Dear Certain Big Larrie Blogs(tm):
If you are trying to co-opt Georgeâs reality and personhood and bravery to fit your agenda of advancing fuckin SHIPPING, that is harmful to George and to queer fans. IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW MANY QUEER MEMBERS OF UJ THERE ARE IF YOUâRE TALKING ABOUT 1D AND VICE-VERSA. George, AND Jaymi, have nothing to goddamn do with anyoneâs relationships except their respective own. Stop it. Shut up.
If your response is, like Woottenâs, âlol everyone already knew,â then you are harming George and queer fans. âLol everyone already knew,â when a queer celeb comes out -- whether itâs George now or when it was Ellen Page or whoever -- reinforces the need to self-police to not âseem gayâ and asserts a standard of âstraightâ behavior thatâs somehow inherently different. Stop it. Shut up.
If you are trying to use the incredibly brave and open example of George to coerce or force or suggest or hint or demand that some other person come out, thatâs fucking bullshit and you need to fucking eat some wool socks. Stop it. Shut up. George came out because he was ready. That is the only reason that anyone should ever publicly come out. Stop it. Shut up.
If you are also queer, and your response to a queer person coming out in a hugely public way, is to claim that your doing ANY of the shit above is somehow less harmful or less problematic or less shitty just because you are also queer: no. A Big Larrie on Twitter today tried to argue that itâs fine for them to pervert Georgeâs reality and truth into an argument Against the Antis and that they canât, and donât need to be, an ally to him because they are also queer, but honestly:
If queer celebs canât count on queer audiences to be their strongest allies, then what the fuck hope is there for straights? I am queer. I am allied with George in celebrating his coming out his way -- without labeling him with an orientation -- and by making sure that his act of bravery and truth is about HIM. Not about anyone else. Not about Jaymi. Not about Josh. Not about JJ. Not about Dan Whiplash. Not about Harry. Not about Louis. Not about anyone except George. I am on Georgeâs side. That is what being an ally means. I am on his side, and I will fight for him and with him and whatever else he needs to keep feeling so secure in being himself, like he said.
If youâre running a goddamn blog about celebrating open queerness, and you arenât on the side of actual queer people besides yourself and the queer folks who adhere to your personal wishes and standards, then what are you actually doing?