If you’re on Aether Data Center, look for Tankittude on the Fellowship Finder~! We’re set under Friend Making, Casual, and Novice Support. If you’d like an invite then go ahead and message me at Rose Kishitani in game, or rlervine on tumblr with your character name.

Then from there, if you’d like to join the Cross-world Linkshell, go ahead and send a PM to me as well, or just post on the message board. :D

Can’t wait to meet you all~!

:/ yeah I dont understand it either, if the healer is asking, it means they know their own limitations and what they can handle. Or maybe they're too sick to handle a large pull and just want a nice and relaxing run.

Honestly, small pulls dont take that long. And if you dont have the time, then dont que and do it when you do have time.

(Also trying to answer in mobile sucks, it posts without an answer if you're not careful XD)

- mod rose

Come join us~!

But who cares if a tank makes a mistake, who cares if people make mistakes? We’re HUMAN, we all make mistakes. Why would you yell at someone for one simple mistake or if it’s not up to “your” extremely high and mighty standards or part of the meta. Who cares if they’re not DPSing as high as “you” like. Who cares if it’s not going as fast as “You” like. We’re still clearing these damn dungeons and raids aren’t we?

Especially if you’re with PuGs, expect different play styles. If you don’t like that, then clearly state what you want, so we know which Party Finder to avoid.

At the same time, I have to let you guys know. Don’t let one bad experience ruin your fun of something you enjoy. Block these people, leave if you have to. There’s no shame in leaving and not taking their abuse. Ignore them too, because at the end. You love what you do, you’re doing something you love. DO NOT LET SOMEONE ELSE RUIN YOUR FUN, DON’T LET THEM TAKE AWAY SOMETHING YOU LOVE.

Because you’re just letting them win.

I know it’s easier said than done, but as Tanks and as Healers, we literally have to have tough skin sadly. So that’s why, have patience and have kindness. We have one of the hardest jobs out there.

And to the people yelling at the tanks and healers (Especially if you’re a DPS), if you’re going to scream, curse, and say all kinds of abusive things.

1. Why

2. You’re not the tank.

3. IF YOU WANTED TO TANK/HEAL A CERTAIN WAY GO IN AS ONE YOURSELF! Because if you have enough time to complain, why didn’t you just go in one as yourself.

Anyways, I just had to let this out. I’ve been noticed this trend lately where people stopped playing as a healer or a tank especially all because of one bad experience and keep reliving that same experience.

And hey think of it this way, you’re the tank. If you don’t like their attitude, leave. Let’s see how long it’ll take before they find a brand new tank. Tanks are super rare, like extremely rare.

This got super long... I’ve just been holding a lot back and needed to let this out.

Maybe I’m just too sensitive or maybe I’m just looking through the world through rose colored glasses too much.

Anyways love you all~! Keep up the great work, have fun and please have patience and kindness with each other.

It varies from person to person. It also depends on if you’re tanking with a good friend or not. In blade’s case, he was able to get over his tanking anxieties fast especially after what I put him through to become the tank he is. He also went through years of customer service and retail… I think he’s desensitized.

In my case I have to run with a friend or be tanking something I know very well, and trust the people will be kind. Cause if one small thing goes wrong, I suffer anxieties and panic attacks, because I get so startled that I flounder and panic and suddenly forget everything I learned, because now I’m just thinking, “Oh my God they’re going to yell at me. Please don’t yell at me, I’m fragile.” At that point I’m shaking so badly I just leave because I can’t function anymore.

But that’s a severe case cause I suffer through some severe anxieties and panic attacks half the time if I’m alone. That’s why I have to run with a friend or someone I know will not judge me and instead laugh with me at my stupid mistakes.

- Mod Rose

Speaking from my own expierence, I’m desensitized. But I found a tank I loved more than anything, which made it easy for me to adjust to my anxiety problems.

Of course I do still get stupid anxious and nervous when running something new. Especially things like Extreme primals, so in a sense it does and doesn’t go away I suppose. I’m not a nervous wreck in regular 4-man dungeons I’m familiar with, but my anxiety spikes through the roof on new content.

As Rose mentioned though, you can always try running with friends until you’re more comfortable and able to predict how something might go sideways. All you can do is find what works the best for you. And if someone doesn’t like it and says it rudely, leave. It’s not up to you to live up to their standards.

I never understand why tanks have this need to have a war with each other on who is the MT. Especially cause it can cause a serious wipe in the beginning since they’re too busy trying to provoke each other that it will sometimes cleave the whole entire raid.

And if someone did say something, they were likely joking, but some people decided to take it way too seriously.

I’m putting it under a read more because this got long, I get extremely empathetic and passionate. >x>;;; *nervous laughter*