#18thingsilearnedfromlover

1. I Forgot That You Existed:

Sometimes the people that you think are going to be there forever end up showing you their true colors in times when you need them most. Just because you’re committed to sticking by them through the good and the bad, doesn’t mean that they’re willing to do the same. You don’t have to hate each other, you don’t have to fight, you can just move on: Indifference.

“It isn’t love, it isn’t hate it’s just indifference.”

2. Cruel Summer:

There will always be a newer, shinier, better version of what you may already have. It’s a good reminder that what you want might now be the best thing for you.

“Devils roll the dice, angels roll their eyes.”

3. Lover:

When you’re with the right person for you, you feel safe, valued and heard. You can travel through life with a set of rules thats unique to your relationship and your relationship only. Nothing else matters.

“This is our place, we make the rules.”

4. The Man:

To put it simply, human beings are not all equal in some people’s eyes. Minorities have to work twice as hard to get to the same point as someone more privileged. And even if/when you get there, your successes are still questioned.

“They wouldn’t shake their heads and question how much of this I deserve.”

5. The Archer:

Recognize who you are at face value: the good, the bad and the ugly. Acknowledge your weaknesses and start to take ownership. You’re worthy of love and kindness, but if you don’t work on the flaws within yourself, no one will stay for what you have to offer.

“Who could ever leave me darlin’, but who could stay?”

6. I Think He Knows:

If your heart isn’t skipping beats, it ain’t it sis. That feeling of butterflies every time you see someone is so important in a relationship. That sense of longing someone and missing them when you just left them an hour ago; that’s something special. 

“You’ve got my heartbeat, skippin’ down 16th Avenue.”

7. Miss Americana and the Heartbreak Prince:

We’re in a very scary time for many reasons, but a change in the world of politics is vital. We as American citizens need to recognize and stand up ourselves, our communities, and most importantly, those who are unable to fight for themselves.

“American glory, faded before me. Now I'm feeling hopeless, ripped up my prom dress.”

8. Paper Rings:

Love trumps any and everything. If you were to lose all of your material things tomorrow, what would your relationship look like? Would there be a strong foundation of love, respect and loyalty? Or would everything crumble because it wasn’t built on those factors? For better or for worse, if you care about someone at the most fundamental level, you’ll want to be there for everything.

“I want to drive away with you, I want your complications too, I want your dreary Mondays.”

9. Cornelia Street:

There’s no point in playing games - don’t way too long to show your hand. Lean in, follow your feelings and don’t hold anything back. Passing the chance you have to be vulnerable and reveal your feelings can hurt way more in the end than the idea of being rejected. What if it doesn’t work out? But what if it does. Things will fall into place, but you need to help gravity  a little bit on the way down.

“But then you called, showed your hand. I turned around before I hit the tunnel, sat on the roof, you and I.”

10. Death By A Thousand Cuts:

Sometimes love isn’t enough between two people. Sometimes, two people aren’t meant for the long haul. People are placed Into your life for certain reasons at certain times to help you change, evolve and grow. The worst goodbye is one you don’t have a reason for.

“I look through the windows of this love, even though we boarded them up. Chandelier still flickering here cause I can’t pretend it’s okay when its not.”

11. London Boy

Love is supposed to be fun, playful, giddy and make your heart flutter. Showing your significant other your hometown, having them meet your best friends and doing the things you love to do with them is what a relationship is all about. Don’t sweat the small stuff and actually enjoy your time together, whatever you’re doing.

“He likes my American smile, like a child when our eyes meet, darling I fancy you.”

12. Soon You’ll Get Better

The age-old tale of you don’t know what you have until it’s gone. Any loved one with cancer is a terrifying thing, and knowing that your best friend and confidante could be taken away from you at any moment Is a pill that you’ll never be able to swallow. Losing my mom to Breast Cancer, this song perfectly, yet simply,  translates the fear, irrational hope and constant desire to make anything you can better for the person going through this.

“And I hate to make this all about me, but who am I supposed to talk to? What am I supposed to do if there's no you?”

13. False God:

Believing in something whole-heartedly doesn’t make it true and doesn’t make it right. As much as you want to stay on course and take that leap of faith blindly, there’s more than likely red flags that line the very path that you chose to walk down.

“They say the road gets hard and you get lost when you're led by blind faith.”

14. You Need To Calm Down:

Focus on yourself: your actions and your actions only. The energy that you put out into the world can have the power to make or break someone and your words matter - use them for good or don’t say anything at all.

“You just need to take several seats and try to restore the peace and control your urges to scream about all the people you hate.”

15. Afterglow

We over-think, over-analyze and over-complicate. We blow things out of proportion, take things the wrong way and hold people accountable for something they didn’t do. Maybe you didn’t realize, or want to realize, that this is something that’s on you to fix. Anxiety and insecurity are real and raw parts of any relationship that can hurt both sides if it isn’t talked about. Emotions can sometimes get the best of you, but try to recognize when you’re in the wrong.

“Hey, it’s all me, in my head. I’m the one who burned us down, but it's not what I meant. Sorry that I hurt you.”

16. ME!

Value the relationships that are so special and dear to you. Cherish the fact that each relationship in your life is different and unique in their own right - they aren’t comparable to each other and they shouldn’t be.

“And I promise that nobody's gonna love you like me.”

17. It’s Nice To Have A Friend

You don’t know what someone is going through and everyone has battles they’re fighting daily. Seeing someone in pain or showing emotions can be uncomfortable and it can be hard too gain the nerve to address it. It’s awkward and uncomfortable. But showing your support through something as simple as holding someone’s hand can make a world of a difference for someone who is struggling.

“Something gave you the nerve to touch my hand, it’s nice to have a friend.”

18. Daylight

Not everything on your shoulders is yours to carry. Let go of the things that are weighing you down - make it easier on yourself. You are in control of your emotions and have every right to make your way out of the darkness that surrounds you. There’s a bright light waiting for you.

“I’ve been sleepin' so long in a twenty-year dark night, and now I see daylight. I only see daylight.”

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