Well if not Mona, how could I call you? I'm ok with anything... Oh btw, if you haven't guess it, it is I, 3QA ;) Hope you're doing well :) Just a little FYI, I'm doing great :D Back to question, today theme is "introspection"! 1. In your opinion what is your biggest virtue? 2. In your opinion what is your biggest flaw? 3. What is your biggest fear in life ( I'm thinking more about life fears, than something "trivial" as fear of spiders...)?
Why do you need to call me at all? :D My nameis Minja btw /Minya/. Mehā¦things are going fine. Iām glad to hear that youāredoing great :)1) This oneās hard. Iām pretty self-critical and I tend to underestimate allthe good things I do, so I rather focus on my weak points and Iām constantly workingon myself. I think my biggest virtue is my altruistic nature, but sometimes Ican be incredibly possessive and selfish. Itās a strange combination. Lemmeexplain. Iām able to give you all my time, effort, money, energy, candy, books,clothes, everything⦠I donāt care. You donāt even have to ask me (actually ifyou ask me, I probably wonāt do it). It is enough for me to see that special sparklein someoneās eyes when they talk about sth theyāre passionate about, and Iālldo everything to make them even more happy and excited. Iāll randomly wash yourdishes when I come over, Iāll vacuum your whole house, Iāll make you food andbuy you scented candles and chocolate, Iāll make you the best coffee and treatyour pets⦠I like providing positive āsettingā wherever I go and I donāt expectanything in return. I donāt even like it when people say thank you afterwards.Your smile is enough. And I donāt do this just for my partner and closefriends. I even do this for the people Iām seeing for the first time in mylife. Once I gave away all my books and notes to a freshman girl so she couldstart off the year easily. I borrowed my books to a bunch of random people justbecause I thought they would like them. Since I donāt like being in a bigcompany for too long, sometimes I separate from the crowd in the living room andmake some snacks or do the dishes. If you like my jewelry (a ring for example), Iāll probably give it to you if it hasnāt any special sentimental meaning to me. Iāve noticed that people are usually surprised by this virtue of mine xD
2) At the same time, my biggest flaw isselfishness. I get irritated when someone goes through my pencil case withoutasking and just grabs a pen. I also donāt like it when someone takes my food/beer without asking (sometimes even if you ask). My mom usually complains about how Iām not mindful enough ofthe family. For example when I throw out the garbage from my room, but forgetabout the ācommonā one in the kitchen, or when I water only the plants in myroom, or when I prepare an interesting dish just for myself, when I get only āmymailā, but leave all the other house bills in the mailbox etc. xD I know theseare all little things, but I understand her complaint. Also I hate when people askfor my notes, homework, help during a test etc. Likeā¦no, bitch. Thatās mine, myknowledge, and my effort. It was me who put the effort and time in that, and youcanāt just take it like itās no big deal. However, if you donāt ask for thesethings Iāll give it to you when you least expect it xD Iām a weird creature.What can I sayā¦3) This oneās easy xD Iām afraid that Iām not/wonāt be enough. Enough for myfamily, my friends, my partner, even for myself. When youāre not enough, peoplereplace you and I donāt like frequent changes. Iām afraid that Iām not studyingenough, and that my grades wonāt be good enough for me to get a proper job. Iāmafraid that my parents are not proud enough of me, Iām afraid that Iām not goodenough for my friends and that they can easily find someone who isfunnier/cooler/smarter than me. Iām afraid that Iām not good enough for my partnerthat heās going to find someone prettier /more interesting/smarter than me.Even though this all seems like Iām super insecure, Iām not, believe me. Iāmfully aware of my goodness and worth and integrity, but this is just somethingI often think of. Iām constantly reassessing my flaws and making strategies toimprove them.