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Life Operating System

1. What shaped me

I grew up in an emotionally heavy environment where negativity, fear, sacrifice, and emotional dependence strongly shaped daily life. My mother’s worldview — especially her resentment toward her circumstances, fear of limitation, and emotional collapse around relationships and family — deeply affected me. I learned early to become quiet, observant, adaptive, and emotionally careful in order to survive emotionally overwhelming environments.

At the same time, I became highly sensitive to emotional atmospheres and aware of how strongly environments shape identity. I often felt psychologically trapped by inherited expectations, hometown identity, and social assumptions about who I was supposed to become.

Leaving my hometown and moving abroad at a young age became the beginning of psychological separation. Through living in different countries and international environments, I discovered that identity could be reshaped. Travel, language, cross-cultural experiences, relationships, creativity, and exploration expanded my understanding of what life could be.

Much of my life has been driven by the desire not to repeat inherited emotional patterns — especially emotional confinement, dependence, bitterness, and lack of self-definition. My experiences abroad helped me build independence, adaptability, emotional insight, and openness, but they also revealed a tendency to overadapt to environments and repeatedly reinvent myself when I felt psychologically constrained.

I am now moving from a phase of escape and differentiation into a phase of integration and continuity.

2. What I value

Psychological freedom

Authenticity

Emotional honesty

Self-definition

Meaningful human connection

Openness to different cultures and ways of living

Personal growth

Emotional intelligence

Curiosity and exploration

Thoughtfulness

Independence

Creativity and imagination

Environments where individuality is accepted

Relationships where I can be emotionally real without shrinking myself

I value feeling alive, emotionally awake, mentally expanded, and able to evolve without being trapped inside rigid social expectations.

3. What patterns help me

Moving toward open-minded and internationally oriented environments

Reflecting deeply on my experiences and emotional patterns

Being honest about my inner life instead of hiding it completely

Building close relationships based on emotional trust rather than performance

Exploring creatively and intellectually

Accepting that my old self and new self are both part of me

Seeking environments where reinvention and growth are accepted

Counselling, self-reflection, and emotionally honest conversations

Allowing myself to desire connection instead of pretending complete independence

Recognizing emotional buildup before it reaches a breaking point

Expressing boundaries and discomfort earlier

My adaptability, emotional sensitivity, courage to start over, and willingness to examine myself honestly are major strengths when balanced with grounding and continuity.

4. What patterns hurt me

Overadapting to environments until I lose contact with myself

Suppressing needs and discomfort to maintain belonging or avoid conflict

Using escape and reinvention as the primary response to emotional pressure

Believing I must completely reject my origins to become myself

Measuring freedom only through distance from home or familiarity

Associating stability with emotional imprisonment

Delaying honesty until resentment builds internally

Seeking identity externally through environments instead of internally through values

Idealizing “elsewhere” as the solution to emotional discomfort

Fear of becoming emotionally dependent like my mother

Low self-worth hidden underneath hyper-independence

Difficulty tolerating being misunderstood without wanting to disappear or reset

My life becomes unstable when I abandon myself gradually and only recognize it after reaching collapse.

5. What kind of future I’m building

I want to build a life where freedom and stability can coexist.

I want a stable sense of self that does not disappear across countries, jobs, relationships, or social environments. I want to remain connected to my own emotional truth while also maintaining long-term relationships, meaningful work, and community.

I want relationships where I can be fully known without needing to perform a constantly changing identity. I want intimacy built on honesty, emotional maturity, mutual respect, and shared growth rather than fear, dependency, or escape.

I want work that allows autonomy, cross-cultural openness, meaningful communication, and personal development while also providing continuity and long-term structure.

I want to stop living primarily in reaction to fear of becoming my mother and instead consciously build a life rooted in my own values.

I want movement and exploration to become expressions of curiosity rather than emotional escape.

Most importantly, I want to learn how to stay connected to myself before reaching breaking points.

6. What I refuse to compromise on

My psychological freedom

My ability to grow and evolve

My emotional truth

My desire for meaningful connection

My individuality

My curiosity about the world

My need for environments that allow openness and authenticity

My right to define my own life

My emotional intelligence and sensitivity

My refusal to live entirely through fear, conformity, or inherited expectations