this guide is for non-native roleplayers who want to write native characters respectfully and responsibly. if youâre not indigenous, youâre stepping into representation thatâs not yours. this post isnât comprehensive, but itâs a place to start.
i'm not the sole native voice in the rpc. if you'd like more clarification, please ask others in the community! if another native has a different idea than what i've listed below, that's fine! this is just to help those that don't know where to start try to understand things better.
naming your native muse
do not make up a "native-sounding" name for your character. names like "red thunder," "greyeyes," "whitefeather," etc. are often used by non-natives trying to signal indigeneity in the rpc, but they come from a very specific historical context.
these werenât just aesthetic choices. many native people were forced to continue these names during colonization, often by government officials or missionaries, when forced to register for census, land allotments, boarding schools, etc. these names were often translations, misunderstandings, or simplifications of actual indigenous names or meanings. they were not chosen in the way settlers chose surnames. they became permanent family names through colonization, not by cultural tradition.
so when non-natives try to replicate that style, without knowing what the names mean, why they were given, or what community they come from, itâs shallow at best and disrespectful at worst.
what you should do instead: most often, native people today have common surnames just like anyone else (smith, johnson, etc.), or inherited names from the colonization period. best rule of thumb: pick a european name. of course, some natives have traditional names used within the community. if you're not native, don't try to replicate traditional names. it's not your place. for example, i have a kiowa gordon named joseph anderson. doesn't make him any less native to have a "european" name.
*also, try to stay away from "native sounding" words for names. i know non-natives can be named these things, but i always give a little side-eye to natives who are: sage, willow, river, storm, wolf, bear, echo, etc.
how much background should you include?
itâs important to say where your muse is from, what tribe or nation they belong to, what area they live in or grew up in, but you need to know your limits. don't info-dump cultural details unless you fully understand them, which, if youâre non-native, you probably donât.
saying someone is dinĂŠ (navajo), from arizona, and maybe was raised around certain customs or ceremonies? thatâs fine. pretending you can describe those ceremonies or the "spiritual meaning" behind them? not fine. mentioning things to understand your character more is welcomed! we just don't want non-natives to write about the ceremony of a powwow in depth.
your native muse is more than trauma
one of the most harmful patterns non-native writers could fall into is making their indigenous character's entire identity revolve around suffering, pain, trauma, hurt, etc.
yes, native communities live with ongoing impacts of colonization; boarding schools, land loss, mmiw, racism, addiction, environmental harm, the foster system, and more. these are real, lived traumas. but reducing your muse to only these things strips them of their full humanity.
your muse should be more than whatâs been done to them. they should laugh. they should have hobbies, bad habits, complicated family dynamics, love interests, favorite foods, weird dreams, inside jokes, petty opinions, and goals for the future. joy, humor, and resilience are central to indigenous life.
donât write a tragedy with a face. write a person who exists, who happens to be native, whose life is shaped by history, but not defined only by it. again, having these things in a muses backstory / mentioning them does not necessarily mean it's a "bad" thing (i, for one, love fucked up tragic pasts) but give them more substance outside of that, too.
"native american" is not a culture
this should be obvious, but itâs often overlooked: there is no single native culture. there are 500+ federally recognized tribes in the americas alone, each with their own language, traditions, government, and worldview. if you're writing a native muse and just labeling them as "native american" without choosing a specific nation, youâre already off track.
"native american" is a broad political term. itâs not cultural shorthand. it doesnât tell you where someoneâs from, how they were raised, what language their family spoke, or what their values are. saying someone is "native" and stopping there is like saying someone is "european" and expecting people to know if they're french or romanian or english.
what to do instead: pick a specific tribe or nation, and do real research. if youâre not sure where to start, choose a region and look up federally recognized tribes in that area. donât blend cultures. donât invent one. specificity shows respect.
your muse is not a magical being
please donât write your native muse as if they have innate spiritual powers, a mysterious connection to the earth, visions, or vague "ancestral wisdom" just because theyâre indigenous. this is a colonial trope, built out of the "noble savage" stereotype, and itâs incredibly dehumanizing.
you might not think youâre doing it. but if your muse is always the one to deliver cryptic advice, commune with animals, feel the spirits in the air, or silently guide others with intuition, take a step back. are you writing a person, or are you writing an aesthetic?
native people have spiritual practices, yes. but those are specific, tribal, and usually not open to outsiders. spirituality isnât a personality trait. itâs not something you can generalize or sprinkle in to make a character seem deep. if you wouldnât do it with a character of another background, donât do it here.
donât box your muse into stereotypes
not every native muse has to be quiet, wise, brooding, or angry. let them be awkward. let them be funny. let them be annoying, overly ambitious, soft-hearted, selfish, bubbly, arrogant, flirtatious, whatever fits.
when all your ideas of indigeneity are rooted in solemnity or pain, you miss the huge spectrum of native personalities. native people are just people. some are loud. some are shy. some are deeply cultural, some are disconnected and trying to reconnect. some are traditional. some are queer. some are both.
donât flatten your character into a type. donât let their "nativeness" be their only character trait. and definitely donât limit how they act because youâre afraid of getting it wrong. get curious. do the work. and write a full human being.
if youâre non-native, youâre writing from the outside. that doesnât mean itâs impossible to do with care, but it does mean you have to move slower, be willing to be corrected, and know when to back off.
respect begins with humility. youâre borrowing from someone elseâs reality. treat it with the weight it deserves.
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hi everybody! my name is riley, and i'm a substance use counselor. i've worked in both inpatient and outpatient, i've been in this field since i was 19 and have been professionally working for 2 years. i'm currently in grad school for clinical social work, pursuing my lsw and my clinical licensure (lcsw). i wanted to write a guide on what it "means" to be a counselor! i will be discussing the specifics of a substance use counselor in another post. (it will be linked below.)
disclaimer:
do not take this as professional advice for all counselors, therapists, psychologists, or social workers. this is my background, my information, my experiences, and my specific expertise. this will include the basics of schooling, training, certifications, frequently asked questions, and things you might not realize, as it all pertains to me! what works for my patients and i may not work for you, so be mindful this is not a "my way is correct and your therapist is wrong," as i believe in the pct model of meeting everybody where they're at.
even counselors at my exact experience level and education level may do things differently than me, and that's perfectly fine! i just wanted to write this to give some insight if you're interested in writing a character who is a therapist, or who goes to therapy. or if you're just interested in general! i could give reminders upon reminders but i just need to say that this is all my thoughts and path in life! this is not the end all, be all. and with that, let's get started. (if you have further questions or need something clarified, please feel free to reach out but just for clarification: i'm not your therapist, i'm not being paid for this, please don't trauma dump, and always remember i'm a human just like you!)
education:
your education is based a lot on your "experience" (which i'll talk about next) and i know that doesn't make sense but just stick with me! the very basics of what you need is a bachelor's in a "social work" setting. which includes, but is not limited to (because i forget): psychology, social work, sociology, criminology. these are the foundations for your specific field of work! i'll just be talking about counseling in general, or about substance use, as i am unaware of the other jobs / fields you can get with different degrees.
if you're trying to get a "good" job (livable wage) i would suggest getting a master's degree in your field of work. though, i will say, you can get lucky and survive off of your bachelor's (like i currently am!) but i would strongly, strongly encourage further education which will lead into certifications and licensure, and that will cement your place in the field and open up the job field entirely. with a bachelor's, they often want anywhere from 1-5 years of experience. with a master's, many places will take you with 0 years of experience, up to 5 years, depending on your field and what the company wants.
i currently have my bachelor's in psychology. psychology is such a broad degree that unless you're specifically going to be a clinical psychologist or gain your doctorate, i would choose another field. i didn't know i wanted substance use specifically until i was 19, which i'll speak about in experience, but if i did not choose the substance use field, i would most definitely would have had to immediately get a master's and be licensed in order to receive well paying jobs with just a psychology degree.
experience:
you don't need a master's to get a job in this field, but you do need experience (there will be places that take bachelor's with little to no experience, but will pay you next to nothing). the best thing to do is find an internship! i think the easiest way will be through your school, and when you're picking one of the aforementioned degrees, it should be an option when picking out classes - many times, universities have people that specifically work with internships.
when i was getting my bachelor's degree, it was my first semester and i was 19 when i was offered to interview for an internship through my school. i got accepted on the spot and was apart of it even after i got my "credit" for the semester and continued for two years! i worked in houseless shelters in my county and was running daily men and women's groups, 2:1 sessions (2 counselors to 1 resident), debrief sessions with the other interns, and supplying a resource booth for the residents.
without this internship, i truly and wholeheartedly believe i would not have gotten any job in this field. it's a dog-eat-dog out there in the realm of psychology (which includes all those fields above) and i truly got lucky to get my start this way. if you don't have the time, motivation, or money to gain a master's, i would highly suggest getting involved in internships as soon as possible in order to get those years of experience!
certifications:
this has a wide range of things! i can only speak to what i've received, and what i know about. this also includes specific training to the sud field, but i won't go in depth about it until the next post i do! the certification i will always need is my cpr. i know that sounds silly, but working with people, in general, i feel like everybody that is able to should receive their cpr certificate!
now, with a bachelor's, they're not really expecting you to have anything else. but! you can. i currently have my milieu certification. which sounds fancy but it just means i'm certified in "psychotherapy in which the patient's social environment is controlled or manipulated with a view to preventing self-destructive behavior." i could've explained it myself, but google does wonders and makes me sound smart! i got this through my internship. it was required and within the first two weeks, i went through trainings and seminars to receive the certificate.
another thing i can receive with only a bachelor's (that's specific to sud) is my cadc certification. it stands for certified alcohol drug counselor. in order to do this, you'll need supervision hours from a clinical / licensed or otherwise appropriate supervisor or director. once i receive upwards of 300 hours of documented supervision, i can take my cadc exam and become certified. this can also enhance what jobs are available to me because many jobs ask for this certification in place of a clinical license (some don't, but you know... some do!)
currently, i'm working on my master's and may potentially work towards my cadc along the way, but once i receive my master's i can get my caadc, which is certified advanced alcohol drug counselor. it's just more hours and an exam! not sure which path i'll take yet because grad school is killing me, but those are what's offered in my field and what i'm interested in! of course there's other certifications involved, but that's for you to decide.
licenses:
now comes the fun part. again, what license you want or go for is specific to your field. there's a ton of counseling licenses, but the main ones that are down my path are lpc (licensed professional counselor), lsw (licensed social worker), and lcsw (licensed clinical social worker). so let me explain a little bit about each of them, and what i'm personally doing!
lpc: licensed professional counselors "are trained to offer assessment, therapeutic interventions, consultation, program evaluation and follow-up services in a variety of settings including schools, hospitals, community agencies, private practices, religious centers, group homes and more. lpc's can also independently practice counseling, meaning they can establish or join a private practice and directly bill insurance companies or receive cash for counseling services." can: work independently, diagnose mental health conditions, and supervise for clinical hours. this license is primarily for direct mental health care.
lsw: licensed social workers can "render services that rely on a special knowledge of therapeutic techniques, human personalities, and social resources. this includes: helping people become socially adjusted as individuals and members of a family or community, you cannot work independently; you must work in the affiliation of an agency or social work service provider." cannot: work independently or diagnose mental health conditions.
lcsw: licensed clinical social workers "support people through various challenges by providing general counseling services, crisis intervention, mental health therapies, substance use support, and other key services. lcsw's may also supervise the work of lsw's. they may work in schools, hospitals, elderly care facilities, private practices, and even the courtroomâsocial workers are often called upon as witnesses in court cases. the main thing to remember is that this license gives them freedom and responsibility to make independent decisions about diagnosis and treatment plans." can: work independently, diagnose mental health conditions and supervise for clinical hours.
difference between lpc and lcsw: though both are similar in their ability to work independently, diagnose mental health conditions, and supervise for clinical hours, there is one main distinction between the two. lpc's are more patient focused and lcsw's utilize a patient's entire life. to put it, well... better, i've turned to google! lpc's "focus on helping clients with specific issues, such as mental health diagnoses, substance use, or behavioral issues. they also can specialize in different types of counseling, including substance use or marriage and family counseling." whereas lcsw's "assist their clients with finding and accessing resources that promote a clientâs quality of life and may be involved in the legislative process dictating these services. social worker training usually includes counseling techniques and training, best practices, and finding resources for clients."
general overview:
so, with a bachelor's and no cadc or license, what can i do? well! i counsel<3 i speak to my patients about their substance use, i speak to them about their family, i conduct family sessions, i delve into their trauma, i utilize cbt, pct, mi, and grounding techniques. i run daily groups with my caseload, i run bi weekly groups for the entire community, and i initially assess them for proper level of care. i submit asam's, prepare treatment plans and update them weekly, and work with them on their goals while in and outside of treatment. all of this will be spoken about further in my sud counseling guide.
a day-in-the-life timeline looks like: clock in, check any updates / notes on my patients, go to treatment team with the clinical staff / case management / nursing and doctors (which pertains to the level of care my rehab is - you will not always have this, dependent on inpatient or outpatient and other factors), i run my daily group for an hour with my patients, i do group notes for them, i have my lunch, if i have that afternoon group for the whole community i run it, then i fit in any individual sessions or initial assessments that i need, i complete all progress notes for the day, and i clock out. in between, i handle patient crisis', ama's, behavioral issues, and general questions.
modalities:
what are modalities? "modalities are approaches or methods that a therapist will use to help you reach your goals. modalities fall into broad categories, such as cognitive and behavioral, somatic (body awareness), experiential (play or art therapy), and more." these vary by counselor-to-counselor. this is what works for the counselor and the patient and instead of including the quadrillions of therapy modalities, i'll just talk about the ones i use the most! (also side note that i believe most therapists, within reason, should be utilizing pct and mi but... that's a soapbox for another day). i'll be talking more about why i use - these in relation to sud - in my other post.
cognitive behavioral therapy (cbt):
i want to start this off by saying that cbt is very useful in the beginning stages of therapy! oftentimes, people utilize dbt or somatic therapy after they've "accomplished" cbt. i employ cbt due to, more often than not, patients not having a solid foundation for recovery or changing their ways. so what is cbt?
"cbt is a psycho-social intervention that aims to reduce symptoms of various mental health conditions, primarily depression and anxiety disorders. cognitive behavioral therapy is one of the most effective means of treatment for substance abuse and co-occurring mental health disorders." in a shorter sense: i use cbt in order to "change" the way somebody thinks.
things that are apart of cbt therapy (and can be incorporated in other forms of therapy) include cognitive distortions, grounding techniques, actively engaging in combatting their automatic negative thoughts (ant's), and encompassing pct and mi in order for the patient to understand why they need to change their thoughts / actions, how they can change them, and the results of changing them. this will go more in depth in my sud post!
patient centered therapy (pct):
pct isn't necessarily for everybody, as many patients may have difficulty even coming up with what their issues are or potential solutions. but by utilizing pct, counselors may be able to support a patient to an "answer" or realization without giving them the answer - i find it beneficial to voice my issues and concerns so i'm able to form my own solution even without my friends saying anything! it's very limited involvement from the counselor as far as "telling them" what's wrong and giving them "choices" to fix it.
"during person-centered therapy, a therapist acts as a compassionate facilitator, listening without judgment and acknowledging the clientâs experience without shifting the conversation in another direction. the therapist is there to encourage and support the client without interrupting or interfering with their process of self-discovery, as they uncover what hurts and what is needed to repair it."
pct is really important, in my opinion, because it allows patient the autonomy to make decisions for themselves, while also giving them support. a counselor is supposed to help, not be a brick wall, so as much as the patient is allowed to freely roam through their thoughts and feelings, i've found a nice balance between pct and cbt when the patient may not have a specific answer or understanding for themselves.
motivational interviewing (mi):
"mi is a guiding style of communication, that sits between following (good listening) and directing (giving information and advice). it's designed to empower people to change by drawing out their own meaning, importance and capacity for change. mi is based on a respectful and curious way of being with people that facilitates the natural process of change and honors client autonomy."
when i speak about "guiding" a patient to a different way of thought, or to a "solution", mi is what i'm talking about. my entire approach to counseling is not to give them the answer, because many times they may know the "right" thing to do (stay away from drugs - duh, not explode in anger, not cut people off, etc.) but allowing them this space to speak freely so i can ask them questions for clarification, let them know somebody is listening to them, and building up that therapeutic relationship is the entire point for me.
mi is where the trifecta of these modalities lays. i can utilize cbt in an effort to change their mindset or offer new ideas or "reasons" why they may think / act like that, as well as incorporating pct so that they can come to the realization themselves! it's all about balance and which modality is right for that exact moment, for that patient. it also allows me to be entirely present in the conversation. i often find myself dissociating in my day-to-day life, as many people do, but by using mi, i have to listen in order to ask questions or repeat what they said back to them. it's beneficial to all!
the end:
thank you so much for reading this! i know this was just the basics, but if you want to write a character who's a therapist or who's going to one, i hope this helps beef up that background for you! again, this is specific to me and my sud field, and there's a million other certifications and licenses for general counselors.
substance use disorder counseling post. (will update when post is done).
[when speaking of indigenous people iâm discussing ai/an]
first and foremost, this is not to be taken (by non-natives) as permission to then label people native, or not native. this is simply a guide to help you guys discern, at least a little bit better, when we say someone is a pretendian and what that actually means.
tldr: the way they identify themselves (ânative americanâ with no nation; top pretendian nations, etc.), the connection and history they have to their people / nation (this includes reconnecting / ânewâ natives), how well known ânativesâ =/= being native, and a brief mention of âlooksâ and/or word of mouth being the only deciding factor in being ânativeâ (booboo stewart, kelsey chow, etc.), is how real indigenous people can quickly pick out a pretendian in the crowd.
there are plenty of indigenous people in the rpc, so feel free to ask me for more indigenous blogs you can use as a reference. i hope this guide provides you guys with some more insight and understanding; so you can stop asking us the same question, with differing fcs, every other week.
iâm going to put this disclaimer here, so i donât keep repeating myself later on. if youâre not indigenous, your opinion does not matter when it comes to pretendians, blood quantum, âlooksâ, etc. but, if you have updated information on a faceclaim (whether they are or are not a pretendian) please send it! education is key.
the steps below does not mean that every single person doing these things are a pretendian! (example: a common pretendian nation is cherokee. malese jow is actually cherokee!) everybody keeps asking âhow we knowâ so i figured to let yâall know what we work through and look for.
how do they identify themselves?
a lot of the time, pretendians will do one of two things.
one. they wonât ever name a specific nation. how many ânativeâ people out there just call themselves native american? they donât give any other factors, they donât elaborate, they just leave it as that. for the most part, indigenous people will always give their nations name. we take pride in where we come from and are outspoken on our nations. even cody christian, for example, who has not played a native character and is extremely ânot native lookingâ has his nations listed on his own website. any time you google âcody christian ethnicityâ it will come up. so it doesnât mean natives have to talk about it 24/7 to âbeâ indigenous, but it simply starts at naming a nation!
two. give the top pretendian tribes. care to take a guess? correct! cherokee! blackfoot is also a popular one, as well. itâs less often you catch a pretendian going for smaller known tribes. i personally think itâs because itâd be easier to look at tribal records and quickly find out theyâre not apart of it, but maybe these pretendians just donât know other nations! any time i hear somebody claim cherokee itâs like an immediate eye roll. (did yâall know thereâs also different bands of cherokee?) the biggest culprit would be kelsey chow, who claimed eastern band! the nation themselves had to come out and say there is no record of her. but that was after sheâd already taken native roles, where others were boasting about her indigeneity. being known for âbeing nativeâ does not make you native! case and point.
two contd. speaking of claiming âlesser knownâ tribes, that still doesnât give pretendians a pass! could also be you believe them because theyâre not as well known. like julia jones claiming chickasaw and choctaw, tyler blackburn claiming comanche, etc. this isnât an end all be all when people claim well known nations vs not well known ones, but just something to keep in mind! when looking to see if someone is pretendian, we donât just look at one thing, like this, itâs a combination of basically everything in this post. so donât let the nations fool you! itâs just one piece of the puzzle.
i will be talking a little later on about people who are known for being native and how harmful that impacts actual native people down below.
how do they connect to their nation?
are they from the rez? do they have traditional clothing? are they actively reconnecting (and what does that look like)?
not every native person has grown up in their culture, thatâs not what being native is, but there still should be some sort of connection to them! an example of a native person who did not grow up in the culture and has since been reconnecting is kristin chirico who is cayuga and seneca! kristin has actively been taking the steps to connect to the cayuga and seneca people for the last few years and is very outspoken on that fact. other people have actually grown up in their nation (doesnât necessarily have to be on a rez, but has had that close contact with their family and people). like kiowa gordon, martin sensmeier, quannah chasinghorse, khadijha red thunder, malese jow, cody christian, etc.
being native doesnât equal growing up around native people, i want to make that clear. there is a lot of different avenues to be connected to oneâs indigeneity, as listed above! but itâs important to see what real connection looks like when we brings up others who have no real connections because theyâre pretendians. an example being tinsel korey - from twilight! she played samâs wife. her real name is actual harsha patel and sheâs indian (from india!). sheâs claimed for so long that she was indigenous (she finally landed on claiming ojibwe, but has also previously claimed mohawk, cherokee, and cree) yet she had no active connection to the nation she claimed, she didnât try to reconnect, she didnât have ancestral grounds, etc.
there are many ways to be native. donât mistake not being super connected / outspoken as them being fake or not ânative enoughâ and donât think anybody who is loud about being ânativeâ in hollywood is. context is vital.
well known ânativesâ =/= being native.
please donât then go ask âwell so-and-so said theyâre native and theyâre an actor so does that mean theyâre lying?â not necessarily! pay attention! get a grip!
kelsey chow, julia jones, tyler blackburn, and blair redford are just some of the ~popular~ pretendians around. but at one point, many thought that they were entirely indigenous. notoriety, getting indigenous roles, or just presenting yourself that way (to seem cool, to get jobs, to... idk) doesnât mean somebody is inherently indigenous. in my pretendians masterlist, i have even more names there that you might not even realize arenât native, as well as the phrase âitâs not about who you claim, itâs who claims you.â this doesnât mean if you can be enrolled in a nation (i.e. blood quantum) but if thereâs any record of your ancestors being apart of that nation! or you actively being apart of it / reconnecting.
for example, cody christian isnât super outspoken on being indigenous, nor has he taken (as far as i know) any native role. thatâs his own choice! this isnât about that. you see him and you see a white man. but his mother grew up on the reservation, so did her parents, and so on. he is claimed by his people, even if he isnât extremely vocal about it. he doesnât need to prove that to you, itâs simply inherent. meanwhile, kelsey chow ran up and down hollywood screaming she was eastern cherokee. she then got cast as an indigenous woman (based on her words of being indigenous) and the eastern band said hold up! not on my watch! and explained they did not claim her.
you donât need a specific blood amount or look to actually be indigenous. you need that ties to your culture and nation (no matter how far back it is) to be indigenous.
booboo stewart (looks).
firstly. he can choke. hollywood stop casting booboo the fool stewart as your indian fav challenge.
secondly! read my post about him here.
booboo stewart is quite possibly the most harmful pretendian there is. heâs made it so far on the notion heâs native. itâs just words. heâs made no effort to connect to his people, to be apart of the culture, but on top of that! they also havenât claimed him. iâm not sure why they havenât come out and said he is or is not apart of their nation. i wish they would! heâs taken multiple, countless, numerous roles from real native people.
his âlooksâ are the only thing he has going for him. heâs an asian man! heâs got small eyes and high cheekbones but non-natives are so stupid they think that means heâs a redskin! this is why weâre so vocal about looks not being important to be considered indigenous. because people see someone with ambiguous features calling themselves generokee and run with it.
i donât want to write a dissertation on him, but heâs been silent on native issues, not speaking up or spreading awareness, and actively taking roles away from indigenous people. heâs not taking any asian roles the way heâs taking native roles, even though his mother is entirely asian, and he has never spoken about his culture or people apart from âbeingâ native american. iâm not even sure if he, himself, has ever named a nation or if blackfoot got tossed around.
this man is a menace and itâs on sight for anybody who is a booboo apologist. thank you and goodnight.
conclusion.
thank you for reading all of this! send it to your friends, spread the word. iâm not taking any more excuses after this.
i want to end this by saying, again, this does not give non-natives a pass to cast judgements on others for their indigeneity. this can be used as a tool to help distinguish why we call someone a pretendian, or for people to come to us (after reading this) because they think so-and-so is a pretendian because of what we look for! do not go around saying someone is or isnât indigenous unless a native person has already said so. now, we ask that nobody come to us inquiring âwhyâ we say x, y, z is a pretendian. weâve laid it all out for you. you donât have to understand, thatâs not your job, but you do have to listen to us about our issues. neewe! thanks.
let me know if you have any other questions i can add to this guide. iâm not sure what non-natives want to know, or donât know, or are confused about.
anti-native words you should stop using in your vocabulary and the racist history behind them, from a native! niila myaamia.
words included: tribe, spirit animals, sports names, eskimo, indian (indian giver, indian summer, indian burn, indian time, indian style, etc), chief, savage, pow wow
featuring: phrases not to use, questions not to ask
tribe ---- tribal communities have fought to be federally recognized and not even all of them are. this is our land, whether you like it or not, whether itâs ârecognizedâ as such or not, and being apart of a tribe is more than you and your besties getting together to have mimosas at brunch. tribe is engrained in colonialism and racial derogatory views, no matter which way you want to spin it. even when speaking about native âtribesâ try to incorporate ânationsâ (i.e. the miami nation, the cherokee nation, etc) our tribes pass down knowledge, traditions, recipes, medicine, language. itâs who we are as a people. though the term tribe is now outdated (we tend to use nations, like we ask for you to use) itâs still something weâre able to call ourselves and use as a reclamation.
spirit animal ---- this is pretty self explanatory, but it seems as though people donât understand that this is intrinsic to our culture. most times itâs framed as a joke, or something light hearted, and people often get upset when theyâre told not to use it since they werenât âbeing meanâ. itâs a spiritual tradition that is different in every single nation. it makes it seem as though youâre picking apart our culture to fit your own personal narrative because you think itâs quirky and cute. these spirits will often come to you in a time of need, they can provide strength, resilience, answers to questions, or just be there for you to lean on. spirit animals are due to tens of thousands of years of connections to our environment; you have no idea what thatâs like. (this is not the same thing as an animal spirit, which many different cultures and religions have. please do research on animal spirit guides for more information!)
sports teams ---- now this is a bit different because itâs not just a word you can use in every day life, theyâre titles of sports teams (chiefs and indians, for example) many will argue saying they were named with respect, or wanting to honor native people. think what you want, but do not be ignorant to the fact that native people were oppressed for being native. they were made into these savage caricatures to be paraded around and gawked at. these names perpetuate this stereotype with their racist mascots and using this âbrave warriorâ persona, along with wearing feathers, headdresses and tomahawks. not to mention these sports teams are run by white people! they werenât made by natives, for natives. they were made to make fun of us and now theyâre creating millions of dollars in profit. (this is more so for information, the names are still the names, but i urge you to fight for name changes and stand with indigenous people when they protest these racist titles.)
eskimo ---- this is a slur against inuit people, plain and simple. theyâre called inuit (âpeopleâ), for plural. and inuk (âpersonâ), for singular. this was used as an umbrella term for âindiansâ in the arctic. itâs considered extremely derogatory and that should be simple enough not to use, but people donât know (or donât understand) that still to this day. the expression âeskimo kissâ was a made up myth about indigenous people in the arctic rubbing their noses together and is completely false. eskimo is not only a slur, but it ignores indigenous people all across the arctic from russia to greenland. itâs simply outdated and gross.
indian ---- hereâs the big one yâall. the question of the century! why canât i call native people indian/american indian? if youâve ever read a history book, you know columbus was looking for india. when he landed in america, he thought it was india, thus calling the native people: indians. this was obviously not true, and the name shouldâve been filtered out when he realized this, but it wasnât! so who calls people from a specific place the wrong name simply because they donât want to stop? fools. uneducated fools. at this point, itâs simply a slur. this term was used by colonizers to demean us, to categorize us, to hurt us. in an example, âindian giverâ is meant to make us look like liars (where the term indian = liars/deceivers) which is harmful and racist and yâall have to stop.
chief ---- in direct relation to a native person, or in terms of using it towards somebody in a position of power. the word was taken and put on native leaders in the 1700s and people have been using it since. this is a tough one because there are titles like âcommander in chiefâ that arenât really going to change, but this is more for the history lesson and something you should not use against native people. this used to be a heated thing to say to a native person, at one point it was something derogatory against us, without knowledge about the power it holds. chiefs are vital to nations. they are either passed down through blood lines or people vote their chief in. they are highly respected and revered and are in charge of making sure the whole tribe is well and taken care of. simply tossing this off as a âhey, chief!â is disrespectful.
savage ---- now the origin of this word is about somebody who is wild, from the forest, unkempt, etc. natives were considered wild beasts that would kill and rape everybody they saw, especially colonizers. they were rabid and untamed, a commodity for white people to come look at. no matter how you use it. (calling somebody savage in a negative way - cold-blooded, ruthless, no remorse - or saying âthat was savage!â when you really mean that something was cool, amazing, awesome, etc., does not matter. use synonyms for what you mean.) this word was specifically meant to dehumanize native people, period.
[savage continued] itâd been used as a tool of oppression and quite often a slur against us; it was repeated quite frequently in indian residential schools, making these native children believe they were not worthy, they were wrong and disgusting, for simply being native. these places sole goals was to eradicate the native culture, to assimilate us into mainstream âwhiteâ society, to ruin our language, our heritage. all the while calling us wild, savage animals. itâs been used against us to make it easier when it comes to justifying abuse. if you beat somebody that is nice, kind, respected, thatâs not a good look for you. but if you do it to somebody who is savage, ruthless, wild, an animal... then youâre doing them a favor. just use a different word instead. itâs really not that hard.
pow wow ---- not a lot of people understand this one, either. the word itself is even derived from the narragansett word powwaw, meaning spiritual leader! itâs inherently a native term. this is a gathering for ceremonial purposes that honors our culture. this is not a little team meeting or trust building exercise. itâs a spiritual retreat which features sacred ceremonies that are vital to our people. again, every nation is different, they have their own practices, which makes it even more special. using it in such a mundane way trivializes our beliefs (beliefs we had before colonizers even stepped foot on our land) and in a way, infantilizes us. this is offensive and disrespectful to our culture. you have no idea what youâre saying, or what it means.
other phrases that are not often said, but if you hear/say them, please be mindful of their past. (i suggest looking them up if you come across them, there are too many to fully explain):
too many chiefs, not enough indians (slurs)
circle the wagons (derogatory)
hold down the fort (derogatory)
theyâre on the warpath (stereotyping / was apart of the washington redskinâs fight song)
calling us redskin (slur)
rain dance (trivializes native practices)
climbing the totem pole/low man on the totem pole (trivializes native practices)
off the reservation (derogatory)
long time, no see (derogatory - also can be attributed to chinese people, as well as indigenous people)
calling us apple (derogatory - not often used, but means âred on the outside, white on the insideâ i.e. not acting your race)
questions to never ask a native person
how [much] indian are you?
do you pay taxes?
did you grow up on a rez?
do you get a discount at casinos?
can you do a war cry?
do you drink a lot?
do you get free college?
do you have a tribal/id card?
literally anything other than: âoh, iâd love to know more! what can you share with me?â
addition
please donât tell us about how your family was early colonizers... how they came to this country from europe back when america was âbeing createdâ or shit like that. itâs great you have these ancestors and the knowledge and history, but like so many natives, iâve lost a lot of my culture. weâve had documents, paperwork, ties to my tribe completely lost and severed because of colonizers. itâs gross and we donât care.
there is honestly so much more to say and iâm not telling you all this as a pity party, or to get sympathy. iâm not yelling at you, or trying to guilt you. this is simply for educational purposes. the reason âpocâ has been adapted into âbipocâ is because the âiâ in âbiâ has often been forgotten. i simply ask that youâll be more mindful, maybe use this as some sort of jumping block, or learning resource. i donât have all the answers to every question, but if you have simple inquiries, especially related to rp, please let me know! iâm always here to help, so long as you want to be educated and youâre kind<3