Baby. Beso.

acceptance.

poem from my new book ‘transformed’ which is out now on Amazon, link is on my pinned post on my blog!

*please note that this is an overall general reading, this will give you the gist of what you need to know with no personal details as private readings provide*

🖤Jet (black):

It is time to let yourself in your feelings. Remember Howls Moving Castle? When Howls hair turned red and he literally melted because he thought he was ugly? Yeah. Let that anger, resentment, trauma, and anguish express itself. Scream, cry, stomp on the ground, roll around outside… anything to get that energy out! You’ll feel a lot better afterwards. The important thing is to now wallow in your agony. Let that shit go. Here’s some information on how to wallow in your dispar if you don’t know where to start.

🧡 Carnelian (orange):

Are you addicted to something such as food, sex, compulsive buying, or drugs? How about feeling emotionally cold or over emotional. What about anxiety when it comes to intimacy? Maybe you feel like you’ve lost your creativity… If this is you, you need to work on your sacral chakra. This chakra is responsible for feeling creative, expressing emotion, pleasure, art, and an overall lust for life. When your sacral is balanced, you’ll feel comfortable in your skin, able to indulge in pleasure without guilt, have healthy sexual boundaries, experience creativity, and feel grounded while doing all of these things. You won’t impulsively need to seek out unhealthy pleasures when this chakra is balanced. Explore your shadow self, explore creative self expression and what it means to you, identify and heal trauma, be mindful and write down emotional triggers, eat orange food, get some carnelian and meditate with it while you listen to sacral chakra meditation music…

💛 Pyrite (gold):

You crave stability. Right now especially, it can be hard to find it. Hell, maybe you just want emotional stability. Focus on your animal self- the part of you that is not connected to todays material wants and pleasures. (Women who run with the wolves is a fantastic book that helps you connect to your primal self) Society today teaches us that we have to have more than is necessary. Sure, being rich would be nice, or perhaps having the perfect stable mind would be pleasant… but you have to work with what you have. Practice radical acceptance and meditation. Live by this quote: “praise and blame, recognition and disregard, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow come and go like the wind. Rest like a giant tree in the midst of them all.”

💗Rose quartz (pink):

you want love! You’re tired of being single! Maybe you have mommy issues. Maybe you want to BE a mom and it isn’t working out so far. Maybe you ARE a mom with postpartum depression. Whatever it is, it’s time for some TLC. Right now, things might not be working out for you, but you must understand that this is all according to divine timing and your life path. Maybe you’re single because the person you’re supposed to be with isn’t ready for a relationship yet. If this sounds like you, but a giant teddy bear or a body pillow to cuddle at night. Maybe get yourself a nice vibrator. Read some romance manga… satiate your desires! Maybe you are supposed to adopt or perhaps your rainbow baby won’t be here until a little later. Practice self love. There’s nothing wrong with not being able to conceive. It is okay, you are not less of a woman or less desirable because of it. Maybe you need to read some books on narcissistic or untreated (and unaware) borderline mothers. It will give you relief and lots of healing.

💖Aura quartz (pink luster):

What is ideal for you… You’re up in the stars, daydreaming, practicing your psychic powers, wistfully living in the 5D with magical prowess… But right now, you need to focus on what that means to you. Are you looking at pop culture references and idealized fantasies about what magic is? You need to look at some ancient traditions, especially when it comes to shamanism. Magic is much more physical and primal than you think. Aliens are almost indescribable and it is hard to comprehend how they are. I mean, a dog knows we are talking to them, but they don’t know our in depth thought process and decision making. They only know a few words, and they comprehend them as a dog would, not as a human would. Aliens are like that. Dimensional planes are complex and very hard to comprehend with our 3D senses. Once you dive deep into the ancient practice and art of magic, you’ll understand that things are a little bit different than you thought. However, you’ll develop and understand your psychic abilities much better, and maybe you’ll have extraterrestrial encounters.

🤍moonstone (blue luster):

Be patient and tolerant like OBATALA

Be wise and observant like ORUNMILA

Be truthful and knowledgable like IFA

Be loving and kind like OSUN

Be disciplined and forthright like OGUN

Be ambitious and consistent like SANGO

Be faithful and loyal like OYA

Be conscious with nature like OSAYIN

Be consistent and diligent like OSUMARE

Be forthright and fair like ESU

Be selfless and protective like EGUN

Be supportive with comrades like EGBE

Be mysterious and reserved like OLOKUN

Be industrious and prudent like AJE

Above all, be at one with your ORI

May Olodumare, Orisha's, Ancestors and Irunmoles guide and bless our endeavours as we journey through this world and beyond.

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

1. Don't tell your family everything. it will backfire.

2. Don't tell your closest friends everything. it will backfire.

3. Never tell anyone about how much you have in your account. that's only for you and the bank to know.

4. Work hard in silence.

5. Don't chase men. Chase your goals.

6. Don't be too kind. not everyone has your heart.

7. There will never be anyone like you.

8. Read as many books as you can. Knowledge is power.

9. Wear sunscreen every single day. your skin will thank you later on.

10. Prioritize solitude time. your soul needs it.

11. Try to eat at home more often, the food is surrounded by your own energy.

12. Don't wake up to your phone screen. What are you going to get out of that?

13. Just like binge eating, binge watching is also not healthy. Go live!

14. Water is your best friend.

15. Education will never leave you.

16. Say how you feel once. and only once. if you find yourself repeating the same things, they don't care.

17. Everyday is a special occasion, because you're alive.

18. You know yourself better than anyone ever will. So who cares about those who judge you, their opinions aren't paying you.

19. Abusive men don't change. they just change their tactics.

20. It's better to say no than to feel uncomfortable.

21. Social media is a commercial.

22. If you lost yourself, you will find a way back.

23. Listen to your inner child. She needs you and you need her.

24. Love who you are no matter what state you are in.

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:7‬