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todays squish is: ADABELLE THE STRAWBERRY FROG!!!

Quackity: I made sick beats these past couple of days.

George: Yea, they're all suck.

Quackity: No.

The thing is, everyone's experience is different. If the gifted system served you the way you needed then that's fucking awesome. But not everyone had that experience.

Gifted girls with asbergers or adhd do terribly. Especially if we're high functioning. In my school I slipped through so many cracks. Academically I did great, but I was literally falling apart. And whenever that was noticeable in anyway I was shut down and bullied by my teachers.

So yes it's possible to have "privilege" and also be neglected and abused. And in that scenario, does the privilege really matter? Is it necessary for you to point it out to me? I was in gifted classes and I was smart, great. But I was also convinced that I deserved to be yelled at constantly. I was convinced that I was worthless. I was convinced that I was broken. I was convinced nobody would ever like me. I was dissociating when I was nine years old. I lived in a chapter book to avoid facing my day to day life. And the only thing I saw of value in myself was my intelligence.

And if I didn't have that? I'd have probably killed myself before middle school. I wouldn't call that privilege. That's a really low bar.

Yes, financially I was privileged. But im not sure it could have been much worse. Just different.

Stop comparing problems.

"Privilege" is a good thing to acknowledge in order to cultivate an environment of growth in the system. It's important. But it should never be used to downplay someone's experience.

And when you use it in that way, that's when you create backlash and hatred.