because i am asking

If you have sexual dysfunction, its considered a taboo, a hush-hush condition, something to never be spoken of. A failure, a humiliation.

All of the "can't get them wet", "can't get them to orgasm," "can't get it up in bed", "only lasts two minutes in bed" jokes, dismissing the real people with sexual dysfunction, the real people struggling. How do you think they feel, hearing these "jokes"?

If you have fertility complications, it's considered something to be pitied for, a "failure of a man", "failure of a woman", "failure of a person", a "waste of your genetic line."

If you have complications with urination or defecation, it's considered gross or belittling. Nobody wants to hear about it, nobody wants to acknowledge it, and God forbid you have an accident in public - then everyone's eyes are on you, judging or pitying.

And menstrual & perinatal disabilities just aren't taken seriously. If you have debilitating menstrual cycles, for example, its brushed off as "typical" or "an exaggeration."

Raise your hand if you've never had your bladder and/or bowels release due to a seizure. Or if your seizures aren't somehow affected by/have an affect on your menstrual cycle. Or if your meds/seizures don't affect your fertility.

*crickets*

Uncontacted Indigenous peoples reject contact with outsiders, as an active and ongoing choice. Survival International has calculated that there are 196 uncontacted groups worldwide; some of these are entire peoples who are uncontacted – such as the Sentinelese in India. Some uncontacted groups – such as the Ayoreo Totobiegosode in the Paraguayan Chaco or the Amahuaca in Peru – are sub-groups of bigger tribes with whom they share a language and often a territory. All are aware of the outside world, and reject it. They are self-sufficient and resilient. They live independently in forests, sometimes on islands. They resist intrusion, and thrive when their rights are respected. Uncontacted peoples may encounter outsiders sporadically, or not at all. They are aware of neighboring Indigenous peoples, who may be closely or distantly related. The uncontacted Hongana Manyawa in Indonesia have family members who have left the forest, mostly under duress. The uncontacted Pirititi occasionally encounter their contacted Kinja neighbors in the Brazilian Amazon. The Massaco, also in Brazil, were for decades known only by traces in the forest, including booby traps sharpened with rodents' teeth and placed on their hunting trails to warn off outsiders. Uncontacted peoples’ rejection of contact is often rooted in memories of devastating past contact and invasion, which brought violence, epidemics and death. Their denial of contact is a clear expression of their autonomy and self-determination.

“But there are dark, untouched corners within all of us. Sex can be very exciting in one moment and barely tepid the next. It can feel like love but not be love. It can feel like possession and then the person walks away. You can’t possess another person. You can’t make another person not die. If nothing else, at least my vomit fetish is mine. It’s mine and it’s real.”