because i am asking

since i switch jobs a lot, ive seen a lot of these discrimination training modules. this question is specifically one where the test taker is supposed to identify which scenario actually counts as discrimination, and which is "normal workplace behavior" that legally isn't harassment.

the green around Emerson is to indicate that that is the correct answer, according to the test, that it is actually discrimination based on gender, and that "Toby" isn't being discriminated against, according to the person who created the test.

its training the person who takes this test for an hr position to gloss over microaggressions. show of hands, girls, how many of you have been fired or reprimanded for a made up bullshit reason when you know for a fact the actual reason is because you're trans?

here's how it usually goes. Lisa, who is out to HR but isn't out to the company yet, files a report. she says that Leighton yelled at her for low sales, despite Mark having even lower sales. HR asks Leighton what happened. Leighton says "i had a critical discussion with Tony about their sales quota." HR remembers this moment from their training module, and since nothing obviously transphobic happened, HR decides to ignore it, or even yell at Lisa for a false report.

wanna know how i know this shit happens? because it happened to me! (fuck target btw)

shit like this makes it effectively legal to discriminate against trans women if you're subtle enough. this is why we get paid less. this is why less of us have stable income. this is why so many of us are homeless. transmisogyny is a systemic issue that festers its way into every facet of society, so much so that most people don't even realize its there. they can't even recognize it when its staring them in the face

-> Homoerotic friendships eat FREE.

-> Couples pay double charge.

-> Lesbians eat free. Single or coupled.

A doctor guides a family through the loss of a loved one, helping them express their pain. She coughs discreetly into a hankerchief, so that the petals of her own Grief Flowers aren't distracting.

Thus, you keep the intensity (feeling so strongly you choke) and stakes (you will die if this isn't dealt with) without some nasty subtext (if you don't love someone back you'll kill them with your apathy!!!) and with the possibility for a happy ending (you've stopped treating them like an idol, in all senses of the word, and love them as a person). This also means you can get hanahaki for someone you are actively in a relationship with.

abuse in caregiving professions (like teaching or nursing) is not solely a result of power dynamics. it's also because people who go into those professions often have a idea of themselves as Good People, and are consequently incapable of recognising or acknowledging when they've hurt someone else. instead, they mentally put 'people who have inconvenienced me' into the Bad People box so they can freely abuse them while maintaining their moral high ground.

i read ross greene a lot when i was working with "difficult" or "behaviourally challenged" children. his refrain is "kids do well if they can" - meaning, in short, that most kids act out only when the demands of a situation exceed their capabilities. punishing them for this is not only cruel but also completely pointless, because they also don't want to be doing what they are doing.