a straight woman will find other women to be beautiful, but she doesn’t have the desire to do the diddly doo with them. that lack of sexual attraction was just how i felt all the time. 

asexuals can still get turned on though. i know this is a hard concept, but just because you’re asexual doesn;t mean that you don’t have a sexual libido or kinks and fetishes or turn ons. (a libido isan urge for sexual contact/release. It's possible to have a libido, but not have it directed toward anyone). 

roostee toostee-Today at 6:09 PM

ASPEC UNITE

badgertablet-Today at 6:24 PM

So some people have told me I'm pretty... does that mean I'm acethetic

roostee toostee-Today at 6:25 PM

wow

badgertablet-Today at 6:26 PM

that pun was pretty badace am i right

roostee toostee-Today at 6:26 PM

i

badgertablet-Today at 6:27 PM

so is that a yace or a no

roostee toostee-Today at 6:28 PM

im disowning you

Uni-Today at 6:28 PM

hA

roostee toostee-Today at 6:28 PM

because i literally cannot come up with any good puns

badgertablet-Today at 6:28 PM

frick i cant make an ace pun out of that 

good thing i have an ace up my sleeve 

points at arm

Uni-Today at 6:28 PM

im drawing a blank here too oops

badgertablet-Today at 6:28 PM

i did not ace that pun now did i

Uni-Today at 6:29 PM

Punch me in the f-ace so hard i get shot into sp-ace

badgertablet-Today at 6:30 PM

nooo I won't I'm a p-aceifist for those that want me to stop there is no ace-scape

roostee toostee-Today at 6:33 PM

im aceshamed of you

Uni-Today at 6:33 PM

I cant even begin to think of any witty puns to top the ace-thetic one omg

badgertablet-Today at 6:34 PM

pff i'm the ace pun master lol

Uni-Today at 6:35 PM

Im the master of uh.... Im not really the master of any pun tbh

roostee toostee-Today at 6:36 PM

man im sucking ace at these 

punsbetter said aloud.txt

Uni-Today at 6:36 PM

LOL

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