Compromises - Dec 23 2012
Compromises Christmas Traditions and Old Habits…
Christmas is coming. It is only about two days away, and like a lot of people in the United States my boyfriend likes to go shopping for presents on Christmas Eve. I don’t believe that he will have time to do that honestly, because we have a lot of family stuff to do and I personally think he shouldn’t have waited until the last minute.
Needless to say, I gave my opinion to him on the amount of visiting that we have to do this year and what came out of it is that he gets to skip out on one of the lunch-in(s) so he can go Christmas shopping. (Defeated look on face) I lost. But honestly, with the way things have been going with all these experiences that I am going through, new house, roommate (Boyfriend), as well as everything else… the debate went rather well and we compromised. He is still coming for everything else, he just wants to hold fast to some of his traditions, and I really am being unfair trying to make him adopt all of mine. If it were the other way around, I wouldn’t appreciate it, and things would be getting rather heated in the house.
So COMPROMISE is what I am trying to learn here. It sounds easy, almost like everybody wins. But it is really a lot of work. And both sides in any compromise have to give up something. For me though, giving up something that you have done for over twenty years is really hard to do. (Especially for me who is family orientated, and the “stuck in my ways”, “real stubborn creature of habit” type.)
While I write this, I am trying to think of better ways to describe my thoughts, and all I can think about is “I wonder if he actually took out the garbage and recycling? I hope he did because I am so tired of tripping over those bags and boxes and blah blah blah”. FOR GOODNESS SAKES IT’S CHRISTMAS! Or at least it will be… Stop being a chore Nazi and let him breathe for a day!! Sometimes I am so worried about the bills and keeping the place clean that I forget that he works hard and he is trying in his own way. Christmas is about being thankful and giving your time to your family and the people you love. Sitting with them, enjoying their presence and just relaxing, reflecting and eating!
I forget that sometimes. (Who doesn’t really though?)
But so far from the conversation today that I have had so far… I need to learn to compromise a little more. And maybe find some humility in these bones while I am at it.
So this attempt at bettering my writing might just open my eyes to the other things that I want fixed about myself. (Cheesey as that may sound…)
Thanks for reading, and see you in the next entry,
~Abby~
