Words of Wisdom day for Asexual Awareness Week! Really, this is more of a reassurance for anyone who identifies as an ace, aro, or demi.
All Iâll tell you is that itâs okay to not experience any/little attraction, be it romantic or sexual.
Okay? Itâs okay, diddy dandy, yuppy do okay.
I say this because the day I realized I was asexual, I didnât know what to think of it. I have a conservative family, and I didnât think it was okay for me to have no desire for a physical relationship. I thought that I should have a sexual attraction because being sexually active is the norm, but how could I if I donât feel comfortable about it? How am I supposed to be in order to be accepted, let alone be normal?
That answer is up to you, dear reader. Accept yourself and love yourself for who you are, because only you know what makes up you.
Not having romantic attraction doesnât make you a careless person, or not having any sexual attraction doesnât make you incapable of being in a relationship. You donât need to fall in love or be sexually active or get married and have children to be happy. No, you set the boundaries for what makes you happy.
For me, I never saw myself as having a phase with being asexual because it didnât feel wrong to me. Just ... normal. Just me, and I was happy before I identified myself as an asexual and Iâm still happy now because I grew to love and accept myself.
Once again, itâs okay to be who you are, however you choose to identify yourself. There are others that may belittle you for that and others that simply canât, let alone refuse to, understand why you identify yourself a certain way, and thatâs okay. Just because youâre an ace or an aro, doesnât mean youâre not valid. And if you havenât told anyone, thatâs okay too. You donât have to force yourself into a relationship or do anything that would make you uncomfortable to fix yourself, because you were never broken.
Youâre the ace in the deck of cards. Youâre beautiful and strong the way you are, and know that Iâm proud of you for being you.