Hey. I’m a closeted NB and I have to give my gender for something that my family may or may not see in the mail. I want to give my correct gender but I feel like it might be easier rn to just give my agab...I don’t want to because it feels wrong but I also don’t want to accidentally be outed before I’m ready. I know this is ultimately up to me, but do you have any advice?? Thanks
It would most likely be easier to put your agab on the form but (depending on the person), it would be easier to put nonbinary. You could ask yourself some questions to try to determine what is best.
1. How difficult would it be if your parents did find out?
2. Do you have a support system if you were accidentally outed?
3. Is this a legal document? (Some require agab gender markers, depending on the country or state.)
4. Can you describe how you would feel if you were to use your agab? What about if you were to use nonbinary?
5. Think about the realistic outcome of both scenarios. How do you feel? What are the pros and cons of both?
Whether or not you write nonbinary on the form, it doesn’t deny your identity.
-Mod Zay
